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I think this might be FABCat's last thread

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JustFabulous · 03/08/2012 13:11

This morning she was coughing and has also had a sloppy bowel accident outside. She wasn't interested in breakfast even though I didn't come down until after 9 and she wasn't about when DH left at 7. He normally feeds her before he goes. I had to put the plate under her nose to get her to come and ear.

Her back legs are a bit wobbly and I will take her for a jab on Monday to hopefully get some relief. She didn't wee over night so that is postiive but when I was comforting her when she was coughing it really hit me that she is very old and isn't my baby anymore Sad.

She has lasted for DD's birthday but I am not sure she will make her own Sad.

I have just put a towel on the sofa for her to sit on, just in case, but she wasn't impressed and has jumped down on to the floor.

My cat is getting to the end of her life and I am not sure I will ever get over it Blush.

She means the world to me, is the only thing in the world that is 100% mine, and I will miss her so much.

OP posts:
futuresandpasts · 16/05/2013 08:34

Thinking of you here too and how hard this is . Agree she knows how loved she is xx

LegoAcupuncture · 16/05/2013 09:47
Flowers
ClaraOswald · 16/05/2013 09:47

Thinking of you today, fab

spiderlight · 16/05/2013 09:50

Thinking of you :(

NinaHeart · 16/05/2013 10:36

Sending my love to you at this appallingly difficult time.
This is your last act of love for beautiful Fabcat.

FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 11:33

What a little madam. Refused to go on to the towel as throwing up on a wipe clean table is much more helpful. She twitched a bit as she was fighting going to sleep but it was unbelievably peaceful and tbh I didn't realise she had gone. She had her big eyes in and looked adorable. Very upset to see her nose turn white instead of pink but lovely to be able to stroke her paws without it being uncomfortable for her. Stayed half an hour and then left as the waiting room was empty but I knew it would fill up again soon and I couldn't face it. Feel I left too soon though ConfusedSad. House feels cold.

Sunnywithshowers · 16/05/2013 11:41

Much love to you FAB. xxxx

cozietoesie · 16/05/2013 12:13

I expected it to be peaceful but I'm still glad for her that it was.

The house will likely feel empty. Best to clear away all her things and then go for a long walk if you can.

So brave, Fab.

futuresandpasts · 16/05/2013 12:20

Am so glad it was peaceful and love her refusing the towel . So sorry at first facing of house without her - you are very brave to face it straight off but probably feeling too wnbbly to do much else -please tuck up now .
I hope you will find as I and fellow cat slave friends have found- that we feel as though cat is often still around ... with feline telepathic powers who knows the possbilities and I like to think there is a cat dimension ..,sorry - as if anything needed adding to the many years of unique understanding you and FABcat have shared

PeachActiviaMinge · 16/05/2013 12:25

Love and thoughts are with you sweetheart, you did an amazing thing for your beautiful old lady today and you should be proud you were strong and compassionate enough to know when it was time to say goodbye. Just because you can't see her anymore doesn't mean she is gone her memory walks with you. xx

cozietoesie · 16/05/2013 12:29

Oh - and when you can face it, remember to post a couple of pics of her so that we can remember her fabulosity. (The other pics disappeared with the old account.)

FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 13:20

Originally we thought we'd stop at the village and do errands but couldn't face it. I am struggling with decisions and dh is asking what do I want to do and that helps. He has cleaned out her cupboard, keeping her water bowls for the Guinea Pigs. She never finished her breakfast Sad so binned that. Her bed and scratching post are there. Her toy is next to me. Made a cake for the kids. Hoping school will ring tbh as just want them home. A child told my 7 year old she was happy FABCat was dying yesterday SadAngry and I am scared someone will say something today and he will be in trouble. WIll try and do a photo.

FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 13:32

I don't know how to do a photo. My laptop is not helping Sad.

NinaHeart · 16/05/2013 14:38

Whn my cat died recently I went into the garden and planted some flowers for him. Actually on top of his grave but anywhere would have done really. Now I have a spot in the grass that i pass by every day and say "hello Bart". For some reason it makes me feel a bit better - although it wil be some time before you feel better, I am guessing.
Many hugs to you x

Growlithe · 16/05/2013 14:44

Might be nice to get the DCs to make a photo frame for their favourite picture of her.

FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 15:25

I had thought about planting some flowers in one of her favourite spots but feel I would see them and think it was her then be Sad when it isn't.

7 year old asked daddy if she had been put to sleep and does that mean he will never see her again. IS it quite normal for little ones to keep asking and need telling over and over? (I am okay with him asking, etc)

He was star of the day. I strongly suspect it was a fix. Flowers to the teacher.

DD has asked for an album to put photos in and I have said of course and will make one up for all of them if they want.

Horsemad · 16/05/2013 15:47

Hello Fab, just checking in. Hope you are ok, just treat yourselves kindly. X

FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 15:58

DS1 due home any minute.

Feel so sad for the children as well as me.

When will I get over this? I keep seeing her.

She was half stood/sat and fighting the sedation so I laid her down as I was scared she was going to fall over. I am glad I did that. She looked comfy and I talked to her and stroked her.

I am so upset. She was my buddy. I love her.

ClaraOswald · 16/05/2013 16:05

It is normal for the questions.

It took me months to stop "seeing" my first cat after he died. He'd sneak up in the shadows, so every shadow in the corner of my eye was him.

It still feels wrong sometimes to visit my mother and not have to adopt the brace position as a huge dog tried to jump into my arms as she did as a pup.

The feelings lessen.

Horsemad · 16/05/2013 16:44

I felt immense relief after my girl had gone; the decision to do it is the hardest part imo.
I just felt overwhelming relief that she wasn't suffering, although at the same time I wanted her back. Sad
Clara is right, the feelings lessen and you are left with lovely memories to make you smile.

Sparklingbrook · 16/05/2013 16:48

Sending a huge hug Fab. When we had our v old cat PTS I bought a stone cat for the garden that sits in her spot. It may be a bit early for you but my DC seemed comforted by it. xxxx

oopslateagain · 16/05/2013 17:12

Oh Fab, just saw this, so sorry the time has come but what a lovely way for FabCat to go. You know it was the right time, better to let her go now while her last couple of days could be full of love and nice treats, than wait too long.

Hugs to you all. Very un-MN, but necessary sometimes.

fengirl1 · 16/05/2013 17:49

Thinking of you...

FabCatsSlave · 16/05/2013 18:33

Kids all doing really well better than me and DD left the table to hug me the second she saw me cry. Is it bad to cry in front of them?

Some git at school told my 12 year old Mushroom deserved to die Angry. DS1 cried in class but teacher understood.

I thought I saw her come in and thought DH was looking at her when he looked just there > where she would come in. DS1 thought he saw her walk past the window.

I felt relief on Tuesday when the vet said it was time to think about it. . I never would have asked for it. I made him look at her today and reassured me why he felt it was time.

Is it wrong to be so proud she fought it a bit (though was calm) and was being her usual tidy self by vomitting where it was easy to clean up?

DH bought the kids ginger beer as a treat to toast her and I made cheer up cake.

I am scared I am going to hurt like this for ever. I have had a headache ever since we got home and a pain in my side and chest.

Haven't eaten all day except for a slice of bread and a slice of toast.

cozietoesie · 16/05/2013 19:06

The git will get what's coming to him some day.

You won't hurt like this for ever, Fab. With time, you'll remember the (many) good bits more than the bad.

Try and eat something even if it's only buttered toast. That's likely part of the reason for the headache.

Thinking of you all. What a brave FabFamily.