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I think this might be FABCat's last thread

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JustFabulous · 03/08/2012 13:11

This morning she was coughing and has also had a sloppy bowel accident outside. She wasn't interested in breakfast even though I didn't come down until after 9 and she wasn't about when DH left at 7. He normally feeds her before he goes. I had to put the plate under her nose to get her to come and ear.

Her back legs are a bit wobbly and I will take her for a jab on Monday to hopefully get some relief. She didn't wee over night so that is postiive but when I was comforting her when she was coughing it really hit me that she is very old and isn't my baby anymore Sad.

She has lasted for DD's birthday but I am not sure she will make her own Sad.

I have just put a towel on the sofa for her to sit on, just in case, but she wasn't impressed and has jumped down on to the floor.

My cat is getting to the end of her life and I am not sure I will ever get over it Blush.

She means the world to me, is the only thing in the world that is 100% mine, and I will miss her so much.

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Growlithe · 15/05/2013 10:09

Fab, GrowCat just went to sleep literally. It was a comfort to see her so peaceful and to be with her. She didn't know.

So please don't worry about that bit of it, just make sure that someone is looking after you as much as you've looked after her at this horrible time.

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 10:17

I have to drive as DH is taking the kids to school. They only way around it would be to take FABCat to school too and then we might not get to the appointment on time. Taking her to school would not be the best thing to do for her or the kids. If it comes to it I will leave my car there and DH will drive me home and I will go back for the car later.

Just did the fastest food shop ever. She is fine. Just wondering whether to send DH to the pet shop for some cat milk for her.

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 10:23

X posted a few of you there, sorry. Thank you all.

I will be making my famous Cheer Up Cake for the children while they are at school tomorrow. I have bought a big bar of the new Dairy Milk chocolate bar for me. DH has bought wine.

Last night was so scary when DH went out and she couldn't get comfy so I know it is the right thing to do but then when she looks about 2 years old trying to get prawns off the kids it makes me doubt myself but I know I have to do this.

WHy does it hurt so much? Couldn't even go up the pet food aisle in the shop, seeing Pet Food set me off again. As does thinking of Sunday without her. We have had roast chicken for the last so many weeks purely for her and we never knew it was her last one. Makes me smile that we gave her more than she normally would have though Grin.

cozietoesie · 15/05/2013 10:25

No - of course you can't take her to school. I'd get a hire car if you could but in any case, drive carefully or leave the car there.

And if she would fancy some cat milk, yes. Send DH out to get some.

cozietoesie · 15/05/2013 10:26

X post me also.

NinaHeart · 15/05/2013 10:28

It hurts because she is loved. And she'll continue to be loved even after she is gone.She's family.

Our old cat died in January and I still miss him, but I can think of him now with a smile and it truly doesn't hurt as much. We have even agreed to welcome a new kitten into our home next month (H's daughter needs home for her eight kittens!) and I thought that day would never come.

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 10:30

Would a taxi take a cat? I feel I need to drive her myself Confused.

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 10:33

So sorry for your loss NinaHeart.

I am so pleased for you that you feel able to give another lucky furball a home.

Ages ago I promised the kids we would get two kittens (they want 3, one each) when FABCat has gone but I have to go away later in the year and feel uneasy about leaving them but more so I feel I can't even think about it and it would be disloyal. I promised the kids as they looked so sad and I was trying to make it better.

cozietoesie · 15/05/2013 10:34

I've never had any problems with one taking a cat. I know that you would want to take her but it's sometimes good to have the mechanics taken care of when you're not yourself.

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 10:38

She has just tried to bite and claw me when I tried to put the blanket on her. Gave her some treats. Now she is asleep. I will be sitting her all day with her.

LegoAcupuncture · 15/05/2013 17:21

How has your day been with her?

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 17:42

The hardest part if forgetting and then remembering.

Hardly slept and have been up since 4am. Did a really quick food shop and then later DH went out to get her some cat milk for a treat as I couldn't face the pet food aisle. She is asleep at the moment so will have it later. He also bought her some treat sticks and she enjoyed one of those earlier Grin.

We took loads of photos of her taking the snack and she tucked in to her tea.

It is just because the cancer has spread but I still worry the vet is doing this because I am finding it hard to get her to stop licking the area. But the fact she is licking it means there is something wrong I think.

The sofa is going to feel a big lonely place after tomorrow. She always sits next to me and will choose my side given half a chance!

I love her. Will miss her so much. Can never repay the love, help, comfort she gave me way back when.

Feel so Blush to be so daft over a furry animal.

LegoAcupuncture · 15/05/2013 18:35

You've no reason to feel Blush. She has been a part of your family for 18 years, she was your first baby.

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 19:06

She really was. My first family too.

Kids just had such fun watching her drink up some cat milk and making a mess Grin.

Horsemad · 15/05/2013 20:27

Oh Fab, only just seen this Sad

You are doing the right thing, difficult though it is. Sad

Cats become such a massive part of the family, and leave a big cat shaped space
when they are no longer with us.

You've loved her and spoiled her and now you have to be brave. She'll not know what is happening, you'll be with her and that will help.

Be kind to yourselves tomorrow. X

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 20:35

Thank you Horsemad.

I feel so sick. She is carrying on as normal. Loving all the extra treats I think Grin. Still has milk, prawns and stick left. She also had a lick of her toy earlier when we put cat nip on it.

1994 she was born. Came to me Oct 1994. She has been amazing. There will never be another cat like her.

Her real name is Mushroom and she is the most gorgeous, cheeky, clever cat that ever lived Grin.

ClaraOswald · 15/05/2013 20:38

It hurts like hell.

My mum was with my dog when she was pts 2 and a half years ago. She said Kes was quiet and accepting and licked her gently as she went to sleep for the last time.

Fabcat will know how much you all love her, this will be your last loving act for her.x

Horsemad · 15/05/2013 20:52

Aww, I love her name! Smile

It will be painful for you but as Clara says, it's your last loving act. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 21:05

Outwardly she is still the same. Getting closer to DH as the evening goes on as he gives her bedtime biscuits Grin.

I know it is time. The cancer has got a third bigger and is bothering her. But my niggles are coming from scared I am killing her before she needs to go.

Look how long ago I started this thread and one poster said she probably had days. Stubborn little Mushroom Grin.

Struggling with knowing the kids have to say goodbye at 7.20am and 8am and then go off to school upset but keeping them off isn't right either.

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 21:07

Sorry to keep going on.

Growlithe · 15/05/2013 21:14

Oh Fab you aren't killing her, the cancer is. You are making it easier for her.

Horsemad · 15/05/2013 21:14

You're not going on Smile

It is a tough decision to make - if I'm honest, I wish I hadn't let DH persuade me that our old girl was ok and still coping therefore delaying the inevitable because when it came to it, I knew I had left it later than I should, which made me feel terrible.
I felt I'd let her down and should have taken her before then.

LegoAcupuncture · 15/05/2013 21:15

What a fantastic name! My sister has just go a puppy and I so wanted her to call him mushroom as his nose is brown with a pink splodge that looks like a cut mushroom. She hasn't called him that though.

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 21:31

While she has been weeing on the carpet for quite a while now she has never pooed inside until just now. I think she might have had too many treats today but clever girl that she is she did it in the little loo! Makes me laugh that even doing that we just laugh, clean up and ask if she is okay. But it must have been upsetting for her as she is such a clean girl, always washing, and a sign she is struggling to get out the cat flap.

FabCatsSlave · 15/05/2013 21:34

Horsemad - on Monday DH said he didn't feel she needed to be seen. I left it, reassured. But not too long later I just rang and proof that while I struggle with children instincts I totally have cat ones! Even though the appointment didn't go the way I thought it would. So many times I have taken her expecting the worse and it has been okay and then this time it was a shock. It is time. She would hate that she pooed inside. But she did it in the loo!!!