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I am worrying about my cat again [sad].

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TheOriginalFAB · 19/04/2011 12:27

She just took ages to get half up to then settle down and didn't seem to know what to do with her front right paw. Then after a minute she got down off the sofa and went out of the room.

She is 16. Her kidneys are failing, she has arthritis and has hypoestesias. She is on 4 tablets a day and special food. I am taking her for an extra check up this evening as she wasn't very well at all last week and had lost weight. She looks like she might have lost more Sad.

The vet said we are not at that point yet but part of me worries we are but he doesn't want to say as he knows how potty I am about her. She did play a bit yesterday though and is eating the new food we had to buy her after refusing to eat anything else.

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TheOriginalFAB · 28/08/2011 17:10

She seems okay. We had to leave her overnight but she came outside as soon as she heard the car and has eaten all her food except for this mornings breakfast. She has also not drunk lots of water which is good. She is asleep next to me now.

Thanks for asking.

She is 17 this week.

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SparklyCloud · 28/08/2011 23:27

that is a great age :)

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TheOriginalFAB · 29/08/2011 11:33

I know, she has done really well and I think she will live forever. The thought of her dying is too much to think about tbh. She means the world to me.

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Jux · 29/08/2011 17:13
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TheOriginalFAB · 29/08/2011 17:17

Jux, I need you.

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TheOriginalFAB · 31/08/2011 09:05

{grin]GrinGrinGrinGrin

FABCat made it! Today is her birthday SmileSmile.

She is getting prawns for her tea GrinGrin.

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5inthebed · 31/08/2011 18:53

Yey! Happy birthday Fabcat!

Jux · 01/09/2011 12:44

Hey there FAB! Sorry, I've not been about much - burnt my arm something 'orrible with hot oil (the splash marks are very artistic!), and I have two assignments due and blah blah blah, you know how it is.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY FABCat!! Big balloons going off left right and centre here for her, and one of ours brought in a mouse, specially for her. 18? She's got the key to door now GrinGrinGrin

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TheOriginalFAB · 01/09/2011 13:13

Ouch. Are you okay now?

I have several bruises in various colours due to accidents Hmm.

FABCat is 17, not 18. DH keeps saying she can move out next year. it would be him before her Grin

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TheOriginalFAB · 01/09/2011 13:18

It might help if I posted why I needed you Blush.

DS2 will not leave FABCat alone some times. Will this cause her stress as she isn't allowed any or shall I just leave her to swipe let him know when she has had enough?

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Jux · 01/09/2011 19:14

I would let her tell him when she's had enough unless you can see she's really distressed, or you think he's being - or going to be - too rough.

How old is he? If he's old enough to understand, then a simple "gently, darling" is usually enough. You might find you're micro-managing him otherwise, and then he won't know how to respond to a cat when he's older, and won't have learnt to control himself with them, either. You know how it is when you just want to hug her as tight as you can, but you don't? He's got to learn to stop that massive strong hug impulse when confronted with fragility.

When dd was just walking and my cat was v elderly and fragile, I had a tendency to forget that the cat had claws and teeth and was more then capable of defending herself if she wanted to, and was no respecter of PFBs! DD got scratched a few times, but nothing serious. The cat generally growled a warning first and dd soon learnt to take it seriously.

Jux · 01/09/2011 19:20

The arm's fine thanks. The nurse at A&E had magic dressings which sorted it out amazingly.

Vis a vis your ds and FABcat, though. You do know them best, and you see them together. I don't really see how you can prevent her having any stress, unless you can do the Vulcan mind-meld with her! What on earth do vets think sometimes? Obviously don't move house or kick her and stuff like that, but other than not getting a big dog, I can't really see what you can do about keeping a cat from stress.

Did the vet give you any examples? I'm afraid it sounds a bit mad to me.

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TheOriginalFAB · 01/09/2011 19:47

DS2 is 6. He loves her but I am rather protective of her and we aren't going to have her for long.

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Jux · 01/09/2011 20:43

He's old enough to know how to treat her then. I think she'll be OK, she's coped with him for a while and knows what he's like.

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TheOriginalFAB · 02/09/2011 14:00

He has just yelled at her to wake up while she was sleeping in the sun Angry. I have had enough of being a parent tbh. I can't get the kids to behave at all.

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Jux · 02/09/2011 17:35

Yeah, that was naughty. I'd have been cross about that. Perhaps he needs some little reminders.

Parenthood is a PITA, really! I'm having rather a nice time atm, as dh and dd have been away camping since Wednesday and aren't due back until tomorrow evening (hip hip hooray Grin)

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TheOriginalFAB · 02/09/2011 17:38

Ooo, enjoy the peace Grin.

We have told the kids how ill she is and that she could die at any time but it just goes in one ear and straight out the other.

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Jux · 02/09/2011 18:53

I suppose 6 yo don't have great memories yet (have you got your shoes? socks? brushed your teeth? etc etc etc; I remember it well.....)

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TheOriginalFAB · 06/09/2011 21:45
Sad

She was having a wash and ignored us nudging her. Have just seen the carpet is wet where she was. It is wee. Is this the start of things deteriorating? SadSad[worried].

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Jux · 07/09/2011 13:32

It may be a one off. See what happens over the next week or so. Sad

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TheOriginalFAB · 07/09/2011 13:36

Oh, hi Jux. I had started a new thread as this one is so long I thought no one else was reading it! She has played a bit today and now I am sat on the floor as she is asleep in my place on the sofa. She has eaten some of her breakfast which I am pleased about. I just wish I knew what was going to happen with her.

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Jux · 07/09/2011 16:14

Hey there. I've been off MN as I have my end of module assignments due, and hadn't actually finished the course book. I've spent a couple of days or 3 simply poring over logarithms, trig and algebra, panicking about it all Grin; done now, but I have to check it all a few times before I write it up and send it off. Also, dd back to school today and avoiding finding her uniform etc etc etc (she'd rather read Twilight, which I find mortifying; if it were a good book I'd be right there with her!).

Whatever happens, FAB, and whenever it happens, she will always hold a place in your heart and therefore will never truly go away. Nearly 40 years on and I still remember with love and affection our first cat, whom dad sprang on us as a surprise when I was about 3. He died in my teens, and I had no memory of life without him in it. He had been the repository off all my hopes, fears, anguish, for all my life and I thought there was nothing left.

My cats all frolic in their own daisy fields with mice and birds and fish and frogs to play with and a splendid human who comes along with fresh cooked salmon and chicken and beef and provides a lap to sit on and a hand to stroke them when they want it, and they never get worms or ticks and fleas don't exist.

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TheOriginalFAB · 07/09/2011 17:20

Grin at the cats in the daisy fields. Mine would probably be scared of the daisies though!

I have cried lots of tears into her but hopefully I have repaid her with expensive toys, food and beds care over the years.

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Jux · 08/09/2011 22:11

Yes you have. Lots and lots. [hug]

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TheOriginalFAB · 09/09/2011 10:12

Spoilt? FABCat? No way. That's why I have just moved everything off the sofa I wanted next to me so she can jump up and sit there HmmGrin.

I wish I knew why she was tearing at paper stuff Confused. I am picking bits of paper all the tmie.

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