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So many layers of guilt 😔

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Helpmewiththeguilt · 18/05/2023 05:23

I'm kind of mid-panic attack, and could really do with advice.
I've been looking after a friend's two ddogs whilst she's been on holiday. They're both gorgeous and I love them like my own. One of them is notoriously food-driven, and has form for doing gymnastics to get to anything vaguely edible! I'm very aware of this, so ott careful about making sure all food is hidden, especially anything potentially toxic such as chocolate or xylitol.
Anyway, he's on a couple of medications, and I was being very careful with the instructions and doses etc. In addition to his usual meds, he was on a ten-day course of anti-inflammatory meds (Rimadyl). I wasn't familiar with them, and had no idea whatsoever that they were designed to taste nice for dogs.
He hates the taste of his other pills and tries to spit them out. So it didn't occur to me for a second that these would be different.
Well, the meds were generally on a high cabinet anyway. But I put them on a table whilst sorting them. Last Saturday evening, whilst sorting it all, I wanted to double-check I'd got it all right, and left the box on the table for a moment whilst I went to text my friend to check. My phone was charging in another room.
I came back in to discover said dog had jumped up on the table, opened the box, ripped the packaging and eaten the remaining 7 Rimadyl pills 😢 I went into total panic. I didn't know if it was a toxic dose or not. I had to ring my friend and explain (so hard) and she was very kind, and understood, and said to ring the emergency vet (Saturday night). I did, and gave them details of his weight and dose etc. They said I needed to bring him in asap to get an injection to make him vomit. I acted as fast as I could, but the problem was that the emergency vet was about an hour away! Directions were complex and we ended up in the wrong place, so more delay. When we got there they tried to make him vomit, but it didn't work (which is weird) and they said it'd probably already left his tummy and advised that he be kept in for IV fluids and charcoal. Other option was charcoal treatment at home and careful observation. I rang his human again, and got her consent for option 1. Should say that dog seemed 100% normal, and no ill effects, but obviously took their advice anyway.
Well, overjoyed to say that every blood test was fine, and that he was fine throughout. No ill effects whatsoever at any point. So 🎉 He got home after 36 hours. Drama over. That 36 hours was hell, the waiting, and the desperate crippling guilt. I'm so so careful about things - how could it have happened?

Fast forward a few days, and both dogs well and happy. Friend returning this evening. But she's been saddled with a circa £1700 vet bill that I increasingly think was avoidable. You see, I've been researching Rimadyl in depth since, as in reading medical literature etc. It's clear that the dose starts to become toxic from 22mg per kg of dog weight. Dog in question weighs 40kg, so he needed 880mg minimum for any toxicity. He only ingested 700mg. He would have been fine! I'm certain. He's eaten so many dodgy things over the years and seems to have the stomach of an ox!

So now I'm feeling guilty I just accepted everything the vet surgery told me. I'm also upset they put me in a state of terror, by saying it was a very high overdose, when it simply wasn't.

I've got multiple layers of guilt about the whole episode. I'd offer to pay the bill myself, but can't remotely afford it. She can afford it. But even so...

Please help with any wisdom you have. How would you move on from this?

Thank you

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Heartsnrainbows · 20/05/2023 16:40

Dogs do eat random crap, it's an occupational hazard with them. With any pet really. I had a gerbil that eventually died from eating wood and plastic and the paint off metal. Not just chewing it, mind. Actually eating it. He ate a platform of his cage. Not so much as a shaving of plastic left. I bought him a seesaw tunnel and all that was left in the morning was the metal frame.

What can be a lethal dose for one dog might be nothing to another but you've got a narrow window to act so it's always better to be safe.

My dog ate an entire pack of birth control pills once. Luckily not toxic. Vet laughed and said he should be fine but to bring him in if he wasn't himself or if he grew breasts.

Helpmewiththeguilt · 20/05/2023 17:12

@SarahSmith2023 thank you.
Yes, that's a good point about night/day. I thought that myself afterwards. I guess by night care, I was thinking several days in a row when dog's main human is away. Whereas daytime care, would just be a few hours in the daytime, and far less opportunity for him to go on any kind of rampage. Also, easier to deal with in daylight if he did do something self-destructive. Also, I genuinely enjoy his company. He's my hairy friend. He's very loving, and loves me, and I could spend more time interacting with him in the day. Also I can be sure not to let him out of my sight! But, I do take your point!

Yes, I'm aware my reaction may seem extreme to some people. I know I'm very anxious etc. I've always been like this. I'm probably a hopeless case!

Thank you for your kindness and concern 😊

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Helpmewiththeguilt · 20/05/2023 17:21

Thank you @Heartsnrainbows sorry to hear about your gerbil.
Gosh, I wonder what it was about birth control pills that attracted your dog?! Glad he was unharmed. Phew!

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Heartsnrainbows · 20/05/2023 21:12

I think he just enjoyed getting them out of the little blister pack.

Gerbil lived over a year so had a good run despite his odd unhealthy diet. You honestly couldn't stop him though. Strange little bugger.

Helpmewiththeguilt · 21/05/2023 04:55

@allthewoes just thought you should know that I decided that I would raise the issue with the vet after all. It's been playing on my mind. I read the reviews, and lots of people effectively accusing them of extortion.
I think for me, it's not so much about the money, but about the fact I was left in a state of utter terror and fear, and ended up with suicidal ideation over the weekend etc, possibly completely needlessly, and still haven't recovered.
I haven't complained to them, just asked them to explain to me why I was told it was a very large dose when it clearly wasn't, and when he has no symptoms whatsoever. I accept there may be a reasonable explanation, and so I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt. I heard back from them, saying they've passed my email onto the clinical director who will look into it, and someone will get back to me. We'll see.
There's a part of me that feels I should just leave it in the past, as it's done me so much harm, and affected my mental health so badly. But, if the vet did do something unprofessional (I don't know if they did or not) then it needs to be addressed.
Thank you for suggesting I should do that. It's been playing on my mind I must admit...

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Amdone123 · 21/05/2023 09:35

@Helpmewiththeguilt , that's great that you contacted the vet. Good for you. Now let's see what they say. ❤️

Helpmewiththeguilt · 21/05/2023 10:00

Amdone123 · 21/05/2023 09:35

@Helpmewiththeguilt , that's great that you contacted the vet. Good for you. Now let's see what they say. ❤️

Indeed. I'll let you know...

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