My dog has bitten my toddler - new home needed urgently or PTS within 2 weeks

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P is a former rescue lurcher dog is 7 years old and has been with us for over 3 years and been in and out of foster homes before we had her. It was not until we had her for a few months that we found out one of the reasons she was given up for fostering was because she has bitten a toddler climbing into her bed. She also has nervous aggression with other dogs which was only apparent after a few months with us and still suffers from separation anxiety. To cut a long story short, My husband and I were fortunate to have a baby nearly 18 months after we had homed P. With a young baby to cope with we knew it would be difficult to give P the attention she needed and also we had some concerns about the risk of P biting the baby at some stage and therefore had her up for rehoming at EXXX where she came from. However we have not had any one interested and despite our attempts to enquire with other rehoming centres, we have drawn a blank as they have either told us, to return her to EXXX, she was a difficult dog to rehome, or they had a long waiting list. Further EXXX has not come up with an appropriate foster home for her nor will take P back. Our baby is now a 23 months old strong minded child and she and P always compete for our attention. Indeed our LO can be rough with P who has generally responded with baring her teeth at our LO or run away from her. We have tried to tell our LO to be gentle with P otherwise she would be bitten but she does not listen. Things came to a head on Sunday, when my LO was bitten on the wrist by P after when our LO had patted her quite strongly and lost her balance and fell on P. This took place at the doorway of my kitchen. This incident has not fazed our LO and I only fear that matters will escalate. I am afraid that our LO's safety is our priorty and although P is not to blame for the incident due to the nature of our LO, we can not risk any future incidents which could end up with a worse result for my LO. We have decided that if P can not be taken in by one of the dog charities, we will arrange for her to be put to sleep in 2 weeks time. So can anyone provide a kennel or foster home or home P. We are based in Worcestershire.
This has also been posted in Lurcherlink appeals for help

Sorry - meant copy and paste (on iPhone)

Scuttle--would it not have been better to report your concerns to MNHQ and let them decide whether it's worth involving outside parties? (I don't think it is, btw). OP seems to be proactive in trying to sort things and if you're that passionate about the fate of the dog in question I expect that you've PMd OP to volunteer to help her personally?

I'm not taking 'sides', btw. I just think that the doghouse should be a place where people who are experiencing all sorts of issues should be able to post for advice, wisdom, a well-deserved flaming or kind words and encouragement in times of doggy-trouble rather than fearing that they'll be reported to the authorities by other posters.

I don't read it like that. I read it that she contacted the Rescue because it had come into some stick not about the stick.

For all we know she said "Hi, I'm Scuttle, I've heard a story about P the Lurcher and how you wouldn't take it back (even though your T&Cs said you would), can you confirm? and the rescue replied "No, that's not what happened......is what happened" etc etc

I would be very surprised if Scuttle did anything untoward. She's not daft.

(Plus, it's not like the OP has any other posts to be outed about - no interesting ones in any case!)

BetterChoices, Scuttle did PM the OP as did a number of other rescuers on this site. She also had offers of help via FB Rescuers...There's a network of them!

Still think one shouldn't be contacting the rescue centre involved and then posing about it here. Just not on. Irrespective of "sides" it's just not on

What Mama said.

Meh, your perogative. I think it wasn't "on" when the OP misrepresented the Rescue, and what they had offered her, but each to their own.

Agree to disagree and all that.

It seems the dog is safe and now has a home, which is the main thing.

Thank goodness she wasn't put to sleep!

has the dog found a home? I can't find that on the thread? emoticon

that was meant to be 'thick emoticon'

I missed that too but thanks for the info. Good news

It wasn't mentioned in this thread, but the dog has found a home via LL.

Totally agree with Mama. Since when was MN about "outing" posters IRL???

I'm concerned that people will be put off asking for advice on welfare issues in future as a result of whats happened on this thread.

99% of animal suffering is caused by ignorance not deliberate acts, so this isn't a good thing.

ah, thanks, glad he has a new home.

Pippa has been rehomed with someone on LL, that was a very good outcome for her, esp as OP had stated on there that they were giving up and she was being PTS.

Very sad all round, but a good outcome for Pippa.

Oh good lord, she wasn't 'outed'. 'Outing' means letting people on MN know who an OP in real life. I am quite sure the rescue knows who the OP is already and probably couldn't care less what goes on on Mumsnet. Anyone actually wanting advice is just as likely to post here as they ever were. Not sure that the OP wanted advice anyway TBH.

It is "outing" Orm - posters lose the ability to post anonymously as there are now people IRL who know her posting name and can search her history if they want to.

wasnt the OP appealing for people to adopt or foster the dog though? thus outing herself.

I'm really glad that the dog found a home. No one was outed on this thread and the OP herself said she had contacted the rescue several times, so she wasn't even outed to them. The OP and their dog needed RL help to find a home so of course someone had to find out who they are irl to do that. I'm glad it had a happy ending.

As a dog lover, I have read the whole thread. I must say that I feel very very sorry for the OP.
It is plain from some posts that you are very experienced dog owners.
And maybe therein lies the problem. Most people are not.
Many years ago, when inexperienced myself, I bought a Pyrenean pup from a back street breeder. Just the kind of thing you do when you have not got a clue.
Well, she turned out to be a Prize Bitch.
But, because OH and I are of the school that a dog is for life, and because I had the " luxury " of always watching her when interacting with others, she managed 7 years with us, when she died because she injured herself.
She was a NIGHTMARE, and I might as well confess I would never put up with a dog like that again. I would not wish a dog like that on anybody.
I pumped 7 years of my life into her, never again.

Maybe should we start a thread about breeds? An honest one?

I, for instance despair at people who choose a guard dog, and also expect it to be lapdog when it suits them. Hellloooo???

Also, and this is not meant derogatory, I have seen owners who were/ are a lot less intelligent than their pooches.

But, for a family, especially with small children, any dog showing the slightest bit of , let's call it authority, is out of the question. That is my experience.

Missbehiving, the OP only has 4 posts, 2 of them on this thread. She has a nickname on here, a nickname on LL. We do not know her real name. She is in no danger from being 'outed' on MN.

Some posters are overreacting for the sake of it, any carrying on the assumption despite it being explained otherwise.

MN is an ANONYMOUS forum. If she wants to link and lose her anonymity, let her. I object to someone doing it for her. I can't imagine that Scuttle researched her posting history before linking

Here we go again. Scuttlebutter DID NOT link. Why would you say that?