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he is going tomorrow

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misdee · 18/06/2011 21:17

having just had an evening from hell with the dogs/children etc, i emailed the labradoodle hysterically to help me as wasnt coping.

just had a lovely conversation with a fosterer who is coming to collect him tomorrow, assess him etc, and then the trust will find him a lovely home.

am gutted, but am also happy knowing i;ve done the right thing to keep tom happy and loved and secure.

Going to take him for a lovely jaunt over the fields tomorrow come rain or shine, and enjoy one last mud-soaked doodle dash with him.

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misdee · 18/06/2011 21:19

btw i would've emailed smeone to collect the children as well

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fivegomadindorset · 18/06/2011 21:21

It is awful when you have to make that decision, we did to, he didn't go to far, vets rehomed him and he still uses the same vet, they very quietly let us know that he is doing fine.

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misdee · 18/06/2011 21:23

i dont think i'll check the site when he goes up for rehoming will be too upsetting.

have asked the trust to let me know costs of his jabs as i know they are due soon, and want to cover those costs. its the least i can do.

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Happymm · 18/06/2011 21:43

Sorry to hear that misdee, am sure you've made the right decision for you and yours. Sorry it didn't work out, I know you tried...:(

follyfoot · 18/06/2011 21:46

Just wanted to say you are doing the right thing. We took on a beautiful lab girl from a lab rescue 7 years ago. She is truly loved by us and we are forever grateful to the family who were brave enough to put her needs above their wishes.

All the best xx

chickchickchicken · 18/06/2011 22:03

best wishes, misdee. despite difficult circumstances you are still doing the best for the dog. you have the comfort, albeit if small comfort at the moment, of knowing all homes will be vetted and he will have a safety net for life

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misdee · 19/06/2011 07:54

thank you.

just washing his blankets this morning, and getting his favourite toys together etc to go with him.

will miss him, a lot. but know we are doing the right thing.

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2T2T · 19/06/2011 11:55

what went wrong misdee? . What a tough decision to make. How old was he (sorry, I have missed out on your previous threads as I don't yet have a dog and only 'dabble' wiht Mumsnet!)

lisad123 · 19/06/2011 12:15

Your doing the right thing for him and you.

ItsMyTurn · 19/06/2011 13:16

poor you Misdee - I really do feel for you as I recently rehomed our beautiful little Yorkie x. I have been lying low on here and skimming threads as I got such a hard time, mentioning no names, that I have not been back. It is a really tough decision to make but I am sure it is right for you and yours. It sounds like you are really not coping well and I can totally sympathise with that feeling. I felt completely and utterly overwhelmed when we had our dog. Depressed almost and totally angst ridden. Not at all like I had expected to feel. After only 9 days I rehomed her and have felt guilty ever since, even though my lo's have forgiven me and barely mention her. Maybe you chose the wrong breed? Labradoodle's are reputedly very high maintenance! You will feel sad and guilty for a long while but know in your heart of hearts that you are doing this for all the right reasons. I know I did. My mental health was suffering and that was no good for anyone, least of all my children or our dog.

Madsometimes · 19/06/2011 14:34

Ralph will be fine, and so will you. He has been well looked after, the rescue will have his full history. He just needs a home with active adults so he can do his doodle thing. Hope today goes well, and without too many tears.

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misdee · 19/06/2011 19:07

Tom has gone. Its so quiet without him.

We went over the fields and had a long run.

Hope he settles.

I failed. :(

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lisad123 · 19/06/2011 19:12

:( you didnt fail, you made a very difficult choice but it was for the best.

Im sure he will be fine, his a great dog

BeerTricksPotter · 19/06/2011 19:12

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AllTheYoungDoods · 19/06/2011 19:41

Big hugs misdee. I know of a family who took on a doodle through the Trust and their dog has the most wonderful wonderful life. Incidentally they had to rehome a previous dog (of a different breed) so don't be too hard on yourself.

Happymm · 19/06/2011 20:08

You certainly didn't fail him, or yourself. Some things don't work out, and you were brave enough to acknowledge that and sort out something for Tom and your family that will improve all your lives,x

Ormirian · 19/06/2011 20:24

So sorry misdee. WHat a shame but if you have done the right thing there should be no regrets.

I am getting a bit nervous now - so manythreads on here about rehoming. We went to see Harley again today, home visit tomorrow. How the hell do I know if this is going to work out?

Madsometimes · 19/06/2011 21:02

So sorry I got Tom's name wrong .

Things will get better, and when your children are at school, you can think again of dogs. I could not cope with babies or young children and a dog, I was doing well to get out of my pyjamas.

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misdee · 19/06/2011 21:41

Just cried on the stairs and ralph came and rested his head on my lap.

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kid · 19/06/2011 21:47

You tried to make things work with both dogs Misdee but it wasn't working despite your very best efforts. None of you were happy, including Tom so I am sure you have done the right thing.
Its always tough taking on 2 puppies at the same time as just 1 puppy is hard work so I can only imagine how difficult it must be to entertain and train 2 puppies.

You will probably find Ralph helps make you smile over the coming days, but he will also remind you of Tom which I am sure will be bring you to tears. You haven't failed at all, you put Tom's needs before your own which is a very brave thing to do.

ItsMyTurn · 19/06/2011 22:17

you hd two dogs? Sorry, just joined thread and getting confused. Hope you are OK OP?

lisad123 · 19/06/2011 22:58

yes she had 2 brothers.

ItsMyTurn · 20/06/2011 07:05

Don't breeders deter u from getting sibling dogs? I had heard this was a no- no? Hope all goes ok

AllTheYoungDoods · 20/06/2011 10:51

Hey all, not sure how helpful it is to keep asking Misdee to repeat her situation - it's all there in the archives if anyone wants to read it. She's asked for and received a huge amount of advice from those involved in breeding, training and rescue, and she's responsibly rehoming one of her dogs with a Breed Rescue Trust. I know everyone means well, but I think a little bit of emotional support rather than trying to second-guess what might have gone wrong here could be more useful.

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misdee · 20/06/2011 16:25

If I could have both dogs again I would but a year or two apar. There is nothing wrong qith tom. He was neverr agressive towards us, he was quick to learn, perfect on the lead, but needed more attention than I could guive.

Since we got them we had unexpected baby#5, dh shifts changed, I wound up with severe pnd.

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