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Why are you awake?

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UsernameNotPresent · 10/02/2023 03:30

My DS is 2 years 3 months, and he just started sleeping through the night yesterday. In his bed! But what am I doing? I am awake checking up on him if everything is ok 🫠🤦🏻‍♀️

I am also 15 weeks pregnant with #2, and you'd think my body would know by now that uninterrupted night is a gold dust in this parenting world and would just fall asleep, but noooo... Here I am lying awake, thinking about most random conversations I had 10 years ago.
Why are you awake?

OP posts:
covertcuddler · 15/02/2023 04:20

keeprunning55 · 15/02/2023 04:19

Toothache. Horrible!

Oh gosh, this is the worst pain!!

Libmama · 15/02/2023 04:32

Up feeding the baby. Just realised my partner isn’t in bed so my 4 year old must have come through at some point (I didn’t hear 😆) and he has probably fallen asleep with him in his bed!

Wildfloral · 15/02/2023 04:34

My cat of nine years got killed by a car last Monday and I am in such a state grieving over him. He really was my baby animal. I am awake all night thinking with horror how he is is buried in the cold ground... his poor little head in the earth instead of resting against my leg as I sleep. I try to think of all his lovely attributes and gorgeous orange downy tummy... but at night I feel horrified and shocked and gutted and guilty. I believe it was my fault, I should have kept him safe. He was my little man, my constant companion. The house is so empty and quiet without his talkative trilling self during the day, and his little snores at night.

Then I thought my husband would do something nice this Valentines to cheer me up... I thought he was giving me jewellery for Valentines as he took me to a few jewellery stores and had me point out all the things I liked... all price brackets... I got so excited no one's ever given me jewellery before. He wanted to buy me some zirconium earrings I liked on the spot, then changed his mind and told me 'no, no, let's wait' and I was guessing he was thinking of Valentines in a few days time, but today, no gift. No effort, some chocolates bought last minute. Really hurts.

Pain stacks on stacks.

I'd give up diamonds for my cat 🐈

Wildfloral · 15/02/2023 04:41

JeanMarie · 13/02/2023 04:50

I'm awake with an UTI.....peeing blood and it feels like razor blades. Going to the bathroom every five minutes....am contemplating wrapping a duvet round me and just staying there. The out of hours doctor left me out antibiotics, started them around midnight and I'm praying they kick in soon! 😓

Ooh I feel your pain...
A quarter teaspoon of bicarbonate of soda in a small glass of warm water plus a few glasses of water before bed. Especially good if you can feel you're on the edge of getting a urinary infection.

Angela59 · 15/02/2023 04:43

Cramp! Wakes me up nearly every night aghhh

ColinRobinsonsFart · 15/02/2023 04:46

I have damaged my cruciate ligaments in my knee. After hobbling with it for nearly two weeks it then gave up and I became unable to weight bear yesterday
so had a visit to a&e- crutches, a referral to the orthopods and massive pain meds. Was out in two hours so really impressed.

i am awake cos I am in pain but too early for more meds. and I can’t turn over in bed without being in agony

covertcuddler · 15/02/2023 04:55

Wildfloral · 15/02/2023 04:34

My cat of nine years got killed by a car last Monday and I am in such a state grieving over him. He really was my baby animal. I am awake all night thinking with horror how he is is buried in the cold ground... his poor little head in the earth instead of resting against my leg as I sleep. I try to think of all his lovely attributes and gorgeous orange downy tummy... but at night I feel horrified and shocked and gutted and guilty. I believe it was my fault, I should have kept him safe. He was my little man, my constant companion. The house is so empty and quiet without his talkative trilling self during the day, and his little snores at night.

Then I thought my husband would do something nice this Valentines to cheer me up... I thought he was giving me jewellery for Valentines as he took me to a few jewellery stores and had me point out all the things I liked... all price brackets... I got so excited no one's ever given me jewellery before. He wanted to buy me some zirconium earrings I liked on the spot, then changed his mind and told me 'no, no, let's wait' and I was guessing he was thinking of Valentines in a few days time, but today, no gift. No effort, some chocolates bought last minute. Really hurts.

Pain stacks on stacks.

I'd give up diamonds for my cat 🐈

So sorry about your cat, thats so rough. Animals just love different don't they? Plus a bad valentines...nothing worse when your hopes are up! Men are rubbish with surprises sometimes. Hope you start to feel better soon!

covertcuddler · 15/02/2023 04:56

Angela59 · 15/02/2023 04:43

Cramp! Wakes me up nearly every night aghhh

Try Magnesium supplements, is the usual culprit for muscle spasms, especially at night

BTMadmummy · 15/02/2023 05:05

I’m going for a large cancer surgery this morning and am waiting for them to o come to prepare to take me down,

MirandaWest · 15/02/2023 05:06

No reason why I’m awake but had a random dream about being pregnant (am definitely not) that I think woke me up. Will probably be awake until about 15 min before my alarm…

whybeabitch · 15/02/2023 05:06

BTMadmummy · 15/02/2023 05:05

I’m going for a large cancer surgery this morning and am waiting for them to o come to prepare to take me down,

Hope it all goes smoothly for you BTMadmummy, sending get well wishes and hugs to you <3

MavisFlump · 15/02/2023 05:07

This is the norm for me, wide awake at 4, rarely do I go back to sleep.
All’s quiet here, looking out the window there’s frost on the car so I guess it’s chilly outside.
I overdid the gardening, I am hopeless at pacing myself 🙄😊, it was lovely to be out in the sunshine. DH found a newt under a flowerpot, our garden has plenty of wildlife; frogs, newts, toads, hedgehogs. We’re very lucky.

Cuppasoupmonster · 15/02/2023 05:19

Pregnancy insomnia, plus the dog was whining to be let out. I sleep in two lots right now, 11pm-3am and then 6am-8am. 32 weeks and I find it hard to get comfy plus I constantly need the loo and have pregnancy rhinitis which flares at night.

Angliski · 15/02/2023 05:20

I’m afraid I will never walk or dance or do yoga or chase my toddler again. I was hit by a car m, have been in hospital nearly three months and am filled with grief for the body I have lost through no fault of my own. I miss my home and my ds and DH like mad. Nurses confiscated my valentines flowers for ‘ infection control’. I feel every little stitch of beauty Bd comfort has been ripped from me. I’ve also found a big distended lump on my right hand side which the night doctor says is - just a lump of fat. Really, really sad.

JL642 · 15/02/2023 05:26

@Wildfloral sorry for your loss. Cats are the best. It sounds like you gave him a happy nine years if he enjoyed chatting round the house

RomanMum · 15/02/2023 06:31

@JeanMarie I sympathise. Day 3 of UTI here and I'm so over this. Hoping ABs kick in soon. Didn't realise it happens in menopause- great, something else to look forward to.

JeanMarie · 15/02/2023 08:15

@RomanMum its miserable isn't it. I had to get a different antibiotic cos after three days I wasn't seeing any improvement. Regarding menopause ...I was clued up on hot flushes, mood swings and the myriad other symptoms but hadn't a clue about vaginal atrophy. For me it has been the worst symptom. It's mostly controlled now with a pessary and cream routine but now and again it will remind me it's always going to be there. I've the lovely women over on Menopause Matters to thank for timely advice .

Reading why some op's are still awake at stupid o clock makes my woes seem insignificant and I hope you all find peace and comfort.

Original poster
UsernameNotPresent · 15/02/2023 21:07

@Angliski I am so sorry. This sounds so so tough. You hold on in there. It will get better, it has to.

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FenghuangHoyan · 15/02/2023 23:09

@Angliski I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope that your condition improves or that through aids you're able to lead a fuller life than you currently fear. I don't know you at all and it might not help, but I'll pray for you tonight as I can't do anything else apart from wish that your life was not as it is now. Take care and I hope sleep comes to you tonight at least.

FatSealSmugSoup · 16/02/2023 03:11

Because I woke with a nightmare a La “Sophie’s Choice” and because I saw my consultant yesterday and the words “degenerative neurological” are still ringing in my ears.

I mean yes, obviously I knew before - but the words hit home.

FairlySane · 16/02/2023 03:44

I wish that I could shut off my brain for a wee while. The constant stream of negative thoughts is pushing me into a very dark place.

Chateaudiaries · 16/02/2023 03:53

Woke up because of a night sweat, had to get changed, now period cramps have started so that’s stopping me from going back to sleep. Sorry for pp having such a bad time of it.

Wildfloral · 16/02/2023 04:02

@JL642
thanks, he was a lovely boy, I keep finding his favourite toys around the house, fake lasting spiders, and seeing him out of the corner of my eye. What is the point without him?

hadenoughforever · 16/02/2023 04:11

@007DoubleOSeven BTMadmummy · Yesterday 05:05
I’m going for a large cancer surgery this morning and am waiting for them to o come to prepare to take me down,

Hope all goes well for you.

My DD has dropped out of Uni of Edinburgh, she was adamant all last year she wanted to do Philosophy there. My DB is collecting her. I don’t what she should do now having missed UCAS applications for this year. She has ED which she was under CAHMS for until 18 then elected to disengage with them. I love her but dreading taking on ED again. Please don’t think I’m selfish, it’s been going on five yrs. She spent time in specialised clinic but basically ate her way out of there and on discharge went back to ED habits.

So awake nervous about this (single parent too).

But recognise from reading other posts, I need to try and gain perspective

pleaseletmesleeptonight · 16/02/2023 06:12

I rarely sleep a full night, tonight was my DH snoring that woke me up at 4am and I've been up since ..

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