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This is a space for anyone looking for support, tips on helping your baby sleep or just for a chat with fellow wide-awakers to get you through the night feeds. For more tips, check out our Ages and Stages emails.

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Why are you awake?

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UsernameNotPresent · 10/02/2023 03:30

My DS is 2 years 3 months, and he just started sleeping through the night yesterday. In his bed! But what am I doing? I am awake checking up on him if everything is ok 🫠🤦🏻‍♀️

I am also 15 weeks pregnant with #2, and you'd think my body would know by now that uninterrupted night is a gold dust in this parenting world and would just fall asleep, but noooo... Here I am lying awake, thinking about most random conversations I had 10 years ago.
Why are you awake?

OP posts:
AnotherCountryMummy · 14/02/2023 04:08

SpringIntoChaos · 14/02/2023 04:04

Woke up at 2:15 for a wee...still awake at 4am as couldn't go back to sleep. I'm now REALLY hungry! Do I go and make some toast and then try and get a bit of kip...or lie here hungry? 😨

Eat the toast! You won't be able to sleep hungry 🙂

What will you have on it?

Itisbetter · 14/02/2023 04:09

I’d have a drink of water rather than eat toast. Eating toast would mean I was up for the day.

JL642 · 14/02/2023 04:11

3 month baby not sleeping again! Zzzz
Shes just got into a routine of sleeping from 7pm for maybe 6/7 Hours (and then a few more 3 hour stints).

Tonight I heard her do a poo in her sleep around 9pm so I changed her nappy which obviously woke her - and she’s been a yo-yo since 😡

JD90 · 14/02/2023 04:12

@SpringIntoChaos I'd have the toast, years of insomnia have made me decide to just do whatever I've got my brain set on in hopes that after it will settle and let me sleep again.

SpringIntoChaos · 14/02/2023 04:23

I made the toast (with butter and marmite ☺️) and a cup of hot milk. Not sure I'll get back to sleep, but at least I'm not hungry 🤣

JD90 · 14/02/2023 04:26

@SpringIntoChaos sometimes it's the small victories (like not ending up sleepless AND hangry) when there is someone snoring next to you... maybe that last part is just me 🤣

Milliways · 14/02/2023 04:33

Pleased to have found you all. I fractured and dislocated my shoulder over 2 weeks ago and still haven’t heard if they are going to operate to repair it. Have another appointment today so fingers crossed. Not allowed to lie down so supposed to sleep propped up, just means don’t sleep as keep slumping and I am a natural front sleeper.

PatientlyWaiting21 · 14/02/2023 04:50

Excruciating back pain topped with a toddler who’s been up all night.

Munches · 14/02/2023 04:52

I was here the other night as well! Evening all.

Same shit different night for me: terrible and crippling anxiety, nasty sniffles and sore throat and added to the mix as well I am peri menopausal.

It is delightful 🙄

Sleeepdeprived · 14/02/2023 05:07

Breastfeeding my 4 month old who has a cold and is struggling to breathe. Also being kicked and kneed by by 2yo who woke up and came into my bed last night

JD90 · 14/02/2023 05:24

Two hours after waking up still not fell back to sleep... think I might just call it and go run a bath before the daily madness starts in under an hour.

BlastedPimples · 14/02/2023 05:34

Going through a divorce and am very worried about where the dcs and I will end up.

Always sleeping badly now.

Popplcroft · 14/02/2023 22:38

Lots of real reasons here, which I understand, but if you just wake up and hear the milkman or are a bit hungry surely you just lie there until you sleep again? If you get up and get the milk bottles in or make toast then surely you’re awake and up for the day?!

lljkk · 14/02/2023 22:43

Can take hours to fall back asleep & it's very boring until sleep happens again, Poppl. If I get out of bed you're right, I probably won't sleep again. Ok to get up if > 5am but 1am, 2am, 3am... the only way I'll sleep again is to lie in bed ... but it's very boring.

covertcuddler · 15/02/2023 01:16

I posted on this forum about an argument with OH, hoping for some support and the replies weren't kind. Because I have ADHD, they are just running around my head over and over as if they somehow matter (I know they don't!) as well as others that were never said and now I can't sleep.

Bad person, shit wife, horrible person, hard work.... ADHD sucks

TheUnquestionedAnswer · 15/02/2023 02:01

In a&e with mother who has dementia. She's settled now but it's been a difficult night with her talking about dying. She's 91 next month 😞

Isthisexpected · 15/02/2023 02:25

Bad person, shit wife, horrible person, hard work.... ADHD sucks

^no! Most people commented on the possibility your husband is emotionally abusive/ or got sidetracked by the idea of your rural life!

JL642 · 15/02/2023 02:25

@covertcuddler i haven’t seen your original posts but sorry you are up. There is nothing worse than being up worrying - you have my sympathies. Can you think of an objective action that you can action tomorrow which will make you feel better (ie speaking to other half etc - sorry as above not seen your original post) and which may enable you to park your worries for tonight to enable you to sleep?

ps I’m up on the baby night feeds - she’s waking about every 45 mins tonight. Fun. Exhausted mum…!

AWholeNewWorls · 15/02/2023 02:37

I'm 33 weeks pregnant with first DC and generally so uncomfortable. I think women are absolute heroes, this is the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. I go through pangs of guilt because I'm so unhappy with how uncomfortable I feel all the time.

AWholeNewWorls · 15/02/2023 02:39

Also, I live in a block of flats and there is a crazy person banging on the door of a building outside. He or she does this about a couple of times a week, and tonight is one of those nights.

youngalistairyoung · 15/02/2023 03:03

I hate where I live not sure if I'm on the right place but couldn't find anywhere to post it but it's come to the point where I can't stand where I live anymore

youngalistairyoung · 15/02/2023 03:10

At the moment I live in the sticks in a precocial hamlet and have never gelled with the local community either in town or back in the sticks where I live. I've only lived here for about 3 years but it's hard ....well I find it tough. I thought by moving to a new area would be different but for me it hasn't. I thought moving to the country side would solve things but it's just as bad.

MrsSamR · 15/02/2023 03:58

4 month old is asleep on me - been trying to put her down in her SnuzPod since about 2 and have given up! Husband is snoring away next to me and half expecting my toddler to wander in at any minute!

keeprunning55 · 15/02/2023 04:19

Toothache. Horrible!

covertcuddler · 15/02/2023 04:19

Isthisexpected · 15/02/2023 02:25

Bad person, shit wife, horrible person, hard work.... ADHD sucks

^no! Most people commented on the possibility your husband is emotionally abusive/ or got sidetracked by the idea of your rural life!

It's not their fault - it's my brain. It's rumination.

I hear something negative or suggestive negative like a few comments "you need to grow up" "you are hard work" "you brought in yourself" "this is your fault" and it spirals from there, those comments circle my head like I am reading them over and over and it takes over my normal thought processes... I haven't slept yet.

Sometimes it will drown itself out, or something will make me busy enough to forget. I will repeat though, it's not their fault - they don't know my brain works this way

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