The Hospital

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Anyone watching?

I cannot believe they just ODed that girl!

I was a teenage mum and I didn't receive benefits, I went back to work when he was six months old just like many other people do.

However, I was 17 which I realise is at the 'older' end of teenage pregnancy these days.

Fair enough LOW but I thought they were specifying £60,000 just for children of teenage mothers. Surely the benefits angle would apply to a much wider range . I'm sure not every teenage mother is a sahm for 5 years too, some must work or go to college etc.

I guess as it's more likely they are single so no family income? But on an individual basis they don't cost more , they don't get anymore I don't think

One of them had a £340 travel system...DH and I were both working full time when I was pregnant with DS and we were at the prices of prams as our first car (waaay back in the heady university days, lol!) cost about the same...but of course, if you are getting a maternity grant and not working for it, then fine - why would you question the cost of anything!!

'I maybe raising the future Prime Minister' ....my arse!

They all need a bloody sharp boot up the jacksie! I had sex at university - I took the belt and braces approach - condoms and the pill - I knew I wasn't in a situation to have a child and yet these girls just don't have a bloody clue! No excuse in this day and age with all the information so readily available through so many different channels

A real kick in the teeth to people desperate for a child to see people like that puffing their way through pregnancy...

Some mums do go back to school or go to college so someone has to fund for the childcare. They don't get benefits until they are 16 though, after this it's no more then an older single mum.

The staff in this one were lovely- hope horrid doctor from last week was watching so she can see that compassion and wise constructive criticism can be perfectly compatible bedfellows.

Lovely babies- and some of their mums were rising to the occasion rather well, I thought.

How do you know the grandparents didn't pay for this Pussin?

It took me ages to save for ds's pram. I wasn't on benefits, I was a student so used my student loan to buy what I needed. Ds's dad contributed.......a pram cover! My parents helped a little. I had to sell some of his outgrown clothes to get money for food . Benefits are shite!

I would have loved to reach into the TV and given Lisa a fucking good slap. Why on earth would you choose to go to sleep and miss the most monumental moment in your child's life? But then, it said it all really when she fucked off out for a fag and left her day old daughter alone and screaming in her cot...

Fluffy, have you heard of the family nurse partnership? You get a specialist HV (with a very small caseload) giving very close support to (mainly) deprived teenage parents until the child is 2.
The relationship is based on attachment theory and aims to give the child a better start in life by providing the day to day support most of us would get from family and friends and professional knowledge.
It's been quite successfully in pilot sites and there's talk of it being rolled out nationwide.

But I get what you're saying

I trained as a paeds nurse so have worked with the HV. Sorry, it doesn't happen here. The HV's where I am only see the young mum at 2 and 6 weeks. Every parent needs support, they hand you a baby and expect you to get on with it, the only time you get help is if you really screw up, it's often too late by then though.

Better parenting classes should be availiable for everyone who wants them.

Deemented - totally agree with you

Fluffy - you are right, I don't know whether the Grandparents paid for it...but tbh, I doubt that Grandparents are even on the scene, sadly...I could be wrong..I hope I am

Better Sex eductation would help, too.

Do you really think that they are that clueless that they don't realise they can get pregnant if they don't use anything?

It beggars belief...I mean I went to school with some girls who became teenage mums...we both had the same sex education classes...the difference was, I didn't jump into having sex just to keep up with the trend and when I did, I took precautions

Why are so many allowances made? What about the boys? I bet none of them carry condoms and ensure they are using them when having sex

By FluffyBunnyGoneBad on Tue 14-Apr-09 22:34:09
"The HV's where I am only see the young mum at 2 and 6 weeks."

They should be seeing them more often than that if they are vulnerable.

"they hand you a baby and expect you to get on with it, the only time you get help is if you really screw up, it's often too late by then though."

I'm guessing that's what they're trying to prevent?

Family Nurse Partnership

Maybe they should extend it to any one who is vulnerable/less resourceful, or get 'normal' HVs to visit them more often as they should. But I appreciate there's not enough HVs, etc, etc

She annoyed the hell out of me but even Lisa realised she was wrong in the end.

I was an older mum (22), I only saw the HV a few times, not at all when ds turned one. I had to organise a sight test for him etc. That's how good they are where I live! It's not the case that there are not enough HV, the majority (I'd say 90%) of their time is taken up on families who are under the gaze of social services. I've seen this myself so I know it's this bad where I am.

Are you saying that because they have to spend so much time dealing with those families, 'regular' families get no support until things are a lot worse?

No, I'm saying they spend so much time doing the paperwork to support these families they don'thave the time to get around all the others (the regular ones).

The NHS is drowning with paperwork!

Well I saw the HV when DS was 2wks and that was it unless I took him to clinic.

I was a 31yr old married mother whose husband was rarely in before 9pm. I had no family close by and even if they were mother was a city lawyer and MIL a headteacher, both worked similar hours to DH. DS never slept and was permanently attached to the breast. I had absolutely no help and regularly felt like I was sinking. Where was my support? I almost went under;seriously!

Why is it automatically offered to young mums in deprived areas but not to mums like me? Genuine question.

It's not. From what I gather from another post, it's a trial to see if it cuts the numbers of teen mums.

I was the same, single mum, no money, no sleep, baby that was permanently attached. I was ill after the delivery as I should have had my iron levels checked and it wasn't done. They were 9 IIRC so I was quite unwell. I had no help at all, no family, no friends willing to help. I can see why you'd be angry with this, I would be aswell.

someon said blonde doctor was rude, what do you expect, she must have been thousands teens telling her what they want they need rathre than listening to her what is importnat medically
its so sad how mnay girl ended up pregnant after one night out,so sad that they enter motherhood so early they struggle to be teen mum.