MAFS AUS THREAD 7- This Dahtaar Centre has drunk bogans boganing in their boganic ways. The Warrior's testosterone is on the lock down for fear of Crazy Eyes stealing it away. Elliot is a grower and a shower in the wild.

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Petty bogans time!

I wonder if Carina is getting confused? The garden argument where Jamie was shouting (and didn't get stood up for) i suppose you could argue was a bit mean. And you could argue that you wouldn't want to involve yourself with that. But the girls night- people weren't mean then. Just asking questions?
I have to say I can't stand Carina or the way she talks. I want to shout at her too. 🤣 But I do think Jamie has gone too far and as a result, probably lost Dave.
Most other people aren't worth mentioning and mostly I just sit trying to work out who is the least crackers.

I agree he seems to have good intentions, but trying to be caring to the point where you don’t actually let the other person know how you’re feeling can end up being very damaging if the other person is ultimately blindsided.
I like Dave very much, but this is, after all, about a marriage relationship, so if he thinks he may not be on the same page as her ( which is how it seems at the moment) he needs to find it in himself to let her know.

I am confused as if Dave thought she’d gone too far then why was he the first to have a go at them when they walked in.

Because he didn’t speak on the couch we have no idea what is going on with him.

On Lauren, I think she’s very unconfident and dresses it up as snobbery and condescension. Truly confident, happy people, comfortable in their own skin, don’t look down on other people.

IMHO, she doesn’t fancy Clint. But she might find him much more attractive when she sees his massive house in Tazzy. She’ll be kept really busy cleaning that. She’ll need a lot of vinegar spray for all the glass.

100%. And I think he will tell her now he knows the stakes are higher, as he wouldn’t want to hurt or damage her. My point was that if she hadn’t upped the ante with the l-bomb, it might continue to grow,

Her intonation is a bit AI.

lauren is too much in Jamie’s head though. I’d simply never give her the satisfaction of knowing how much her comments had got to me.

Clint actually told Jamie to shut the fuck up during the commitment ceremony didn't he? I was surprised they didn't pull him up on that.

Yes, horrible man.

I feel like Carina got in to her head more. She seemed to tolerate the bogan comments and even the troll comment from Lauren without saying anything nasty in return to her. That showed restraint.

But it was Carina’s perceived disloyalty and rewriting of what happened that got in to her head. Hence the ixperts pointing out that even though Lauren had gone, they were still arguing. And hence they played in to Lauren’s hands perfectly.

I thought it was at the retreat, so they didn't see it.

Yes, but judging by all the faces she was pulling on the couch, I think she’s already drunk all the vinegar! 😂

I can't see how Dave would think Jamie is too much; he's been fully supportive of her throughout and has actively involved himself in the drama (standing up (literally) to Clint, goading Lauren and Clint as soon as they walked in, telling Jamie they'd "burn it all to the ground" when they went off for a chat during the dinner party).

I just think he likes her a lot but he knows he doesn't love her and her expressing that so soon is scaring him off.

I said this to my DH the other day. She called her sister a bogan at the wedding and I wonder if actually she's from a "boganic" family and is desperate to outrun them.

I don’t think it’s a spoiler to point out that filming these commitment ceremonies takes hours & hours (as we’ve been told by many previous contestants in earlier series) and Jamie & Dave were right at the end, so can completely understand why Dave was looking for the exit by that time! 🥱

I've thought this too. She said before the wedding she didn't get on with her parents. Often the snobbiest people are those from the humblest backgrounds. Maybe her family are like Onslow and Rose to her Hyacinth Bucket.

Most snobs are social climbers of the Hyacinth Bucket variety

Brilliant 👏

Hmmmmm.

Dave very uncomfortable and the edit and music was certainly designed to emphasize this.

It feels like he has come on the show with an open heart, done all the things asked of him, thrown himself into the experiment, had his wife's back from day one, come out of his comfort zone to defend her and not really put a foot wrong frankly... but now has suddenly realised that the bickering and drama (rather than the fancy apartment and tropical honeymoon) is the reality of his future life with Jamie. I think the combination of Laurengate and the L Bomb coming in the same week has expedited his panic.

I hope they can come back from it.

I fucking hate Veronica. She is really twisty and unkind. Knobby as Eliot was with Lauren - who knows what fucking shit she was pulling that didn't make the edit. He now seems like he is really trying and Veronica is being a complete bitch and deliberately playing with his head. Nasty.

Odds on that now the L word has been mentioned (Rhi and Jeff 'getting there' and Jamie 'all in') Jacqui is going to need Ryan to fall in love with her this week. He is going to have to fall head over heels and tell her at least 100 times a day (maybe whilst they are doing their 100 x dance dips) that he loves her, to stop her from crying.

And yep. Agree gay. And also agree that Alessandra should not be pressuring him to be pleasuring anyone if he isn't in the mood.

I think she looks absolutely stunning, kind of like Kate Moss at her best. And then she opens her mouth and it all drains away and I feel all nauseous all over again. The things she SPOUTS!!!!

We see such a small fraction of the actual commitment ceremony and dinner parties. The edit is also huge! When Dave was sat there, it was supposed to seem as if it was all quiet while he contemplated, but you could see Jamie’s mouth and head move from the back as she chatted on, yet no sound.

When it’s all over, it’ll be interesting to see what actually happened, in what order and what wasn’t shown. Also sound and words from another time played over visual shots. Everyone hated Olivia a few series ago, yet once the true edit was shown and explained afterwards, you see how production made her the ‘baddie’ of the series.

The only couple that deserve a happy ending are Rhi and Jeff.

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Why wasn't Lauren called out on the fact that she's treating the rest of the group like her spouse. Her reason for wanting to leave the experiment at the retreat was because of the group and not because of the lack of spark for Clint.

The way the show works, with the producers pulling strings, the edits and copious amounts of alcohol, creates scenes such as Jamie losing her shit, . None of it is real. It’s done to entertain us. It’s a bit sick really, yet I still watch it.

Long time lurker & MAFS fan but wanted to add to the discussion here, re the notion of defending.

Not all defending is healthy. Some people who see themselves as defenders are motivated more by a desire to assert their own dominance as a challenge to the challenger, rather than providing support and defence to the one who is hurt.

Often the hurt person is not directly checked in with or supported by the defender, which should ultimately have been the aim, and additionally, the saviour can expect support, backup and admiration as a default reaction from their own friends, whether or not the friends agree. People who defend in this way can be very charismatic. and those who have been defended can feel safe in their presence, but the downside is that they are also meant to feel grateful even if they didn't ask for it, or felt patronised by it.

They can also feel fearful of falling foul of the defender themselves and so don't speak up about any misgivings they feel, perpetuating the notion to the defender that their input is always warranted and welcomed.