Sort your life out BBC1

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Dh and I said our stuff would fit in one square, not including furniture. We're decluttering but even so have no where near that much.

I loved this episode.

I remember Tupperware woman who had sealed boxes upon boxes of it and in the end i think they built a storage container in their garden for her to put it in as she wouldn't get rid of it even though her child had no life in the overstuffed house.
They didn't focus so much on redoing the house iirc, they would do a few jobs but I think dealt more with the psychological reasons why they'd gotten where they'd gotten to.

I remember that!

I was wondering how they managed to afford a house that size and buy Taylor a car for her birthday on a carer's wage. Not having a pop, just genuinely curious. Presumably the ex is financially supportive and I know Taylor works too.

I was amused when the friend said to Katrina to keep some of the dresses "as you might get married again"!

It's Wales, presumably much cheaper than Birmingham where they lived before.

Really disliked this episode, I thought the cancer stuff felt very performative and distending which made me uncomfortable.

Stacey falling over at the cosplay stuff was also weird. It wasn't some great talent to be celebrated the poor girl literally said she dresses up and pretends to be other people as a way of making herself happy - that's no healthy!!

Like when women who seemingly change outfits every 20 minutes leave the square in Eastenders. They get into a taxi with a single suitcase suitable for 2 nights away, and are never seen again.

I assumed she jointly owned a house in Birmingham with her ex partner which was sold and she could afford to buy this house outright, meaning no mortgage.

Yes there seems to be a focus on family tragedy this series. I don't want it to become "who has the most sad story".

"Stacey falling over at the cosplay stuff was also weird. It wasn't some great talent to be celebrated the poor girl literally said she dresses up and pretends to be other people as a way of making herself happy - that's no healthy!!"

What's not healthy about it? Cosplay is a HUGE interest and it's just harmless fun. I went to a show in Glasgow at the weekend and in the same venue at the same time was a Comic-con, and it was so sweet and pure to see all these people from teens to adults living their best lives, admiring each others costumes, taking pics with each other etc. It's escapism and a strong community, good for Tayla for having a creative outlet that brings her joy.

Also, when it comes to the trauma stories, my best friend SO needs this show. She is married to someone with hoarding tendencies and her own mental health has been extremely poor (hospitalised twice) over the past 3 years so since they moved into their house it's got out of control.

They applied, and got a fairly kind email back saying that unfortunately they don't accept people with mental health conditions.

I love this show but I am getting increasingly fed up of the people chosen to appear - they all have massive houses and they’re just a mess due to them being lazy buggers.

How about helping out someone living in a genuinely overcrowded situation where the lack of space makes it very hard to “sort your life out” without help. I think that would be far more relatable.

Omg,that's awful. They accept people with physical disabilities so why not mental? I'd argue anyone who lets their house get I to such a state has MH issues.

They’re probably just being realistic that they’re basically tv slebs and don’t have the professional knowledge to deal with serious MH issues that could very well flare up during a semi forced (sticking to the tight filming timeline) abandonment of cherished personal items. I think they made the right decision there tbh.

I think an episode featuring someone with MH conditions would perhaps throw up accusations of someone being exploited for ratings and around capacity to consent if someone wasn’t in a good place when they arrived to film…

Agreed

They did have the family where the Mum's mother had died and she took in her young brothers on top of her own children. They were very crowded - sharing rooms etc

My friend's house is an absolute rathole. She has MH issues, she takes something called mirtazapine, though she can be manipulative as well. She has to be "in the mood" to do any housework and things pile up behind the sofas, the bedroom is like a junkyard and she never cleans the floors or vacuums. She sleeps on the sofa because she can't be bothered to change the sheets on the bed. Piles of paperwork everywhere, drama when she lost her decree absolute and it's dangerous because there are so many trip hazards.

Last year I noticed an apple core on her stairs. Well it's just had its first anniversary so she hasn't vacced the stairs since at least Feb 2024.

I don't try and help her anymore because I don't want to make her feel I'm judging. I just feel sad. I just don't take my shoes off, wear old jeans when I go around and always wash any plates before I eat here (which is either a takeaway or something I've taken).

But presumably be hugely triggering and cause their mental health to worsen? I would presume they wouldn’t accept these applicants due to a duty of care.

I'm not enjoying this series as much as previous ones. Not sure if it's the emphasis on the family stories or just that I'm getting tired of the format.

I think the format is becoming noticeably rigid

In reality though most people in this situation will have some sort of mental condition even if it's not an active mental illness.

If you remove trauma, neurodiversity, stress, depression etc you are sort of left with lazy or simply not knowing what to do. The lazy are unlikely to be bothered to make the effort to go on the show and the other group are going to be pretty small. How many people get into these situations while being perfectly healthy mentally and physically?

So their likely pool of people are really going to be people with situations such as disability, ill health or those "recovered" from trauma/stress/depression or conditions that affect their executive function.

I'm sure they are not too bothered about how many people actually are able to maintain the changes going forward but surely those would be the ones who had had some sort of life event or mental health issue and are now able to move on but just need the fresh start as otherwise it's overwhelming?

I'm irritated by their insistence that it's only the team of four who are doing anything when it clearly isn't. They're always saying how behind they are but pull it off at the last minute, I think quite a lot of the 'storage solutions ' won't stand the test of time and the crafts are just pointless and generally ugly. Having said that, I enjoy the team - they seem like really nice people and seeing people get rid of stuff is satisfying (while horrifying at how much they've spent on this junk in the first place) It's nice when people are helped to have a calmer home.

I agree. I keep watching because I enjoy any programme on this sort of theme. But the transparent bullshit about how rushed they are makes me roll my eyes. And I can’t stand the crafty DIY stuff or some of the decor. The team are really likeable and that carries the show.

Given the vitriol on social media towards anyone on telly, it’s only sensible to screen for mental health issues.

Someone going into a spiral or a crisis as a result of either the trauma of having their stuff binned or the cruelty of Twitter comments would be wholly irresponsible of the programme makers.