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i thought they were all hers?

Glad it wasn’t just me

They were all hers, she referred to the 13 year old as her “brain child” as he was clever, I had the subtitles on, DH thought she had said grandchild as well.

Yes they were all her children. Loved this episode, really lovely family.

Lovely family, lovely house.

As in, she was her first born, so she became a mum when that 17 yo daughter was born.

The four kids were definitely all hers. Girl, boy, boy, girl from what I could see. The younger daughter was so full of energy!

What a traumatic childhood for the eldest though 💔 Not to mention the rest of the family. So glad she has the all clear now.

Tonight’s home was massive but I think it may have been a council house as they didn’t touch the kitchen.

I think the kitchen was probably ok and not a huge mess as they didn’t bother showing it. Loved this family and how they were so ready for the process.

I actually felt a bit uncomfortable watching this episode. I think SYLO normally tread quite a careful line between being too nosey about past traumatic experiences for the sake of TV drama, and being gently and genuinely empathetic. But I had a bit of a sense of too much of the former this time, when Stacey was asking the young woman all about her illness and time in hospital, etc. I hope it doesn't become too much of a programme where they are really milking the sad stories every week, and the sad stories become ever more extreme, as that could end up feeling a bit exploitative.

Lovely family, all the children were all so sweet, the older boy crying when his book was signed 🥹

I wasn't that keen on some of the decorating, painted ceilings make me feel claustrophobic but I'm assuming that they're trendy at the moment?

I really didn't like the decorating at all. As long as the family love it that's what matters but it's too much for me. My head would explode. The little den room was adorable though.

Catching up and already cried once when they found the beads of courage - what a lovely family and so committed to the process.

I only heard about this show recently toy. Been watching this series as it goes plus I'm watching the old ones and one s2 ep 2 of those.

I can relate quite a bit as I have a very full house.

I think a societal problem is that in the uk our houses are very small and have very little storage.

I'd be worried with some of these that they clear out so much families are going to be stuck with a bill to replace things. Eg you never see all the Christmas or Halloween stuff. There are things you hardly ever use but need to keep/store eg funeral & wedding clothes, out of season clothes /coats boots etc.

Then there's the efficiency of bulk buying.

Also laundry. With our weather we all need drying space indoors. They take away the drying clothes in the first part but don't say where the air dryers will go when they are finished.

With last weeks episode I thought it was telling that in the 'done' house they only showed the living room kitchen and 3 bedrooms. Not the very cluttered hall or the other upstairs bedroom. Also the garage door wasn't explained- was it a garage or the side room of the daughter's room?

The absence of the girls father was also odd. There were 4 daughters so they must have been in a relationship for a long time? Did the mum move back in with her mum when they broke up? Lots of unanswered questions.

It is much better with Dilly but not with daft influencer and impractical crafts.

I think a societal problem is that in the uk our houses are very small and have very little storage

I think a society problem that we think we need too much stuff.

They do show Christmas things. This week’s family had three artificial trees in the warehouse, for example.

Dilly's back 😮‍💨.

I agree - the daughter's health story felt intrusive. Maybe as she's so young. Old enough to give consent, but still.

My worry is that the trauma element becomes, effectively, transactional for casting which seems problematic on a few counts.

There was less emphasis on systems to keep the family on track as well.

I think they are suffering from something at the moment. I bet they're making the programmes much faster. When a new executive takes over a programmes they sometimes think they're just making a product like tooth paste, 'I can do it faster and cheaper with no loss of quality!' But rushing kills something I think - I may be wrong of course.

The crying and the hugging is becoming annoying as it so predictable.

It's still good but not as many solutions this week?

I think the problem a lot of the families have though is that they’ve got so much, they can’t find the Christmas stuff or the Halloween stuff so they buy it again. Overconsumption is clearly a massive problem for everyone featured - last night’s episode had 37 pairs of scissors - how do you even get to that point?

I think they do well to focus on “capsules” - making you use the stuff you do have. It’s not about getting rid of everything but using the things you do have already.

Thank you! I heard "grandchild" not "brain child". That explains it. I was like "how can that even work?"

I wonder at how people can afford to buy 28 suit cases or hundreds of shoes.
I did know someone who bought her 3 children a PlayStation each because of all the fighting over them so I guess it's easy to see how it happens especially with bigger families

I agree that the bits with the daughter about her cancer treatment were uncomfortable. They do seem to suggest that every family they go to has had some past trauma that has caused the cluttering. It's a lovely uplifting programme but I'm not sure if sharing peoples trauma on nationwide tv is the right thing to do.
On another note, how much money have these people wasted on buying stuff they never use, it's quite scary!
I've been inspired by Dilly to buy a load of drawer organisers and I have to say I love it! All my jewellery makeup and bits and bobs are sorted out and it's so satisfying!

@ChiaraRimini It definitely feels that way this series - like all clutter is due to trauma. I do think that’s a huge part of it, obviously but sometimes it’s just “we buy too much stuff and are messy.”

There seems to be less focus on the systemising as it’s more a case of ‘family needs to get rid of all this stuff they’re holding onto for traumatic reasons.”

Most of these type of programmes have a bit of a background to them , a trauma or something like that.

I’ve not watched this weeks yet, but I’d like a very slight change.

No hugs. Just a time waster. Do it, but do it offscreen.

A tiny slot on where the donations go - ‘this type of people/charities take this type of donation, but no one wants that type of thing so bin it’.

And, it might be regional, but a rundown of what you can do with common stuff eg CDs - if no one wants them, do they go in the bin? recycle? etc, and what about the cases? I’m sure everyone has some of these to get rid of.

Short slots on clothing bins in supermarket car parks and school uniform second hand places, that kind of thing that most people can relate to.

The bra charity, they could have a tiny bit on that. Where do they end up?

Are these charities to make us feel good about donating or do they actually do some good?

Each episode could have a five minute segment on something different.

I’d also like to see more about what they’re not keeping - eg I’m not keeping these black trousers because I’ve got 17 pairs and only need three. Maybe something about the ideal amount to have if you don’t have a special reason, there’s always someone who works somewhere muddy and needs all those but most people don’t. I did like it when Dilly said about the number of ?plates and mugs? someone should need. It gives you a baseline to look at your own stuff more critically.

I’d actually love Dilly to say what’s an ideal amount of anything to have (for those who don’t have the aforementioned need for 17 black trousers etc).

Like this idea - last week’s had them taking new and unused china to a care home. I have always wondered the difference between the donate and sell piles too. I remember an episode from a while back where the dad sold a load of tools and they said how much he’d got for them.

They used to show the charity shop donations being delivered on the Nick Knowles programme and people selling things too.
A lot has been cut back from many programmes over the years, might be because of the costs involved or something?