Sort your life out BBC1

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#mrcarrington on Instagram has posted a behind the scenes at sylo for this latest episode. Massive crew of 70 apparently. Great scene in the kitchen of about 6 people sorting out the crockery.

Can't wait but it's mistercarrington on Instagram not Mr ...

The last two episodes have been very different styles of clutter. The first was a symptom of compulsive shopping, and the long term sucess is in if she can stop using it to patch the trauma of past relationships. The second was a more gradual build up and cumulative failiure to let go over the years, but credit to the mum, she was pretty much ready to let go and have a new, fresh chapter with just the edited highlights of the past.

Both were using stuff to fill historic relationship trauma, but one is the dopamine hit of new stuff (often very pretty and glamourous) and the other is the security and attachment of old stuff.

The older sister "but I gave that to you" is a form of hoarding by proxy, you're only partly giving it but haven't relinquished it entirely.

I like the crafting sentimental items into something new and purposeful like the cake stands or the scarves into cushions a couple of weeks ago. I suppose with the climbing wall, they had to make something, but the type of clutter didn't lend itself to sentimental repurposing.

They always say "in 7 days"
They don't say that they're consecutive

I liked the napkin candle , but I wouldn't buy one for myself. I don't tend to like ' Nick nacks 'that much though.

I think all these very formulaic programmes have to walk the fine line that we are attached to the formula but we need to not notice it too much as then it's deadly and false. It's quite a paradoxical thing to achieve.

I think these recent episodes have had a less satisfying sense of rush. Of course some rush is the good rush of the huge task. But some rush feels ungrounded and skittish. Like the rush to the airport and someone's left their passport behind rather than the calm departure which allowed for the final calm checklist. Excited- not demented with a rigid grin.

Being a cynical former media person - I bet they've had budget cuts and are doing some of it in less time potentially with fewer staff. It a new exec producer who's a total bold hearted bastard/bastardess scaring the bejaysus and love out of the team's eyes.

The frantic hugging was very noticeable this week. In the past it seemed to come out of a real moment.

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Maybe they have a new exec producer who's a total cold- hearted bastard/bastardess scaring the bejaysus and love out of the team's eyes.

I’m re watching season 2 and there are definitley some bigger builds and less faffing around with lampshade crafts.

My MiL loved "nicknacks" aka shite and said you could never have too many houseplants so her house was like a jungle full of junk.

Omg watching now. The China!! I hope she gets rid of most? I can't bear it. I'd be no good helping a hoarder.

I loved the embroidered cushion, much better idea than having the Nan’s plastic hairband and comb hanging around

Aww loved it. I had tears at the end.

Did the older sister even know the young one's taste in music? Saying she had to keep a drum n bass CD because she'd bought it for her when she admitted she'd never listened to it.

What on earth is a "folk art dinner party?"

The mum was about 10 years younger than me but seemed very old fashioned hoarding all that china. It was a big thing when I got married but everyone I know ditched theirs years ago.

The chicken wire dried flower thing was hideous. I'd no idea who Zoe was but then I have no interest in influencers or whatever shite they're trying to influence us to buy

@RaraRachael totally agree regarding the chicken wire shit. It didn't go and will just collect dust and food fumes. Awful.

The older dd did my nut in but may have been displaying learned behaviour from her mother?

I giggled at the emotional attachment to an Inthe Night Garden DVD. Its all on iplayer!

@LenaLamont
The older sister needed to back the hell off. “But I gave it to you…”
Yes, sis, and now I am giving it to someone else.

Oh that really upset me actually. I’ve had that from family, stuff given 20 years ago and somehow I have to keep it forever and be continually appreciative of it? How manipulative.

I was getting really mad , she kept saying you have to keep it to her mother too. The hoarding tendency must be so ingrained

Was that the same daughter who was insisting her home would be clutter free?

I think once I've given a gift the recipient can do what they want with it - it was meant to be given to please them but if I misjudged it or they've outgrown an interest in it or whatever, that's perfectly reasonable.

The recipient could sacrifice it to the deity of their choice or nail it to their shed door for all I mind.

I want them to feel loved by me, not under an obligation to be Custodian Of Any Crap I Hand Over.

There are a few Millennium Dome mugs on eBay.

It was a bit odd

Lovely house but I'm sure they went into more rooms before they decluttered.

Don't like those cupboard curtains (bit like Robert's bench seating in another home program

Was it spendaholics? The one with the therapist. It was good.

there was also bank of mum and dad.

Spendaholics, yes that was it!

I’d love them to bring it back again. Or even just do repeats. They could put a little note in the corner of the screen like they do with house programmes, ‘2001 prices’ so you don’t faint when they say their rent is a whopping £150 per month 🤣.

But the psychological side of it was so interesting, all their background led up to the current inability to save, or spend on tat, or squirrel it all away and live in discomfort.

She didn't want to say it but it was for her future grandchildren 😁

My parents kept old vhs tapes and my dc loved them.
I prob should get rid of the dvds though..