I find it awkward with all the focus being on ‘intimacy’ or please tell everyone about how you’re bonking each others brains out.
The lovely thing about a new relationship is how that side grows, that tummy flip when you think about it….but usually there isn’t much discussion, it just natural. The analysis would put me off in an instant!
also re: sex pest and Josh, I was in a long relationship with someone just like her, it is truly awful.
I had my children in this relationship so hormones were up and down. I was continually berated, shouted at for being frigid ‘not like I used to be’ etc. I couldn’t hold his hand or hug him because it meant I was up for it.
To get sleep I used to go through with it, not realising this was date rape, then I went on a downward spiral of guilt, blaming myself.
It really should be seen as a serious thing, it destroys you because everywhere you hear, sex is great, sex is good.
You can really love someone but the pressure of sex can become abuse.
I eventually plucked up the courage to leave him, stayed on my own for a few years but had ‘friends’ and lo and behold I did not have a problem with my libido.
I am now happily married and sex is great, but doesn’t take priority.
‘Hugh Hefner’ (my children’s father) has not found a meaningful relationship 🤷♀️