Nicola Bulley Ch 5 9pm tonight

[Wilma55]

Couldn't see a thread on this....

I really feel for this lady and her family but there are many other people who go missing. Their families have been in the press recently asking why their loved one haven't had the same amount of police resources.

This is making me feel very uncomfortable. I'm not sure if I think he's being exploited at a time when he probably can't think straight, or something else.

Has this documentary been instigated by the police perhaps?

Way too soon for a program on this.

My post was deleted above. I was wrong to speculate. Apologies if i offended anyone.

My parents live in the Knott End area. My stepdad saw the police and their horses today, searching the area, while he was having his daily 'escape' from my mother/his wife walk on the promenade. He'd never dream of filming it by the way. Doesn't own a smartphone. He's nearly 80!!

I know that area of water is vast and hope the search teams stay safe as the beach is very boggy/muddy when the sea is out🤞🏼

The fact that she left her phone mid call makes me think someone surprised her and took her. I hope Nicole is found either dead or alive so the family can have closure and grieve if needed 😪

It’s not. It will likely lead to more people contacting the police with info. It keeps interest in the case. Until you’re in the situation, you won’t have a clue so stop being so judgemental.

The programme felt a bit strange to me. Just felt a bit soon. However, hope it helps in her search.

I disagree. It mostly just gave the facts, showed her partner and was an appeal really, how can it be too soon for that?

Suppose it's just not normally done in the past. It did just give the facts, which was good but made the husband vulnerable imo.
I think a programme without him might have been better.

If you think it would help to find your missing loved one, I think we’d all do it. Interviews, tv programmes, anything. I know I would.

Making himself vulnerable to some trolls online talking shit who like to think of themselves as some sort of body language experts/police investigators, pales into insignificance in comparison to the chance of this programme making someone come forward that helps find Nicola.

Did you even watch the programme though? They even talked about the fact they’re not married, yet you call him her husband.

Yes, I did watch it. Yes, they weren't married. So what? I forgot and a bit if a technicality.. No need to be so irritated about it. Partner then.

Taking this all bit personally imo.

The NB thread in the News section has been deleted by MN, probably too many speculations. Her partner seems nice and normal and is rather good looking. It's odd that her parents and sister are never seen with him or her close friends in any media appearances though. Do they not get on?

I was thinking that it's quite the bold statement of him to claim someone in the village knows something. The mood among the village population must be very tense and full of whispers and suspicions at the moment. I feel most sorry for NB' dc and all the other young children and teens who are living through this weird and horrible situation and whose lives are being disrupted by the media

I just find it odd that people think the programme shouldn’t have happened yet. They need information now so there’s no better time. It’s a stupid, ill thought out comment.

As for thinking her partner shouldn’t appear on it, every single one of our male partners would have people suspecting them if we, as women, went missing. Even if they had nothing to do with it, purely due to statistics in cases like this, people look to the male partner understandably. But presuming he’s innocent, I think it’s right that he doesn’t let that stop him from keeping Nicola in peoples minds, trying to jog peoples memory and appealing for information.

Who knows what their relationships are like. But reading over the last few days, Nicolas sister is staying with her partner to help look after the children. In tonight’s interview, her partner mentioned talking to her sister and to her friends. Her friends have mentioned him too in interviews and one of her friends was at the river with her partner a few days ago. So there’s nothing to suggest that they don’t get on and aren’t together a lot at the moment.

Her parents looked in a dreadful state when interviewed many days ago. Poor family, their pain must be unbearable.

I suppose if someone has harmed Nicola, it’s likely to be someone local. As you say, whispers and suspicions, maybe he was trying to say some of those without saying anything in particular.

The programme was a terrible idea.

If it had been a crimewatch style appeal that would be one thing, but it was no more than sensationalist broadcasting with Channel5 gleefully rubbing their hands together at getting the exclusive on this.

Somehow I don’t imagine he approached channel5, they likely approached him claiming it might make a difference etc etc if he went on the programme. Someone who is desperate is vulnerable in that situation and is going to cling on to any hope, and unfortunately that often means they are easily influenced into situations which are going to be harmful both to them and the case.

Because let’s be honest, it’s not just going to be someone coming forward with a clue, in fact it’s entirely possible that no-one will.

But it will 100% lead to the crackpots coming out of the woodwork, calling the police, clogging up the phone lines with their crackpot theories and imagined sightings of both Nicola and some perpetrator and so the list goes on.

In terms of appearing or not appearing in the media. There isn’t a right or wrong answer. If you appear in the media you are seeking publicity and if you don’t you must have something to hide.

One of the reasons I stopped studying journalism was because of the disingenuous nature of it. The press don’t care that this is a disappearance, all they care about is that they are the one to break the story and publish the reactions. The fact that their publishing leads to trolling and threats and speculation online means nothing to them. As long as they get their clicks and their advertising and their viewing figures.

All the finger pointing threads are getting deleted now.

So without pointing any finger how do people explain NB' sister's behaviour during the TV appeal? She said something like 'Nicky, if you're bloody out there just let us know that you're there' and laughs. Isn't this very odd? What would be the reason for her sister to sound so flippant?

The programme was distasteful & trashy. If my partner went missing, the last thing I’d do is a 2 hour TV interview with Dan Walker, with a panel commenting on every aspect of the case.

The threads are all still there in the news section. Not sure what to make of the programme, why where none of her family on it like her sister/parents? Her partner does not believe she’s in the river, so it’s odd that police have insisted on this from the off ...just hope they get a breakthrough but longer it goes on it’s less likely.

I didn’t read them, but searching on google, it seems like a recent one was deleted by mumsnet.

You can’t know what you would do until you’re in that situation. They’re desperate no doubt.

This. Why are resources diverted like this and shared so unequally. I know that there are factors that bias thinking re culture/age/history of absconding/family situation etc but for example I just read of an older man who vanished in Edinburgh after being seen unsteady on a bridge - seems like one diver search and then nothing much more.

I took that to mean that someone in the village will have a bit of information that they don't realise is key, like they saw something they don't really think is important, but it just might be.

It was hidden last night by night watch