Kate Garraway…..Caring for Derek

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She’s so brave making this documentary.

I did almost feel envious watching it though that she gets to leave the house to go to work and actually see other people.

Not to mention the many red carpet events she pops up at also !!

@cutebutscary and others in the same situation - my heart goes out to you. It must be so hard, and yes, unless you are famous no-one even knows what you are going through, seemingly with little help and support.

@SquirrelG thank you . it's a very lonely life like this , I hardly leave the house and to the poster who said I resented her , I don't , I'm envious of the amazing resources she has at the click of her fingers. If I could live in her situation it would be amazing - almost like winning the lottery for my daughter, who I would love to give a much better quality of life. It's just she hasn't had to be fighting for care , for support , to pay the bills , to get her child a comfortable wheelchair , to store the enormous quantities of gastrostomy feeding equipment and giant boxes of nappies and the trillions of other normal everyday relentless things carers of the very disabled very sickest people in our society need . I'm glad she's shone a light on her situation, but it doesn't truly reflect what life like this is like . I would give anything in the world to have a daughter able to let me know what pain is causing her to scream or cry, or even the simple pleasure of eating a bit of chocolate . I'm actually a really happy person believe it or not hehe and normally keep under the radar, am not by any means a keyboard warrior but just had to pipe up because we are completely invisible to most people

Oh and @Doratheexploret so glad also to know I'm not the only one on here caring at this level you are amazing having done it for even longer, love my girl with all my heart and she's worth every ounce of it , I know you feel the same ....we can both go to hell in a handcart together when people see these posts 😂😂

God yes, wouldn’t you want to take her a cake, make her a cuppa, and take some washing away and return it all done?

There are plenty of ordinary carers or (extraordinary in my opinion) that you could help. Her children are lovely but let's not forget there are thousands of child carers out there caring alone for poorly parents. They are the ones I feel for the most.

Envy/jealousy are such pointless emotions. There are always people who have, and can do, more things than us. They will still have problems at times. Feeling resentful does not alleviate our difficulties one bit.

My heart goes out to those who care for a sick loved one, it is hard (I know from past experience). Who cares for the carers? I'm very conscious that we need to look out for each other, so many in difficult situations feel uncared for and virtually invisible. Just a little acknowledgement, a visit, a small gift of a care package, makes a lot of difference.

@Bromse envy and jealousy are normal human emotions. It is better to acknowledge them than pretend they do not exist.

Envy and jealousy are two vey different things.

I don’t think it’s envy or jealousy to mention how much KG earns or their standard of living. It is what it is people are just pointing out that many people do full time caring if seriously disabled family members with no help or full time carers.

@Malibuismysecrethome

I don’t think it’s envy or jealousy to mention how much KG earns or their standard of living. It is what it is people are just pointing out that many people do full time caring if seriously disabled family members with no help or full time carers.

PP did say that she “almost” felt envious of KG’s comparative freedom to leave the house and work, despite being a carer.

Which is quite a modest semi-theoretical sort of envy, and entirely understandable.

Unfortunately another PP decided to be a bit of a dick about it.

@ThymePoultice

Envy and jealousy are two vey different things.

They are different. There's nothing wrong with wistfully wishing you could do something that someone else does but it is wrong to resent them. It achieves nothing.

Yes I completely agree @Bromse