If you think the book or the show was misogynistic, you need to watch it again and consider why the book was written and the TV show was made.
It was made to highlight the terrible stress and pressure the NHS staff work under. They are completely overwhelmed and have to deal with far more patients and incredibly serious cases and situations when they just don't have the resources to deal with them properly. It's impossible to provide each patient with the care they need, or give them the individual attention they deserve. When you're working a 12 hour shift or longer, and faced with a new emergency every 5 minutes, unfortunately patients just merge into 'numbers' and you stop seeing them as individuals. Yes, it's terrible, but it's how it is.
From the book, I remember him making the point that if you allowed yourself to get too upset or involved in each case, then you'd never last in the job. And indeed, he didn't last (and I'm not blaming him in the slightest, given the event that drove him out of the profession).
In the show, there are also times where he's shown to be advocating for the patients (e.g. believing them when they saw they have unexplained pain, including getting into trouble for sending them for unnecessary tests).
Ultimatly, if you want a doctor who is going to give you round-the-clock personalised care you need to either go private or campaign to have the NHS made better.
Also, from reading the book, i definitely came away knowing his partner was male, but I do remember it being only revealed half-way through the book.