Junk Food Kids

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So frustrating watching this - surely some of this parenting falls into the neglect category?

I think you can call it what you like, if a parent, or anyone, doesn't want to hear it, then they won't. It will be "puppy fat" "chubby" etc etc. I have a friend who is, frankly, fat, although she carries it well. She got told by the doctor the other day that she was obese and needed to lose weight. Cue a load of selfies on FB, saying "Really? Is this what obese looks like? I don't think so!" No-one said "Actually, I think you could stand to lose a few stone pounds. They piled in and said "OMG, no, no way you're obese, is the doctor blind?"

The health professionals are absolutely right, the Indian Dentist (can't remember his name) spoke with such irony. That they know that the parents are at fault, but they cannot tell them. I suppose they would be out of a job. Sad really, as these parents do need telling.

Tallulah mum is so neglectful, a 4.5 year old girl has to take an age 9-10 uniform . My dd nearly 8, still fits into her age 5-6 uniform, its so wrong. Her attitude towards the Dentist appointment, says it all! If your dd does not want her teeth brushed, you brush them for her, actually you should be doing so until they are a bit older.

I think fat is an insulting term, people are much more than fat, it's not a medical term. Insulting, name calling abusive terms have never achieved much (my poor sister listened to my brothers insult her for years), correct terms are overweight and obese... I have skinny kids, but I don't allow them to call others fat and would be surprised to hear a medical professional use the term....sounds very judgey and that is most certainly not going to help them do their job.
Over indulgent parenting leads to overweight children, it's hard to say no, some people are bloody awful it. My Sil is a lovely person, not at all lazy but she can't say no to her kids and she's shocked when I do, her dc's are gaining weight, no one likes to see a child's face fall when they don't get what they want but good parents are not popular parents....at least not till your kids grow up.

Silver anything is insulting, even the word obese. Sometimes you need to be told your fat to bring you down to reality. I was told I was fat, because I was. It spurred me on to loose 3 stone, I am now a size 10-12 and feel so much happier about myself.

Dress it up how you like, for me that was tge reality, I was fat. With my tummy that looked like I was 8 month pregnant, love handles spilling out the side, 2 double chins.

The health professionals are absolutely right, the Indian Dentist (can't remember his name) spoke with such irony. That they know that the parents are at fault, but they cannot tell them

Yes, he said something about it being the way society is now that no one is to blame for anything. He def has a point.
There was clips of the parents' views and the government and advertising (I think) and shops were to blame!

Tiggy tape your post hit the nail on the head, you wouldn't call an alcoholic a pisshead or a lush, a drug addict "you're a crackhead/junkie"someone with.multiple unplanned pregnancies or sti's ...well you can imagine so yes overweight, obese yes ..fat ,no.

The adult toothpaste was a new one on me ...The bloody money ive wasted.

Moniker yes he was talking through gritted teeth I felt, what he really wants to tell parents, is that it is their fault, their actions have put this chikd in his chair whereby he has to extract half their milk teeth. They are making the choice for their children. The 4.5 year old cannot walk to the shop be herself and buy these sweets. Tallah mum blamed everything, but herself. I think the reality hit once she had her teeth extracted, her mouth was full of blood and there was no teeth left.

Choochi it is a factual word, fat is what their body has laid down because they have overeaten. Lardy, or fatso would be totally different and quite rightly insulting, but saying I am fat, is factual.

When and what was this on? Thank you

You could really hear the frustration and annoyance in the voices of the professionals, who have probably had years of talking to neglectful, dismissive parents who blame everyone and anyone except themselves for their children's weight gain and subsequent health problems.

I really don't think Tallulah's mother was mature or responsible enough to be raising two small children. She put her own convenience ahead of their needs all of the time. Her small daughter's teeth were rotting and her gums had several abscesses and she still continued to stuff her with rubbish, not bother to make her brush her teeth, and choose a lie-on over getting her to an important dental appointment.

And I'm glad someone finally told the 13 year old's mother to start setting some boundaries. She was being allowed to behave like a rude, ignorant brat and the scene in the doctor's surgery was appalling. The mother should have taken the phone away from her long before the doctor had to intervene.
However, it was nice to see that the boundaries seem to have worked. By the end, the girl was talking in a friendly, polite way to the camera and was focussed on grooming a horse instead of staring zombie like at her phone.

Exactly so very. I was called fat in the street, you çoukd hear my thighs slapping together as I walked. Sometimes it takes someone else to tell you, for you to see the reality.

Sad thing is, there's probably lots of Tallulah's out there with parents who are too lazy/inadequate/irresponsible to look after them properly, make sure they eat properly and get them to important appointments on time.

And, as we heard last night, health professionals are not allowed to be straight and blunt with them but have to pussy foot around, allowing them to throw blame on all sorts of other things and live in happy denial of the harm they're doing their children.

Tallulah would be far better off if someone had sat down with her mother ages ago and given her a very firm talking to, with threats of taking her children from her if she doesn't face up to her responsibilities and the work and inconvenience that sometimes go with them.

thing is her kids looked otherwise clean as did her home. She had a reasonable sized kitchen which looked clean. so she has the ability to understand some aspects of how to look after herself and kids.

I'm. intrigued as to what started it all. Maybe she got disheartened at the weaning stage because it all git thrown on the floor (as kids do)

or she saw something labelled "kids..." and genuine t nought it was good for them and the correct portion side.

The convenience crap bothered me. In the sense of the fact that alot of it isn't. many so called convenience food is harder work or no easier than making it fresh. just as easy to stick a chicken breast in the oven as a breaded one. packet mixes still involve measuring out and adding other ingredients so little work spared there.

And even cheese sauce can be done easily in the microwave pour over some microwave pasta and mix with some tuna or something and a bag of micro steamed veg and you still have a quick meal cooked in the microwave that's no more effort than a micro meal which needs taking out and mixing them standing then zapping again.

It must just stem from embarrassment or lack of confidence that she can do it.
I wonder what the services in her area are like whether there's cookery classes etc available

I think fat is much more to the point and relevant. I agree with the pp that calling someone lardy-arse or something is insulting.

But it's fat that's making them obese and fat they need to lose. I think it's easier to hide behind obese as it suggests there maybe some medical reason rather than eating too much of the wrong foods.

You can't run away easily from a HCP referring to your child as fat. We all know what fat means.

Giles she also seemed very lazy and had an air of çoukd not be bothered. She missed the dental appointment due to poor time management and planning, and did not seem bothered about it.

I'm not sure that the boy with the fatty liver should have been on the programme. He was not significantly overweight and had an underlying predisposition to the liver problem.

And I think that his mother was edited to look worse than she was. You can certainly catch me serving a lazy tea on a busy week night.

Yes she did come across as lazy but I did wonder if that was just editing.

her kids seemed reasonably well behaved bit of a whine in the shop but that's normal fir all kids. I wondered if she's been got at before about things and is frightened of what people think of her kids so she's constantly feeding them and buying what they want so they don't make a fuss and people don't look at her and make judgements.

She didn't seem prepared to have them.wait fir anything I just wondered if she was really always after a quiet life or whether people have glared at her or assumed as a young single um. She wasn't going to be as good or as attentive.

I totally agree Deaux, fat is to the point, it is a medical term, junkie and pisshead are not.

I honestly don't think that could excuse the fact that she was allowing her daughter to suffer from abscesses Giles and just couldn't go through the hassle of getting her to clean her teeth properly, or make sure she got up on time to take her to an important dental appointment.

I didn't say it excused it.

just what we saw with regards to the house being clean and kids well dressed and money wasn't mentioned as an issue, her kids looked clean (teeth aside) it didn't totally add up to what she said in the way she said it.