Our Girl and Captain James Discussion Thread Vol V

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stressy, so impressed! Nice one! (I know it was hours ago, been a busy day!)
orphan you make me laugh x so brill!

Oh, and have a great evening ... Just the two of you ... Lovely :)

I think all our other halves have rumbled us! When i moan about something (I dont do it often!!) DH says "I suppose your boyfriend CJ wouldn't do that" it's said in jest, but I do think the poor love needs some attention. Mind you after the "bollard" incident I should be let off!

Have a lovely time tonight orphan I wouldn't suggest quoting Ep5 restaurant scenes..... Lucky you though, enjoy :)

Mine still insists that I fancy Molly. I think it's hopeful thinking on his part.

I thought my trip to Sainsburys would be an epic fail but success, I am now the proud owner of some stag pants. I had to take eldest DS Christmas shopping, it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, I told him "I thought you would hold me back but you're an excellent shopper, your proving yourself," He looked at me, I'm sure he was thinking "mental or what"

Check this out.....oh yeeeessssss.......

galaxy brilliant line on DS, I have that joy of shopping with DS next weekend, so I hope it will be as successful as your trip, and stag pants too, yippeeee. I have BIL 50th Bday party tomorrow daytime, I will need to wear my "Stags" so I can Focus Up and get through the ordeal of MIL criticisms!

Richtea hope the party is OK, might gonna save mine for work on Monday. Stag pant power

It will be a Stag Pant Revolution! and it is "Rutting Season" ! I really feel we need to find an alternative for SPO, not the thong... But maybe a pair of Molly's Drawers!

There's no stag pant revolution where I live. Just been to my local Tesco - no stag pants to be seen (mind you the dept was a shit tip!) and we don't have a Sainsburys.

Found some stag boxers at asda, in case you wanted some SPO???

Friends came for lunch and took them in the afternoon to where they are thinking of buying a house. Popped into a little deli and saw these. Not sure about the seaweed version though.

snumpy I'm happy to post out a pair to you. :).
Nickel Stags and a value pack!! Might gonna have to get some for DH.
Ilove, Crackers.... How appropriate !

richtea are you suggesting i should try women's underwear?! I know we are all trying new things here but that might just be a bridge too far for me!

nickel nice boxers! We have a large Asda nearby which I might just need to check out. .... Oh God am I actually getting excited about clothes shopping?

orphan intimate meal for two? Its great to make time for each other! Hope you have a lovely time.

evening, was in £1 shop earlier (blue and orange one) they had xmas mugs with stags on them. was 50/50 on whether or not to buy one for work. and then they had a glittery stag christmas ornament too - all I see at the moment is stags! they are everywhere

the lovely fan fiction Looking Forward (CJ and Molly are not together) has a new chapter. here's the link if you haven' read it. I really enjoy it www.fanfiction.net/s/10846064/1/Looking-forward

SPO No! I wasn't suggesting you had Stag Panties, but a nice pair of low rise trunks.. Oh that sounds a bit awkward!! Sorry Mrs SPO!!

icemist I can't believe how much Stag stuff is about this Christmas. It was all about the Owl last year. I'm feeling Chriistmassy!!!
I will check out the Fan Fic later.

More fan fic - lovely :)
Now, I have a request, well more of a question really - In the spirit of OG leading us in directions we've never been before and to give a focus to the running/training many if us are doing, I wondered if anyone would be up for getting a team together to do an obstacle race event like tough mudder/wolf run. I have never run n this is totally out of my comfort zone but I'm up for a challenge. We would of course do it in stag pants, combat trousers n black t shirts what do you reckon?

That would be fun apsara, I did the Spartan Beast 2 years ago, it was a 20k, 50 obstacle race designed by the Marines! I did say after I completed it I would never do anything like it again, mainly due to the amount of training and injuries. I spent a bloody fortune on getting my shoulder back having been pulled over an 8ft wall!

However a smaller one would be be fun, Nuts is meant to be good? Logistics of where we all live could be tricky, and yes we could all wear our DPM combats!!!!! And stag pants!!!

Ladies, I have a problem and might need some help (not sure if this is one for SPO really or not). I've had an issue at work for the past week which has caused me some distress one way and another. It's only today, away from work, that I can think a bit more clearly. I'm going to be like stressybird - it's good to sound off here.

A colleague of mine who at one time I may have termed a work friend (more than just a colleague but definitely not somebody I would see outside of the office) texted me last week when I was recovering and implied I was particularly friendly with a male colleague. Totally untrue and she is known to be rather obsessive once she gets a bee in her bonnet. As I read it first, I just laughed it off, but the following day, I started to think more carefully about it. I sit next to the guy for seven hours a day after all and we get on well, nothing more. Decent people around you makes it pleasant coming to work. It seems she has mentioned this to somebody else too and then as I returned to work at the beginning of the week, she made a ridiculous comment in front of yet another colleague which implied we see each other outside of work. It's so far from the truth, it should be laughable, but I am getting quite het up about it. Anyone who knows me will know I am not like that but it concerns me that she may be mentioning this to people who don't know me as well and she could therefore be causing upset for two different households.

I have said "You make it sound as if we are having an affair, what are you on about?" but I know that if I make a fuss, it will encourage her obsessive behaviour even further She has a very sad personal life with very little going on in it - so seems to zone in on other people's lives.

Am I doing the right thing in just trying to ignore it? What would Molly do - just tell her she was a f*ckmuppet or is that too kind a word?

I tell you what though, all the comings and going on this thread have helped take my mind off her nasty barbed little comments this week.

Sorry to whinge, but it's nice to get it off my chest.

Ilove I am not sure if I am going to be any help, but it does really annoy me when other people make assumptions about things they don't fully understand.

It's been a long, long time since I worked in an environment mixing with male/femail colleagues, but I do know when I did it is so important to have a strong rapport with the people you work with. Sometimes you end up spending more time with your work colleagues than your own loved ones.

In my past I have got into trouble/bother getting close to a work colleague (male) because I like to have a laugh and he took it completely the wrong way. Some people are able to have fun and flirt without it meaning any more than fun. As long as that other person knows that it is fun and is not taking it as any thing more serious.

It sounds like the person who texted you is trying to "stir" things up. Is she jealous of you? It sounds like it to me.

I can imagine you might feel akward, but just remember, you haven't done anying wrong!! Hold your head up high - and remember - We love you, and want you to be brilliant!

Richtea - those are very comforting words, thank you. The really silly bit is that the man in question hasn't got the wrong idea (as there's nothing to get the wrong idea about). He doesn't even know this woman is starting to whisper tiny little rumours. Yes, years ago I had the same problem as you describe, but I am talking 20 years ago and I learned from that experience! This is different in that it is a sad woman colleague who is making up sad little scenarios in her sad mind. You are most certainly right when you say she's jealous/envious because I have a life outside of work and she hasn't and I think she has fairly low self-esteem. Entirely of her own making. Maybe she sees me as very outgoing compared with her introverted self.

It just felt nice to spill it all out on here. Our Girl Agony Aunts Inc.

Watching the duet scene to cheer myself up and then heading for the restaurant in Bath for a second dose of cheering up.

xx

Ilovelblue hugs. Not a nice feeling when you're the subject of malicious rumours, whatever the reason for their provenance. I was thinking that I would, like you, normally seek to ignore. However, it sounds to me like the stirring is becoming such that keeping silent may not be the best tack to take. You asked what Molly would do - well, I reckon she would call your colleague on it, really directly (she may well deny any negative intent, but it's a warning to her and you can take it further if she continues to try and spread untruths about you). I don't think a fuss is necessary; just go in civil and matter-of-fact the next time she says anything (either to you or to someone else).

apsara I'd love to do something like Wolf Run (think Tough Mudder might finish me off), but have never found any like-minded people to do it with! I would so be up for a team entry with any of you, but suspect that logistics might prove difficult (travel to the event is one thing, but I imagine we'd want to do some reasonably regular training together?) I dunno about doing it in combats, but if we did actually manage to pull it off, we would definitely need to get T-shirts with the OG Collective logo on

orphan I hope you have a fabulous time tonight!

Oh, ilove, that's really tough. Molly would undoubtedly just barge in all guns blazing, and tell her exactly what she thought, but then again Molly isn't real and doesn't have to face up to the consequences of that!

It sounds like the one who texted you is definitely jealous of the way you get on well with the rest of your colleagues, and wants to cause a bit of trouble. But it also sounds like you all know that she a bit like that? If she had started saying something about one of it other colleagues, would you believe her, knowing what she's like? I would probably just ignore it, but then I don't like rocking the boat! And you still have to work with her and your other colleagues. If you talked to her, would it stop her, or make her worse? If you don't react to her, is she likely to get bored soon and move on?

At the end of the day, like richtea says, you haven't done anything wrong, and it's such a shame that someone is making you feel like this, you are so much better than that. You spend a long time in work, and it really should be enjoyable. It sounds like people know what this girl is like, and are unlikely to really listen to what she is saying?

Anyway, I'm not sure thats any help, and it is really tough, but we are all here for you, and you are brilliant .... But a problem shared is a problem halved, or something like that!! X

ILove I work as a manager in a large public institution. Over the years I have had to deal with situations like this with others and I have also experienced a similar situation to you . Some years ago a woman at work was going around saying things about me and my male boss.. Who was a really good friend prior to me working with him and still is.

It's not nice especially if she is gossiping to others who may not know you and then they get the wrong impression . Also you should not have to put up with little undertoned comments etc.

I have to say when I found out what the woman at worked had been saying about me to people I did go up to her and put her straight. She stopped.

I agree with Richtea that she does sound a bit jealous and if she has an unfortunate personal life she may not understand that you can have a laugh and joke with a male colleague without sleeping with him. .

If she says something again. It may be best to nip it in the bud you do not have to be nasty just tell her straight , saying you get on well with a lot of people and just because his male does not mean that there is anymore to it than that and that her comment upset you.

If it continues after that then sort her out Molly style.