Midwives

[Pickles77]

Evening all, well it's on and I'm shocked!!

Stacey I did the same "DH don't DARE let her out of your sight,"

Aw, slightly sad I still have 15 weeks to go before I meet my little one!

Thank you for your company ladies, last
Of the series that one

terra glad it wasn't just me then! Lol

Still quite miffed at the rubbish way SIDS was represented! I know they are only showing snippets of a visit but the message that is going out to the public should be correct information!

Seriously, though, does no one bf any more? Couldn't help thinking the couple being shouted at by the MW about arcane bottle hygiene rules might've been better off not bothering with trying to understand what she was on about

I've enjoyed this series as an alternative to OBEM but this episode really annoyed me!

Having a baby at home? Surely not!
A...third child??

The swaddling/co sleeping causes cot death has upset me - we plan on co sleeping but have a bedside cot just in case - of what I'm not sure! We also plan on not using the Moses basket and just holding/using a sling.

Are the midwives going to tell us off? Should we not say we're going to co sleep? We've researched it to the nth degree - there's no way we'd make a decision based on a lack of knowledge about something so important.

Orenishii, I think if you have done your research and are clearly from a stable background then the midwife will be happy for you to get on with it.
TBH if I was a midwife and went into one of those houses and saw a baby being swaddled and covered in blankets and given the same bottle reused over and over again - I would judge that that baby would be safer if kept in Moses basket or cot and not brought into bed.
You have to remember that this is a TV programme, and most people who have babies are already in contact with health professionals, and if you have questions or concerns then you should ask them, not rely on a 5 second clip of a visit. I think BBC should have given a number to call or website with information on SIDS at the end though.

poor fizah, being judged like that, no wonder people dont want to fess up to having any problems in the past.

i thought fizah was amazing and really really wish her well.

i think alot of people will see programmes liek this and be afraid to ask for help if they have pnd or have had a difficult life
which really makes me so mad.
and they definatley need to rename vunerable babies unit, as thats enough to make a well supported, perfectly balanced person crack having your baby referrred to that department.

that retiring midwife did not come across well at all.
i wonder hwo shes feeling afetr seeing the edited show?

overall this programme made me pissed off

anyway good luck to all the mums and steven was great too

I think it's worth remembering that the baby who had been given the same bottle over an over was not the same baby as the one whos parents got all the advice about not co-sleeping. Two different families, one (the bottle re-user one) seemed to have some language obstacles. Both babies had hats on though.

how did they midwife know that was the same bottle that was used over and over, it seemed to me that werent able to communitate that well, and that the midwife assumed that.

The husband spoke English, I should imagine it was something that had been discussed during the appointment. He didn't really appear to know what she was going on about when she asked him to sterilise the bottle, either, so presumably had no clue what they were doing.

Does make you wonder why people aren't taught about how to correctly use formula beforehand, though, instead of chastising them for doing it wrong afterwards.

I thought the retiring midwife seemed to lack empathy and hadn't managed to support or build up any relationship at all with Fizah. it was obvious that the personality of the second midwife was much warmer and more supportive and the mum just seemed so much more relaxed with her. I wished she had asked to change her midwife during the pregnancy. There seemed to be very little difference between her and Monique, though they were treated very differently just by virtue of which midwife they had. Definitely was time for retiring midwife to go.

i thought it was a bit odd how that farhana said she knows that women having homebirth would have no issues, support etc, as i dont think that is true, women with history of depression etc can still have home births

Also i didnt quite get the story with fizahs family, why did her sisters get her kids taken away? how serious does the depression/mental illness have to be? her mum said she had PND? so they took the kids away?

I think her mum's depression was quite serious when the children were older and they went into care. Her sister was schizophrenic iirc.