Midwives

[Pickles77]

Evening all, well it's on and I'm shocked!!

*it doesn't actually mean the situation is funny- was meant to say!

"Sorry most cotdeaths are nto caused by safe co-sleeping" agreed, that was particularly bad information - stupid midwife ffs.

Maybe evicted lady had gone to stay with relatives. That's interesting viva, swaddled all of mine with a sheet and then tucked blankets in.

I guess so about the laugh actually makes sense.
I meant situations, rather than conditions I couldn't muster the right word sorry

Thanks for the link viva I've bought a swaddlepod (very thin material) this time so will just put a blanket over that if needs be.

Glad you guys picked up on the swaddling as I just ordered some swaddling bags/wraps on eBay

Indeed Dueling - makes me so cross as women then fib about their sleeping arrangements and may not be aware of how to do it safely.

Seems the policy varies around the UK, the midwives swaddled my two in the hospital with a flannel sheet in 2011 (SW London) but my friend who had a baby a few months earlier in Manchester was told that swaddling was a SIDS risk and advised against it.

41 +2 which is not bad for someone who was told they wouldn't reach full term and would go into prem labour!

By conditions I was talking about the girl in care who feels as though she is being judged for her past when the midwife is trying to help and it looks like one person losing their house whilst having a baby. It must be awful to feel as though you are expected to screw up before you do, but there again best to get the support before.

It is a bit confusing as well because I thought swaddling was ok - yet the midwife made me think different there?

she did actually say that most cot deaths happen as a result of bedsharing didn't she?
and that IS bollox isn't it?

Surely what we have seen re hat on indoors, not placing baby feet to foot and lack of knowledge on bottle feeding is information that should be given during pregnancy or at least before discharge.

I co sleep and it would have been nice to have been given information on how to do it properly rather than told don't do it. I don't think I would have had any sleep in the last 7 months if I hadn't.

I wish the NHS would send out Maternity Nannies to help new mums, I'm sure it would save money in the long run. I have only worked for wealthier mums. Its one of the reasons I became a home start volunteer.

When I had DD in 2008 I was advised not to swaddle her.

Anytime the signet- good luck

Thanks Getting induced on Thursday so not sure if watching this is a bit close to the bone tonight haha

Devon - I think you're definitely onto something there. I had a lot of pressure after DS2 with regards to weight gain and bf but luckily as I was very informed I managed to do things my way confident that I wasn't starving my baby.

Watching this can't help thinking it would be cheaper to keep new mums in hospital than have midwives having to visit so often.

DH asking why all these women are FF. Even with the MW it seems to be the default option "have you got any milk in?".

While discussing cot death they haven't mentioned not smoking, BF or anything else but swaddling. MrsCampbellBlack I agree with you - most cot deaths are caused by co-sleeping - where did she get that from? If it's accidental smothering then it isn't cot death, is it?

The MW with the bad dye job would have really got up my nose too. No wonder her patient was upset.

Sailors what's a maternity nanny? (sorry if I seem a bit silly)

Well the girl from care was actually being judged by her past, her flat looked a bit sparse but clean and tidy after she arranged the babies things. I too would be scared if I had been referred to some kind of vulnerable baby service. She said herself that the MW attitude to her changed when she learned her past.

We moved areas when dd2 was 6 weeks. She was swaddled by midwives but at a toddler group another mum said the advice there was not to swaddle. Very confusing.

Poor girl. Society is so judgey these days.

The commentary is really annoying me now.

I wonder if its editing but so many of the midwifes come across as just so matter of fact and distinctly lacking in empathy.