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One born every minute

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oldme · 31/01/2011 21:00

Yay it's on now! God I love this, am I the only one who nearly always cries when this is on!!!:)

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harverina · 01/02/2011 22:56

And breastfeeding? Do you find that most women are comfortable being supported by you to breastfeed? I think I'd be more embarassed with this than examinations, which I know is reidiculous - but I was the same with female midwives

RespectTheDoughnut · 01/02/2011 22:56

I'm a direct person Sorry if I embarrassed you!

solo · 01/02/2011 23:00

Great chat! ing like a Cheshire cat!

So do you have your own children Chris? (sorry if you've already answered that and I've missed it).

midhusband · 01/02/2011 23:01

Im not easily embarrased any more!
Some of the mums may feel a little embarrassed by me helping them breastfeed, I case load the women i care for and see them from the start of the pregnancy to the end, so usually by the time they breastfeed they are comfortable with me.

midhusband · 01/02/2011 23:02

Don't have any children yet but i fortunatley get a good baby fix when im at work.

Avocadoes · 01/02/2011 23:04

Ooh how exciting! Hello midhusband. I am so glad you are helping change peoples' views of male midwives. I had a male midwife for my second birth. His name was Graham and he was amazing. Your approach actually reminded me of him. He was calm and supportive but gave me space. I was terrified I wouldn't be able to push as I had needed forceps for my first birth and he actually coached me through which muscles to use. I owe him my fab second birth.

I figure you have to feel a real calling to be a male midwife so those that do it are likely to have a real affinity with the job.

ThatVikRinA22 · 01/02/2011 23:04

that is so much nicer than seeing a myriad of different people,

as it happens i homebirthed for my second and had a really small team of midwives and actually ended up with the one id seen the most for the actual birth,

but seeing the same person from the very start would have been fantastic. is that your choice? or is it your districts policy?

solo · 01/02/2011 23:08

Awww! that's a nice way of looking at it :) wont ask the obviousnext question though

Actually, I was trying to rack my brain as to who you reminded me of yesterday and it came to me half an hour ago; you look just like one of my Governors at work ...he's really cute too and if you'd said your name was S instead of Chris, I'd have been 'what?!!! Is that you S????????'

midhusband · 01/02/2011 23:12

I moved to Southampton from Reading to do the job.
I worked on labour ward and the community but never felt satisfied with just meeting some one and helping birth there baby. When they filmed OBEM i was doing a stint in the hospital but my regular job is Sure start caseloading. I get to offer the whole package with ante natal care, birth and post natal care. The rates of home births are higher and we have less intervetion at births. Think the conservatives could learn some thing from that! All women should have this in my opinion.

harverina · 01/02/2011 23:13

Agree with you Vicar, its a great appoach.I met my designated midwife only a couple of times. Although she was formally my midwife, I saw her team members far more and did not see her at all after giving birth which I was quite shocked about. I would have preferred to have seen one person the majority of the time so that we could build a relationship. I am in Scotland, so not sure if things are different here, but I can't see the point in having an allocated midwife if you are not going to see them?

In the hospital where I gave birth, sommunity midwives are not involved in labours where there is planned intervention. So, because I suffered from obstetric cholestasis I was referred to the labour ward and there was never a chance that "my midwife" would ever be at the birth from this point. Had my pregnany continued as normal without complication my midwife may have been present had she been on shift when I happened to give birth.

ThatVikRinA22 · 01/02/2011 23:17

will you marry me? i could arrange a quickie divorce from DH and im sure he will hardly notice...im told lots of coppers end up with people in the nursing profession - the shifts match...

sorry! (ill behave now.)

midhusband · 01/02/2011 23:19

TastesLikePanda · 01/02/2011 23:25

Ooh Midhusband is one of 'us' now - using the biscuit!
Hello MH, thought you were great! Very sensitive - I'd love to have you as my midwife - i'm not even pg yet!

midhusband · 01/02/2011 23:28

I'm new to the sight so may not have grasped the true meaning of it! Hope it has not offended!

ThatVikRinA22 · 01/02/2011 23:30

sorry! hope i haven't put you off web chat...ill take that jammy dodger and bugger off!...

on a more serious note its been very enlightening, even though there is no way on gods green earth im ever having any more children, ive enjoyed OBEM and think you did a lot of good, especially for midhusbands!

well done you.

TastesLikePanda · 01/02/2011 23:32

Perfect use of the biscuit!!!

ThatVikRinA22 · 01/02/2011 23:38

oh come on you guys...its only cos i got in first...
think thats my first ever biscuit, but its ok...

Christian this is why you need to have a proper web chat, would be taken all serious like.

midhusband · 01/02/2011 23:38

Thank you every one who has been on line taking time out to chat. I need to go to bed now as i have an antenatal class tomorrow and need to get organised for it. Im hoping i will get an invitation to do a live chat soon.
Night

harverina · 01/02/2011 23:39

Bye, hopefully there will be a web chat soon.

midhusband · 01/02/2011 23:40

P.S sorry about the biscuit.

ThatVikRinA22 · 01/02/2011 23:42

forgiven.

bye for now.

solo · 01/02/2011 23:42

Good Night!

BalloonSlayer · 02/02/2011 08:30

I came on last night to post the following comment, but didn't as it seemed that Christian the midwife was actually on here, and I did think he was lovely and did a great job, and didn't want to detract from his overall fabness. HOWEVER am I (and DH) seriously the only people who thought that his comments about the partner were out of order, particularly as he was being filmed? The bloke could have been ill or under a bus for all he knew and remarks like "So you won't be naming the baby after his father then?" were pretty off.

And the remark about "it was fun nine months ago" I thought quite offensive, the sort of thing a judgemental old granny would say, like: "Well you're paying for it now, dear"

Dumbledoresgirl · 02/02/2011 09:21

You may be right BalloonSlayer, though I was on this thread as the programme was being aired, and Chris' barely disguised feelings towards the father exactly echoed the feeling being expressed here, so I think it is only natural to feel antipathy towards a man who we were told was probably drunk and incapable of making it to his baby's birth. But maybe it didn't come across as the most professional comment. I think though he was merely sympathising with the feelings probably expressed (but not aired) made by Amelia and her mother.

As for the "it was all fun 9 months ago", I didn't have any problem with that. I am certain the same thing was said to me at one of my labours. Or words to the effect of "it was a lot easier to put the baby in than it will be to get it out" or "you didn't think about this pain 9 months ago, did you?" or something along those lines. It is a fairly standard thing to say, it seems to me. I am not sure it is helpful (Chris take note!) but he was certainly not the first person to say it.

5inthebed · 02/02/2011 10:24

I can't believe I kissed the lovely Chris!

I hope he does a proper web chat, he is amazing!

Chris, do you have a FB page so we can stalk keep in touch with you?

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