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anyone online....am sobbing. DD1 wnet to pics with friends, they plied her with alcohol, and the police found her slumped on the beach alone, with no shoes or cardie, compley drunk, and bag stolen

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psychomum5 · 24/05/2009 01:14

containing her purse, mobile and new ipod touch that I bought her with my car accident money.

she is not rousable and shaking or vomiting.

help please

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TrinityIsLovingHerLittleRhino · 24/05/2009 19:43

oooh good

I have no rabbits but pleasse help me not to slosh milk into food and stuff

and we have apple trees in the garden!!

Flame · 24/05/2009 19:43

I think I'm going to have to skip. Derby was hard going, and that was with a much smaller bump. By then I will be much further along with twice the length journey - think it would be unwise

TrinityIsLovingHerLittleRhino · 24/05/2009 19:44

oh god yeah not a good idea with huge bump
gutted though

TrillianAstra · 24/05/2009 19:45

at red goatee

Flame · 24/05/2009 19:46

I'm already getting slightly disconcerted with bump size the way people keep saying "Really?" when I say I am due mid October, and then start muttering about people being due much sooner who are smaller.

PurplePillow · 24/05/2009 19:46

Well Flame you will just have to come once you've had the baby

TrillianAstra · 24/05/2009 19:47

Giant baby! What joy! Tell them you believe in spacious living

TrinityIsLovingHerLittleRhino · 24/05/2009 19:49

ooh purple, fab idea
we can see the baby then too

Flame · 24/05/2009 19:51

Psycho - DD is already saying her legs are aching... calpol before bed is prob a good idea your end too (makes sense to warn you)

tatt · 24/05/2009 19:51

glad you are feeling better. Whoever gave the alcohol to them could be prosecuted. I think its just a 60 pound fine - but enough to make brothers think again if they did pass it on to the girls? I think maybe a policeman dad could suggest they paid you the amount of the fine in compensation if you don't press charges????

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psychomum5 · 24/05/2009 19:54

tatt, tis proving it tho. altho the dad might well be able to profess upon them the seriousness of it seeing as he is a policeman maybe. he is very cross about what went on, especially as he is out regularly picking up teens at weekends. he was not impressed on it being his own daughter and friends this time!!

flame, will also sort out a hot water bottle too, thanks for the tip

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BodenGroupie · 24/05/2009 20:20

Psycho - live near you and this seems to be par for the course on a Saturday night. My DD is also 15 and went to her first beach party last week. She spent the evening looking after a complete stranger who was puking up what she thought was neat vodka. Lots of the girls in her year seem to get night buses home after their parents are in bed so they don't know how much they've drunk. Really feel for you, they have to be pretty strong to not follow the crowd.

Hope you're both OK now.

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psychomum5 · 24/05/2009 20:33

boden, am lots calmer now. I am stunned actually at how common this is. I knew it happened of course, but didn;t KNOW quite how bad (IYGWIM).

DD1 today tho is so sorry about what she put us thru. she has seen how devestated I was this morning, and her friend has said how terrified they both were last night when they lost her as they truly thought someone had got her.

I really do think she has learnt a lesson today. and all I am glad about is that as horrid the lesson has been (and believe me, I will not forget this feeling!), I am so relieved that the outcome has been this, rather than somehting tragic.

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tatt · 24/05/2009 20:36

psycho not suggesting you'd really get the cash, just that someone needs to be putting the frighteners on the suppliers .

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psychomum5 · 24/05/2009 20:38

You make a good point, frightners would be great. if one perosn gets the 'willies' put up them for it, then it might get round.

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mynaughtylittlesister · 24/05/2009 20:41

Psycho, just what to say I had a little bit of the same situation last night. DD came home drunk, she had been at a party at a rowing club. I was fuming. My DD was 15 last week. I am too really annoyed at the people who think its ok to buy alcohol for children who are under age.

I feel for you, lets hope DDs have learnt a lesson and our other DDs (I too have 3 DDs)don't feel the need to experiment.

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psychomum5 · 24/05/2009 21:12

mynaughtylittlesister, thankyou.

I have to say, had they 'just' come home drunk, I too would have been fuming.

this tho.............this was pure hell and 'just' coming home drunk seems like pure heaven! (not for one minute taking your fumingness away from you tho, tis just that being on the side that you obviously dread from the drunken experimenting I am finding it hard IYGWIM)

has your DD learnt from this do you think?? how is her hangover, does she have a hangover .

I too am hoping this is lessons learnt by my others. DD2 is sulking that this is going to ruin her abilty to be 15 now

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Ponders · 24/05/2009 21:23

psycho, I've been there too with an unconscious drunken teenager

Have read the whole thread & am so glad to hear that everything has turned out as well as it has.

Please make sure though that when the horror has dissipated, a few months down the line, you keep reminding her about last night. Kids have short memories & they need the nudge

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psychomum5 · 24/05/2009 21:26

am planning on seeing if I can get the thread saved TBH, so as to refer back to it when they start fogetting, or pushing for later curfews/bus home etc.

how has your unconscious teen revcovered??

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AitchTwoOh · 24/05/2009 21:31

oh my god psycho i'm so glad that you got her home safe by the end of the thread. a peaceful night to you all.

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psychomum5 · 24/05/2009 21:35

thanks aitch. I am hoping for a peaceful night too, altho DS2 being caught on top of the shed at 8.15pm tongiht was kind'a going against that (I swear they are out to cause me heart faliure)

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Ponders · 24/05/2009 22:00

Well mine ended up in A&E, because he was at someone else's house, & they panicked & sent him there. Having been on various drips he wasn't nearly as ill next day as he deserved to be so learned less of a lesson - I think your DD's recovery will stick in her mind (hope so )

Do save the thread (just save it locally on your PC, & print it off, that should be plenty)

noddyholder · 24/05/2009 22:14

Have been reading this out to ds who is 15 and currently being allowed more freedom.His eyes are popping out.Thank god it turned out ok for you and her.How terrifying I was on teh verge of tears reading it.It is only stuff like this which makes us stronger I suppose xxxxxxx

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psychomum5 · 24/05/2009 22:33

noddy, I could have done without this dose of strong medicine tho, I must admit. please tell your DS that if this serves as a lesson, then listen to your parents, they do actually know what they are talking about sometimes.

what is getting to me at the moment is that I actually thought her more sensible than this. altho, that said, teens are by nature not sensible as they are learning life lessons by living them. DD1 certainly learnt a life lesson last night.

I am now in bed, she is tucked in with me, and we have both had a hug. she is still feeling yack ((looooooong lesson with that I hope)), but is very sorry, has said she knows now what we have gone thru, and loves us deeply, as we do her, as so we go on towards the next lesson our teens throw at us.

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noddyholder · 24/05/2009 22:37

You sound like a good mum and she probably is sensible but peer pressure combined with the invincibility of youth are a powerful cocktail!Thank god she is safe.My son is generally sensible too but i know our time will come.I am slightly neurotic and will be a wreck I suppose. When I read some of the posts about kicking kids out with no shoes etc my heart breaks for them,they are still children even when they f**k up.