Teenage girl fallout and not sure how to help dd. Dds friends mum keeps texting from friends phone as if it’s friend and not sure how to navigate it.

[Purplyjumper]

My dd has had a minor falling out with someone she considered a close friend (call her B) who is at a different school. Ever since, Bs mum is texting dd instead of B but from Bs phone pretending to be B.

Dd said B hasn’t text her since they’ve fallen out, it’s only the mum that’s replied to dds texts and it’s obvious by the bigger words that they wouldn’t use, no emojis no shorthand text etc.

dd doesn’t know what to do about it now. Also B has been bombarding social media with pictures of her with another girl and captioning them as ‘my bff’ as if to rub it in my dd face about them falling out (it’s only happened since they fell out)

should dd just casually branch away from B? I know my dd is hurting and I want to do the best thing by everyone tbh. Dd would like to be friends again but I don’t think that’s going to happen. I am finding it a bit odd that the mum is texting and replying to dd as well and not sure how to manage this.

@Purplyjumper
A past poster gave good advice if you ask me.
Suggest your daughter text something akin to
“ Friend, these texts sound really different and not how you usually write. I won’t be replying anymore but if you want to chat you know how to reach me”

Your dd should reply with ‘Hello Mrs X’

You’re being rather vague. Is the mum texting back rude or bullying things, or is she pretending to be B so your dd doesn’t know B is mad at her? Is her mum trying to keep the relationship going while her daughter has a snit? If it’s A, dd should text hey <mums name> please tell B not to worry I have got the message.
if it’s the mum trying to hide her dds tantrum then dd should just not text her for a while.
If it’s really abusive you should share with the school and reply separately to mum that in her job she should know much better.

There’s no need to find out if it’s the mum texting or AI or to confront anyone.

The friendship has become strained, messages are weird (for whatever reason) and your daughter should be encouraged to focus on other friends.

Block.

This is very creepy.

I would text the mother "stop texting my daughter pretending to be B. It's creepy and it stops now or I will be talking to the school."

Kids fall out, that's irrelevant. Adults don't text children pretending to be children and we show our children that we don't let adults do inappropriate things.

I am not in the slightest bit surprised by anything anymore. If B's mom is texting your daughter pretending to be B, she is a toxic control freak who has crossed a major line. Your daughter should block the number immediately, and I highly recommend keeping a very watchful eye on her phone use moving forward.

If DD wants to try to save the friendship or thinks she might later, perhaps she could text something like "you don't sound like yourself right now. Let's stop texting for now and wait until we can talk in person". Then block if necessary.
This is good advice.

You must not let your DD be abused like that. It is abuse, and impersonating someone else may also be a criminal offence. Under the Malicious Communications Act 1988 and Communications Act 2003, intentionally sending false messages to cause distress or anxiety can be an offence. Persistent messages causing distress may also amount to harassment or stalking.

Your dd should step away. Are the messages in WhatsApp? Pop it in Archive or silence the chat and leave unread.

My dd had a falling out with her bff in Y8, who was lured away by another girl who was very unkind to my dd. My dd just decided to go and hang out with other friends instead. That was such a wise choice. The ex bff had matured faster than my dd and outgrown the friendship; there was a reason she was able to be seduced away by a mean girl.

About six months later, ex bff came back saying she made a mistake and she’d “split up” with her new bff who was not nice. My dd had moved on and told ex bff that it was all cool between them, but she didn’t really want to go back to just being two best friends and now she had a big group to hang out with she was happy. Ex bff found a new crowd - she is a really lovey girl, but was just not destined to be my DD’s bestie. They are now in Y11 and still friendly, but not friends. Happy ending.