How do you deal with hate my life comments?

[Chamomileandlavander]

it always happens around period time. I hate my life. I just want to die, don’t want to wake up tomorrow, go to school.

It always happens around period time. I tell her is hormones, she said is not and that I am not listening; her appetite changes too, cravings but not wanting much normal food. She has a therapist.

Rest of the time she is mostly fine, just normal teenager moods.

Is there a magic pill? Is this a phase? When do they get out of it? How do I handle it?

During holidays is not too bad as she is more rested; but the pressure of school and GCSE doesn’t help.

I’m surprised nobody has mentioned PMDD. Look at the symptoms. I get not wanting to pump your kid full of artificial hormones but sometimes the pros out weigh the cons and hormonal contraception can help, as can SSRIs. Best to give your daughter evidence based information rather than influence her with your own bias on treatment options as this could have a severe impact on her life as she gets older.

This sounds hard. I have a littler one that can say really dramatic things when upset like ‘I hate myself’, and it’s hard to know how to respond as it hurts my heart so much but I also know it’s a means to express something that is hard for her to articulate.

I think try to see it as she is telling you ‘I am feeling things I’m finding unbearable to feel’. I think we all need to feel heard and acknowledged, so agree with others to try and avoid dismissing. Yet, it’s helpful for you to remain grounded and calm, with your wiser head knowing that this will pass (without pointing it out too much!)

I’d suggest that when things are in the ok phase saying ‘I think I’ve been dismissing you a bit when you speak about how you feel when you’re on your period. I want to know how to help you. What do you need me to do or say at times like that?’ Possibly she will give you an answer but then come the time will say it doesn’t help! But will give you information about her world anyway.

She was actually the one that said this. I may persuade her again if things don’t improve with the EPO

I will do this. I still find it hard even knowing It will pass; as people said her feelings and emotions are real.

You sound quite anti medical intervention yourself - are you sure your DD isn’t picking up on your own thoughts?

I don’t think so. i took her to the dr to get advice, and she told me that; but I may suggest it again. I did read that for some people it can make things worse but I guess you won’t know until you try

I don’t think so. i took her to the dr to get advice, and she told me that; but I may suggest it again. I did read that for some people it can make things worse but I guess you won’t know until you try

My dd was like this, as was I.

i had horrendous period pain so went on the pill as soon as they offered it to me.

agree saying it is hormones will not help.

my dd didn’t want to go in the pill due to concerns about side effects but eventually she tried it and was converted.

she now has the implant.

it’s your DD’s decision about meds. Try to detach a bit and let it be.

Getting her proper medical intervention now could absolutely transform her life. I spent 20+ years suffering with my periods until I could find someone to take me seriously.

She may have told you that she’s worried about the artificial stuff but I’ll be honest, your posts absolutely scream out that you’re very into holistic treatments and vitamins - which is fine but your daughter deserves more than oily fish and evening primrose oil to help her.

Thank you and yes, I am holistic first; but I will do whatever it takes and if nothing helps I will persuade her to try the mini pill/contraceptives. Whatever it takes as it is very stressful for her and also for me.

Thank you.

Which contraceptive you and your daughter took? And does the implant has the same effect? Is there an specific one?

That’s good. As well as the pill I would ask about stronger painkillers and medication to help reduce the bleeding if those are things she struggles with too.

I found naproxen instead of regular ibuprofen to be an absolute game changer. Combined with tranexamic acid and my periods are no longer a nightmare. I no longer take the pill as I’m on other medication that doesn’t interact well with it but it can make a huge difference to quality of life.