15 year old DD can't imagine being with anyone other than bf

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If your 15 year old DD decides she can't imagine being with anyone other than her boyfriend how do you react?I

15 year old DR has decided first and current bf is it. In her opinion it's a lifetime commitment.

Has anyone been in such a circumstance?

As others have said, just nod, smile and say that's nice. You never know they may be the ones that make it. My Nephew met his now wife at secondary school and have been together for nearly nineteen years, married for 5 and are expecting baby number two in November

Also, just remembered! My cousin got pregnant by her boyfriend when they were both 15. 29 years later and they're still happy together. They had their second child when they were 30.

But… what if they do stay together? How wonderful would that be. Security, navigating teen years together, not going through endless relationships…
My son is getting married next year, he has just turned 20. He’s been with his fiancée since he was 11. They met in year 7 at secondary school.
I thought it wouldn’t last, it absolutely has. They are incredibly close. Absolutely in love.
I’ve never met ‘the one’ and I’m 54.
I’ve never had a relationship like my son and his now fiancée.
Their relationship has changed and grown just like any other relationship. They are saving for a deposit on a house and my son has a great job. They don’t really want children… definitely not yet, maybe never. But, they do want to do life together!

No, they have been together for eighteen months and everyone is very happy! Big sis is marrying the love of her life (the boyfriend was really just her best friend, not a potential love interest!)

Met DH at 13, we were best friends for a couple of years and then got together at 15. That was 16 years ago now!

People often told us it wouldn’t last and for every milestone we accomplished the goal posts would be moved and we were dutifully informed of the next milestone where we would “fail”. Just be supportive and try not to be negative. The comments were probably an attempt to prepare us for the worst but it made us feel belittled/ frustrated!

It's completely normal, but also complete and utter nonsense, It can be both.

My son and his gf were like this. A year later he ended things with her, I think they change a lot at this age and very easily go their own ways. I wouldn’t worry too much

Would it be normal to meet other parents at this age as the other parents are pushing a little for a meet..my view is its far too soon?

DD has been with the love of her life just over 6 months and I haven't met the parents. Is it new the to them also?
I did meet DS, GFs parents, we were all invited to GFs sisters 21st. They had been together less than a year.

Yes it’s a bit soon to meet. This is a teenage romance. It doesn’t need to be so serious

probably too soon, although depends how much time she is spending at their house, might be good to know them a bit if that’s the case

15 is young, still a child and below the age of consent so I think very reasonable to meet the parents to check you are all on the same page in terms of what is and isn’t appropriate for a teenage relationship. Obviously when your DD is an adult you wouldn’t expect to meet a partner’s parents if it’s not serious, but actually whilst she’s still a child it’s sensible even if reality is they probably won’t last forever.

I just meant I’d be angry with my best friend if he hit on my little sister

Why not? What harm can it do? Either they will stay together or break up. You can be friendly to the boy and his parents either way.

This! It’s all being taken far too seriously, by all parties, op included. It probably won’t last, but of course she thinks it will, teenagers are fanciful like that and it’s (probably?) her ‘first love’!

One of my closest friends has been with her bf since 15. Same uni etc. it’s mad to think they’ve been together 25 years and we’re only 40! My sister (late 30s) has been with her bf since 16 ish, he was her second ‘serious’ bf. Different unis, but only an hour or so away,
visited once per term each. I also know a couple of couples who have been together since we were at school together - one was 13! So it happens, don’t patronise her by telling her it won’t last, it might. Just let her enjoy it and support her if things go wrong.

Surely that’s totally normal!

I was 15 and started going g out with my first boy. He was called Billy and he was the greatest boy in the world. I was so loved up . We went out for 1 month then he dumped me. Omg I was distraught, thought I’d never get over him and I’d stay single for the rest of my life. And I absolutely stuck to that for …… a month and then Steve came along. He was the greatest boyfriend in the world and I was so loved up. He lasted longer than Billy but that scenario happened again and again. My dad was great with teenage angst, he just listened and made sympathetic noises handed out tissues and hugs as needed. My mum less so, she would say “ oh for goodness , you’re not in love don’t be silly “ not helpful. When my son hit this stage I used my dad’s method rather than my mum’s.

Don't most teens with first lives feel like this

Yes , exactly this . My 15vyr old son has stayed with and married his first and only girlfriend . He's now 40 and they are very happy and adore each other . It can work .

I felt that at 15, I was right . 47 years ago.

Agree with this. However my thoughts are meeting the parents can add another layer to the relationship through a show of parental approval? It's all new to me thougn.

Young love! I felt like that at 15. We went to separate colleges, separate universities, did 6 years of long distance, moved in together, renovated a house together, got married, renovated another house, went through IVF and had our incredible son, experienced the highs and lows of life together. 24 years later, he’s my absolute soulmate and I’m thankful every day that we met so young. Sometimes it works, most often not, but just be happy that she’s happy and support her if that changes.

Ah. But you are assuming that he hit on her. This is more like two people who have known each other (through older sister) for years but only peripherally yet move in the same social circles, finally meeting as equals and realising that they get on very well.

I also imagined at first that it would be like the plot of a dreadful romance novel ("forbidden love!" "I want him, but I MUST NOT love him!") but it's actually all working out quite nicely and everyone is very happy.

Totally normal, I felt the same about my first “love” at 15. Best thing is to remain completely neutral about it x