15 year old DD can't imagine being with anyone other than bf

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If your 15 year old DD decides she can't imagine being with anyone other than her boyfriend how do you react?I

15 year old DR has decided first and current bf is it. In her opinion it's a lifetime commitment.

Has anyone been in such a circumstance?

They haven't even done their GCSEs and simply don't have realistic perspective on life, jobs, life long fidelity etc.....guess just worried.

I got with DH when we were 15, this wasn’t long ago we’re still in our 20’s. So it could be that it is forever, but it more than likely won’t be. I’d honestly just let her get on with it, make sure she’s using contraception and leave her to it as long as she still has a life outside of him. I think it’s a completely normal teen thing, you don’t want to make a big deal out of it.

I was 15 and my hubby was 17 when we started going out together, we got married 7 years later and have been happily for 41 years now.
Let them enjoy their relationship

I’d just smile and say that’s nice and think no more about it

I was like this. We are still together now

This is normal surely. She can’t imagine being with anyone else because she has zero life experience. It is incredibly likely that this will be the that of several relationships before she settles down but you never know. My grandparents were together from the age of 14.
It wouldn’t matter if they do stay together would it?

Youngest DD was like this. With him from 16 to 27, bought a house together, then split up. He was a nice lad but she outgrew him faster than he could keep up.

She's now bought a house alone and is going out with her older sister's best friend (male). Girls tend to mature faster than boys and, IME, often leave them behind when they hit their twenties.

I fell in love at 15 , life long love
married at 20 and divorced at 23
Discourage if you can. They have no clue

I'd say how do you know you are sexually compatible?

I was sixteen. Married, bought a house, had a baby, still in love and in our thirties.

Yes this probably won’t be her only partner but feeling this way is normal. Contraception and be ready for potential heartbreak.

I started dating DH when I was 16 and I, nearly 43 now so she might be right. She also might be wrong and she can’t imagine having another boyfriend in the future because she’s young, in love and doesn’t have a frame of reference personally for a relationship ending. If he seems like a decent boy and treats her well just let it play out and see how it goes.

Daughter is in her 20s and still with the ‘boy’ she met at school when they were 16. Both been through different Universities.

Completely normal to be besotted with your first love.

You say ‘I felt the same way about Josh’. Then look wistful.

‘Whos Josh’ they ask.

‘Oh he had lovely curly hair and blue eyes. Oh the bloom of youth.’ Then you continue to sigh blissfully as you wander from the room.

He might be The One. My mum & dad met at 16. Still married more than 50 years later.

Bet that caused a bust up with big sis.

What's the issue? Don't all 15 year olds feel that way? It usually fizzles out not long after... Except on my case. Still together 25 years later, married, kids, mortgage and extremely happy together.

I thought the same at 16 with my first boyfriend. I recall my mum telling me that very few people married their first loves which made me feel quite sad really.

We dated for 4yrs till we grew apart and years later he came out. We have both been happily married to other people for years.

Id probably say thats ok love you dont have to imagine yourself with or without him. Just have fun and mind yourself. You know you can talk to me about anything so if things start to get a little more serious pls come to me and if you need help im here. Other tham that just enjoy being 15.

Im with dh since i waa 16..mum didnt approve and made it clear.
But i did and still do just adore him. 40 years later.

I tend to think of boys falling in love harder/being more like this, but yes, it can happen with girls. Personally I just had the attitude there's no point in thinking of a serious relationship in my teens, so there are people who just block that off, but some people have been married to their teenage b/gf for decades, so it can work, I guess.

surely every 15 yo in love has been in that situation? ok I was 28, it still first bf. I assumed we'd get married, have a couple of kids and live happily ever after.
to quote one of the aunts from Sabrina the Teenage Witch "at 25 it's ALWAYS true love*

That's because she's in the first flush of her first relationship. That feeling will fade and it's very likely that the relationship will end at some point in the (near) future. But you don't have to burst her bubble, just be supportive when that happens.

They're 15!

They're not going to think like they are 40.

Don't worry, they'll be boring and middle aged more mature in time.

Yeah, I had baby names picked out with my boyfriend when I was 15. We stayed together for 2 years in the end.

However, out of my local friendship group of 8 women in our 30s, 40s, and 50s, 4 have happily been with their partners since they were 14 or 15, so you never know.

My son got his first girlfriend at 15 and yes babies, where they were going to live and do - the lot. Covid years so they were each others bubble. Lasted a couple years but moved on eventually. My stepson however is married to his first girlfriend. Met at 16, married at 28 and now have three kids!