Providing booze at a 15th party

[wingsandstrings]

DD is turning 15 in a few weeks. She is hosting a party of about 20/25 people here at the house. She does not drink. But she says that there is 'an expectation' of alcoholic drinks being providing at parties now, amongst her year group. I am deeply uncomfortable at having a bunch of 14 and 15 year olds in my house and providing alcohol. I think it's a safeguarding issue and weird to be sanctioning drinking so young when we know how harmful alcohol is. But I don't want to embarrass her. I am not naive, I know many of her friends drink. So you think there is an expectation that at a 15th alcohol is provided? Should I provide a few beers?

Do you like your neighbours? Because I’m pretty certain they will not like you in the coming weeks

No. I would not supply any - this leaves you very exposed if something happens at the party or hod forbid on the way home. Lots of parents will not be expecting their dc to drink or alcohol to be provided and will be furious.

A good way to deal with this is let it be know that if anyone has alcohol it needs to be parent supplied - your dc needs to tell their friends this. I've done this with two dds and other parents too so it's a normal position to take from my experience.

My friend's niece had a 15th party for 30 kids & there was booze available. The house was completely trashed from top to bottom & they had to call a professional cleaning firm in. There was vomit everywhere and apparently the bath was used as a toilet....

Please don't provide any alcohol because drunk people do not respect boundaries or other people's property.

It's is also likely your dd will have horrid time worrying about the house and people behaving. That is a lot of people. 8 is a better number regardless of booze!

Were they throwing up?