My teen wants to go to his concert; this looks horrifying to me, am I just out of touch?

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Is this acceptable pop music videos, and I'm just over-protective, and out of touch with the current music culture 'norm'?

is the new teaser video. Is this, absolutely fine, and safe, for 14yo - 16yo, to go with peers, to see the concert of this new album?

Lou Reed, walk on the wild side, & Diana Ross, Chain reaction, have unsuitable lyrics and yet here we are.
radio 1 played some Tyler the creator yesterday, loved the track.
I’m very much the wrong side of 50.
OP you’ll have to offer to go with him (guaranteed to make him suddenly lose interest)

“Poor kid” and “your poor son” is a bit OTT. Part of being a teenager is having to accept your parents boundaries. Some parents would be fine with it , others not and nobody is in the wrong. He’ll hardly be scarred for life if he doesn’t get to go.

Stand by your gut feelings OP, it doesn't matter what other parents allow.

Blimey, my mates and I were going to concerts at 13! How times have changed!

My 14 year old DS has asked to go to this too. He’ll be 15 when it happens. I’m very reluctant, had never heard of this artist until today but it tells me something that none of his songs will play on my Spotify account as I have it set to no explicit content (have younger daughters too). DS has separate user login so must be listening to all the lyrics. It’s a bit gross. Apparently he doesn’t perform his particularly hateful songs about rape and violence towards women and homophobia anymore. I guess he wants a pat on the back for that. All his songs are full of swearing.

I'm pretty sure under 16s can’t go to the O2 without an adult anyway. Maybe they don’t check ID. Anyway, I’m not keen at all!

I’ve also got a 15 yo dd wanting to go to the Birmingham concert… it’s her safety that worried me - I’m imagining lots of drugs and gangsters.

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No view on this specific band but all the posters here saying they don’t let their 15/16 year olds go to concerts without parents at all make me rather sad. Going to gigs with your mates is a fairly normal part of being a teenager.
I think most are based on content though- huge difference between eg Taylor swift or Coldplay or the concert op is talking about- there’ll be drink, drugs and idiots looking for a fight

I'd never even heard of this artist until dd asked if she could have concert tickets for Christmas yesterday. I recognise the genre from what she listens to at home, I really don't like some of the rap lyrics I've heard but it seems to be a hugely popular and trendy genre for teens at the moment.

As others have said, it happens with every generation and has done since Elvis. Not saying you should let your teen go op, go with your gut feeling and what feels comfortable to you and your family.

Sounds like concert tickets won't be around for long, me or dh would have to go with dd and let her bring a friend. I'd better do a bit of research if this artist is controversial! If the lyrics are all full of misogyny and homophobia as pp's have said then I'll need to have a chat with dd. I can't control what music she likes, but sounds like I might need to have a look at the lyrics and open up a conversation with her. So thanks op, I wouldn't have thought to do this if I hadn't read this post, it's all a learning curve.

Tyler is an incredible artist and the concert will be amazing

I really like that! I go to anything though and listen to any music that's 'catchy' - I was listening to pink at 10 and would have given anything to have gone to be gobbed on by a Pistol so let him go, it's part of growing up.

Not Pink. PUNK - the razor blade and bondage gear kind!

I'd let him go but at that age I was at Brixton academy and the LA2 jumping round mosh pits to korn and machine head (which my mum hated, but she let me go)

Too young. Concerts are intense. It would be a solid no from me.

The 'whole point' seems to be a Mother taking offence at a mask & a bit of whispering, supposedly.

I'd love to see how uppity she would have gotten if her kid were into Slipknot or Ghost.

Huge issue with misogyny amongst teens at the moment, not sure we should be just shrugging our shoulders and accepting teens will be teens. Even if you let them go, would be good to have conversations

It sounds dreadful but it's not for kids anyway. 14 year olds aren't allowed to get into films rated 18.

My son is desperate to go but it looks like they're slap bang in the middle of GCSE's. Those of you with year 10's, how are you all managing this? We could travel to Manchester during half term but it would be a long trip & overnight stay which I'm not sure is sensible at that time. My son is a huge fan and desperate to go to his first proper gig

Not surprising if they're listening to garbage like this.

No standards anywhere these days.

Have you watched it to the end? 😳

Blimey, I started going to gigs at 14 - bloody great times! Me and my mates, dancing and singing away. We used to go to Carnival from that age too. Huge fun!

Tyler the Creator is fairly new to my ancient ears but I was listening to the new album yesterday and thought it was great.

Let him go!

The venue for this concert nearest to me says "Under 16's To Be Accompanied By Parent/Guardian - Standing Strictly Over 14s".
Under these circumstances they wouldn't want to go anyway, so problem solved!

Ds has been talking about Tyler the creator. But just that he likes the music. We're a radio 6 house, which he considers music for old people, so he was quite surprised to hear ttc on there.

I don't have a problem with loud,sweary music. It was what I annoyed my parents with at his age. But I'm still pissed off they wouldn't let me get the train to Manchester with another girl, at 14, to watch a gig. Had no idea how I was going to get home or anything, but felt they were very unreasonable.
By 15/16 they left me to it.

I was going to gigs that my parents thought were really unsuitable at 13 and 14 - in the early 70s bands like Black Sabbath, the Groundhogs, and the Edgar Broughton Band were very much frowned upon, but they were some of the most memorable concerts I've ever been to. I would have really resented my parents if they hadn't met me go, and would probably have sneaked out anyway. I was taking my daughter to heavy metal gigs from when she was 13, and we saw some brilliant bands like Korn together, until she got too embarrassed to be seen with me😆. She went off to Download when she was 16 and had the time of her life.

Many years ago ''Johnny Rotten'' was shocking to parents.

Now he is part of the Establishment, very staid.

Then Snoop Dogg.

''Parental advisory'' but Snoop Dogg is also mainstream now.

@TwinklyTaupePanda There will probably be security there, I understand why you are worried, but forbidding a gig will make it all the more desirable.

If his friends are sensible, I'd consider it.

Definitely check the venue most don’t allow unaccompanied under 16s.