DS’s girlfriend is pregnant.

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DS is 17 years old and his girlfriend is 16. They have been sleeping together a few months. I talked to him about contraception but he told me his girlfriend was not keen keen to go on the pill but they used condoms. Today he he told me that his girlfriend is 6 weeks pregnant. They are both very upset. They have already told his girlfriend’s mum and she has arranged for her to have an abortion. My son’s girlfriend is so upset that she will never get over this and that she is doing the wrong thing. My son is being very supportive and has told his girlfriend that he will support any decision she makes. My son is so sad and responsible that this happened. I have given him a hig and told him I will be there for them both. What else can I do?

That is far from everyone’s experience of it. I had one years ago (I genuinely can’t remember the date of it). I only think about it when it comes up in threads like this, and I’ve never felt anything other than sheer relief that I was able to access it, and that I did.

Sorry for your trauma but you're not the thread police. I think it IS best you leave the thread if you can't discuss rationally.

Give over

I really think the couple are far too young to go ahead and have a child. Really how will you all cope if the young lady has her baby. Surely they would be far better to continue their education ,build a career and then decide about a family. That is my feeling on the situation.

Sex isn't bad. I was just as horny as the boys. My mum never came into the equation. She taught me to be safe. I was.

Er.. when did your kids do the sex Ed curriculum? My youngest even taught me somethin that I never knew about. My annoyance at your post is because you are slamming the females with implications of it being the mums responsibility , why not the fathers. And it doesn't matter how many horny boys come sniffing.... girls get horny too.

I can't imagine walking into double maths and EVERYONE (including probably the teacher) knowing I went to Poundtown the previous night.

The jokers are out tonight🤡

If you practice safe sex the risk is minute. If the worst does happen, well, other options are thankfully avaliable

It's rather obvious why her Mum is packing her off to a clinic asap; let's face it, she'll be the one to take on a huge amount of the burden if her 16 yr old daughter has a baby.

I know a case like this and the young couple didn't manage to stay together for the length of the pregnancy. The boy was then going to the school formal with another girl, and on one occasion I walked past him in the main town library "chilling" and laughing on a sofa with another girl on his lap.

I worked in the same place as his mother, she and her husband tried their utmost to contribute and keep civil terms with the girl and her family, but it was an ongoing battle.

A battle mostly created by their son and his behaviour.

Maybe op's son wouldn't be as cavalier and irresponsible, but as the girl's mother; you can totally understand why you wouldn't want to end up with a grand child from your 16 yr old, living at home daughter, whose relationship with the baby's father may not actually last 5 mins.

Anyway op, no offence but your son is a dickhead for telling you he was using condoms and not using them. Unless they are saying one broke, in which case why didn't they get the MAP.

He's lucky he's not caught for 18 yrs of child maintenance and pressure to be a father to a child, hope he learns from it.

Did you tell your daughter to have a jill off? Did you stop your son to jack? What would you have done if your parents said the same to you? It wouldn't have stopped them or you from having a bonk. What do you believe age of consent should be?

There are other methods of contraception

Is the official rate not 2% failure (if used correctly).

I thought this too. Hope she is being given the opportunity to consider all the options.

Crazy as this may sound, but... people are all different. How mads that! My brother didn't even have a girlfriend until he was nearly 19. I was having sex well well before then. Same parents, same upbringing. Different people.

How difficult is it to understand that it would be good as a back up- these excuses lead to everything falling on the woman. Honestly I despair of comments like this, stop giving men a get out of jail free card.

In a committed relationship yes I would trust a man.

But when I was young I would prefer a belt and braces approach. We could be both be on the pill and use condoms .

It’s not down to any of those things. It’s down to having a willing partner. Education, values and morals go out of the window when raging hormones and opportunity collide.

Why would they have sex so young? Hormonal, peer pressure, emotional or in my case being at a single sex bording school I'd say. I do tend to agree with the theory you have, but the reality can be that teenagers can't control their hormones, they are pushing boundaries (that is hormonal or emotional). I'd also say that parental discipline and values can backfire because the teen is rebelling or not wanting to be controlled.
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Problem is you can also regret not having an abortion.

Lots of posts on here from parents who planned for a child, but looking back wouldn't make the same decision.

It is impossible to know how it would have turned out, it could just as easily be a massive regret .

Saying that on a personal level I am sorry you feel like this.

Congrats, OP! Sounds like YOUR SON really wants a baby!

This entirely. The most promiscuous out of my group of friends was the one having to lie to their parents about where they were.

I really don’t understand why people struggle with the notion of an abortion? Seems like a horrid thing in the moment, but it’s really not. It’s really, really not. That’s coming from someone in the medical field.