DS’s girlfriend is pregnant.

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DS is 17 years old and his girlfriend is 16. They have been sleeping together a few months. I talked to him about contraception but he told me his girlfriend was not keen keen to go on the pill but they used condoms. Today he he told me that his girlfriend is 6 weeks pregnant. They are both very upset. They have already told his girlfriend’s mum and she has arranged for her to have an abortion. My son’s girlfriend is so upset that she will never get over this and that she is doing the wrong thing. My son is being very supportive and has told his girlfriend that he will support any decision she makes. My son is so sad and responsible that this happened. I have given him a hig and told him I will be there for them both. What else can I do?

I'd be deeply disappointed in both of them.

That's a bit unfair. Look at the thousands of grown woman who have "contraception failures" and get sympathy on MN.

This and similar ages. A secret I have never told anyone apart from the father who supported me at the time. I have never told my husband or children. I have no regrets. I hope my children will talk to me if they are ever in a similar situation. We are much closer so I would hope so.

@OfficerDoofie have you ever met a teenager?

All the relevant information is easily found online.

You're old enough to know , by a long chalk, that pregnancies end long before 12 weeks quite naturally. And it's somewhat inaccurate of you to harp on about hearts and skin when in fact that's not what exists other than as a tiny handful of cells.

So it's not science, however much you try to insist it is.
It's emotional blackmail that you're practising.

When you were young, you and other women could not know they were pregnant at 6 weeks.

For women in their 60s and 70s now, (which is probably you) they had to wait much longer which made things worse if they wanted an abortion.

Now they do and it gives them the chance to make a decision, hard as it may be, that is better for them (the woman.)

You have no right to try to make women change their minds in the pretence of being 'scientific'.

And yet you only quoted the bits that suit your agenda.

If you've only quoted facts as opposed to your opinion, how come ALLLLL of us have picked up your "pro-life" stance loud and clear?

Or do you deny being pro-life?

You’re right. But it’s not going to enhance them, is it?

😂😂😂

Sorry pressed post too soon. Your son is lucky to be able to talk to you about this and have your support whatever the decision. Be there for him and his girlfriend. Have you spoken to the girls parents at all? Would it be appropriate to do so? Thinking of you all as this is so tough for everyone. However it's not the end of the world, worse things happen and he has a loving supportive family around him.

At last, someone who isn’t squeamish about the facts. Thank you for your honesty.

She's 16. A child. Realistically completely unable to raise a child on her own. No income. No housing of her own. It kind of is up to her mother really. Children shouldn't be having children and those that do 100% need the potential maternal grandmother to be fully on board, because let's be honest, that's the woman who's going to be raising the baby.

I knew damn well at 16 not to get pregnant as an abortion would be the only choice. I also knew at 16 that I did'n't want to be to that guy for the rest of my life, which had barely started.

Sensible decision all round.

Pleased remember that counselling is a bit of a process, but really well done for seeking the right help. Obviously there is no shame to speaking to your GP about pills to help steady your mood. Really well done to yourself and hugs from me to say you will get through this and come out the other side.

Like I said, I haven’t posted any opinion.
I don’t intend to start now.

I think you've missed the point of that post @AgileGreenSeal 😂

Hilarious! 😂😂😂

What's the age of consent where you live and why is it down to the mother?

No she won't necessarily. You do.

I lost a baby at 18 weeks - technically called an abortion as it was under the magic number of weeks needed to be called a stillborn. A much wanted baby.

I think of it only from time to time. I was 37 years old at the time and married. Your post has just reminded me. You can't dwell on awful things that happen or else you will simply not grow and experience wonderful things. Shit happens - unfortunately.

There's nothing to say at all that this will ruin her life but having a baby at 16 pretty much will. End of her youth as we know it.

I haven’t “tried to make women” do anything. I’ve posted factual, scientific information easily verifiable by anyone.

Might be better coming from someone outside the situation? The possibility of getting this wrong is very real. I don’t think you should put yourself in a position where you could be seen to influence her judgement. Pregnancy Counselling Services?

So 16 then. Oare you aware that children are taught sex Ed at school, incase the parents haven't had the talk. Also both the boy and girl are equally responsible, so don't get why you are saying that it's the mother of the girls fault.

I’ll have you know I had an excellent Catholic upbringing with mandatory attendance of mass. It didn’t take.

You trying to debate with me over something that caused me trauma and regret is totally inappropriate. My post was intended to give balance to what is in my opinion a pretty ghoulish thread. Did you notice that I hadn’t actually said anything about the moral, scientific or social considerations?
I stated my personal experience. Perhaps OP might take find it useful along with the comments from the abortion enthusiasts?

Im leaving this thread, it’s very upsetting for me.

Thanks