DS’s girlfriend is pregnant.

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DS is 17 years old and his girlfriend is 16. They have been sleeping together a few months. I talked to him about contraception but he told me his girlfriend was not keen keen to go on the pill but they used condoms. Today he he told me that his girlfriend is 6 weeks pregnant. They are both very upset. They have already told his girlfriend’s mum and she has arranged for her to have an abortion. My son’s girlfriend is so upset that she will never get over this and that she is doing the wrong thing. My son is being very supportive and has told his girlfriend that he will support any decision she makes. My son is so sad and responsible that this happened. I have given him a hig and told him I will be there for them both. What else can I do?

Is this appropriate talk on such a serious thread discussion?🤔

@OfficerDoofie I agree sex should be for over 18s only in an ideal world but doubt this would work as an age of consent.

I was nearly 19 which I think was about right.

I really and truly do not think kids should be having sex while they're still at school.

@Vettrianofan go and google it and see if it cheers your (po) face up.

Because there’s never any trauma or heartbreak in a Christian marriage?!

I guess in his line of work you might need to be more careful than the average...

Exactly. 16 year olds are not mature enough to deal with sex.

in the olden days girls were married at 14. Just because it was ‘legal’ doesn’t make it right. Neither a 14 year old nor a 16 year old should not be having to make that decision.

I have never heard of a pill for men being prescribed.

My dh had the implant over twenty years ago.

They just need to accept the responsibility and you need to support..“

No they don’t and no OP doesn’t, @good96

The Catholic Church does not hold sway in the UK, thank goodness.

No but it's a serious adult rship and presumably they aren't still living at home. So pregnancy isn't as likely to be a disaster. Anyway, doesn't have to be a Christian marriage. That poster just said it was Christian teaching that sex was for marriage.

1. The girl is not being forced. She has spoken to her Mum, is sad, but has made her decision.
2. Well, that's a gamble, isn't it? There is testimony on this thread from women who had children young and those who are the daughters of very young Mums, who tell a different story.

@Vettrianofan you realise this is a chat website? Not Newsnight. For all we know OP is a bored teen themselves and it's all made up.

“Instead of sex education children should be taught self-esteem education.”

THIS

The new human being is already there in the womb of the 16 year old.
He or she is what the abortion will destroy.

About 10 years ago 4 BILLION was owed in unpaid child support and the government decided to write half of it off. That doesn’t speak to many happy out comes from adult relationships.

I think people need to be far more selective in who they have children with, and even then it won’t be perfect because none of us have a crystal ball, but abortion certainly helps in allowing us that choice.

OK we get it @AgileGreenSeal you're pro-life.

IMHO the abortion will destroy a clump of cells, not a "he or she". But will SAVE the life of TWO 16yr olds

@Naunet I don't disagree with you.

My mum got pregnant at 14, and put me up for adoption. Best decision. She went on to have 2 more kids with my dad. But had matured 10 more years. They are great patents but knew they couldn't look after me so young.

However much you dress it up as the logical decision it is still ending a human life and that has psychological implications.

For some, sure. But not for me and thus, not for all. Zero ‘psychological implications’ here. I also didn’t see a cluster of 9 week old cells as ‘human life’. It’s a decision I remain glad and relieved to have made.

It is not a bloody baby yet. Go mix the raw ingredients for bread into a bowl and then eat it - it’s bread right, so no problem?

So you should always feel like you made the right decision.

Just because you're sad/regretful about an abortion, doesn't mean it was the wrong choice.

You're right. I'm sure they've amassed a wealth of qualifications and built successful careers at their ripe old ages. Silly me.

What are you getting from posting on this thread? Because it's not supporting the op and her situation

An embryo's sex is determined at the moment of fertilization, when a sperm's X or Y chromosome fertilizes an egg's X chromosome so yes, he or she is the appropriate language.

At six weeks pregnant the embryo is covered with skin, has a beating heart and his or her brain and organs are developing.

Science doesn’t care about your opinion.