15 DD said she is ready for sex! Help please

[MrsNe]

Hello, I have been googling this all night. I'm
So please she
Told me her "friend" from Luton is coming to visit her today as she was helping with laundry to get specific clothes washed that she wants to wear. She has never helped before with laundry voluntarily- usually have to tell her to and she reluctantly does it.
Anyway, they met a month ago at a concert we attended as a family and have been pre-chatting ok snap exclusively.
We got back from 2 weeks holiday and he is coming to see her- got her Pandora gift apparently and she made us help hunt for a gift for him- she is not usually bothered with going to Medina/Market when on holiday.
Anyway, I get joke form work at midnight, she comes to help with laundry and casually said, you know how you said we could go to GP when I was ready... can we go tomorrow please? I think I
Am ready.
I thanked her for telling me and she went on today, he is a virgin, turns 18 next week and because she is 16 in November, she would
Like to do more than kiss.
I said I'd book GP but that as its first time they are meeting after first meet to stick to kissing for now.
I am a sergeant in police so she knows about tea and consent video and we discussed this again.
I can't stop her o know but omg!
Anything else I can do? Have a 13 year old DD also and don't want to set a precedent.
Thanks in advance.

Do you know anything about him, other than what your DD has told you? Which is what he has told her! They met at a concert, he is coming to visit, but from where? You don't know anything about him. It's not like he is a local lad, and your dd knows some of his mates or someone who might know him. That's all red flags for me, even before the option of whether they should have sex or not.

I never understand these posts saying oh you're such a good mum because your DD feels comfortable talking to you about these things. As if it's somehow a good thing that a 15 year old thinks it's acceptable to shag a random she's met once and ask mum for permission.

To me, a good parent is someone who drums into their DD from a young age that they need to have more respect for themselves and have sex legally and within a long term relationship when the time is right. A good parent is also someone who protects their child and prevents them from getting into situations which could damage their emotional and physical health at a time when they should be studying as hard as possible to give themselves the best chance in life.

I'm surprised you think it's ok in this day and age that an 18 year old man would be having sex with your 15 year old minor. It's illegal, given your job it's not something I'd want to corroborate. Personally I wouldn't be allowing this meet up and given she's still a child you can stop it. Then I'd ask her to wait until she is actually 16 and take it slowly when they do meet up rather than pre arranging sex as it seems rather odd to be planning it rather than letting it develop organically. It's nice that your dd has confided in you, it's now up to you to be the parent and offer adult advice and guidance with some boundaries.