DS1 is 18, home for the summer after his first year at university. He’s my eldest child and I’m a single parent, so everything is new, and I never really know what is OK and what isn’t.
He’s generally a good kid, has a holiday job, came on the family holiday, gets on with his brother (age 15), plays football with him etc. But like all kids his age he goes out drinking with his mates, maybe one night a week, and comes back drunk. I don’t drink, and I hate it when he gets drunk, but that’s what they do isn’t it. He’s had girlfriends but ever any serious ones.
Last night he went into town - his phone battery died but he called me at midnight from a friend’s phone to say he’d be late as they were going clubbing. I heard him come in at 4am (he was quiet but I’m a light sleeper). He’s just texted me from his bedroom asking me not to come in as he’s brought “a mate” home. I’ve got no idea if this will be a lad sleeping on his floor, a female friend in his bed, or a random girl from town.
We’ve never discussed him bringing people back, never said it was OK, never said it wasn’t. I’m feeling a bit peeved about the whole thing, but I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable. I find adjusting to the changes that come with him becoming an adult quite difficult, so I never know if my reactions are reasonable, or if I should just accept it.
How would others feel?