So my DS is 14yo and in year 10. His girlfriend of 3 mths is year 11 and 16yo. There’s a pattern developing where she spends most of the weekend at our house - no sleepovers but she’s here Friday after school, Saturday & Sunday afternoon to 8/9pm.
Naturally within that time we’ve planned to cook family meals but because she’s here we of course share the food we’ve prepared but we are a family of 5, we already spend a fair bit on weekly food shop. I haven’t yet bought more food bcos of her presence but I have to think whether we have enough for 6 of what I’ve planned to cook.
Also, DS makes her lunch when she arrives (soup & sandwich) and he took a flask of hot soup into school the other day for her - she gets Free School Meals but doesn’t want to queue so either doesn’t eat lunch or takes handouts from her friends.
She’s a lovely girl but we’re feeling the strain of having an extra mouth to feed! Any ideas how we tackle this one? 🤔
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SalTtt · 21/02/2024 14:29
Octavia64 · 21/02/2024 14:46
If she is on free school meals then she comes from a very low income family.
Her family may well not be able to provide what you see as minimum (hence the bus and walking in the dark).
It's reasonable to be concerned about how much she is eating - personally I would be trying to find a tactful way of working out if she is actually hungry and coming to yours to be fed.
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Itslegitimatesalvage · 21/02/2024 15:28
Tell them she can come for one day, so either Friday after school or Saturday or Sunday. And she can have lunch or dinner but not both.
Really though, she is 16 and he is 14. You need to have some boundaries in place because they shouldn’t be so enmeshed at this age. Start limiting her time at your house.
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