Ds in serious trouble

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Hi, yesterday had a email of the school, they had tried to ring me I was in work. About a incident that happened in school with ds 15. He had confronted a boy a year older about sending him racist msgs via ds girlfriends ph bear in mind this happened a week ago.
My ds went up to this boy and he had a pen in his hand as just come out of lesson and hit him with it, that is my ds version teacher said that my ds stabbed him with it.
This boys group of friends then chased ds all round school even knocking his food of his tray when stood with teacher. Spitting at him and shouting at him telling him to go back to monkeyland.
My ds is 100% wrong in stabbing someone with a pen as if that had been a knife! But now I'm at my wits end and really don't know what to do. His gf was telling these boys to msg my ds racist things of her ph apparently and tried to set him up to get beat up by these boys.
I have taken his phone of him and told him it is over with his gf as he has been òn a massive downward spiral since being with her.

No. The attempted stabbing is the most important issue. Death or injury always take precedence over words, no matter how ugly the words are.

Phone?

It depends on whether your ds reported the racism so that the school could deal with it. It also depends on whether your ds girlfriend is telling the truth. Regardless It isn't OK for him to be physically aggressive.

I'd 100% agree with this. Monkeyland? Racist messages on the phone? WTF is going on?

As far as I'm concerned your son was not the instigator here. Obviously hitting the boy with a pen will get him in trouble on some level but make sure you go into the school meeting with every text and racist message, and a written account of the racist taunts. He shouldn't have to live with racist bullying everyday, and the school needs to be doing more.