Told to shut up by my teenage son last night, having spent the whole afternoon of my 'day off' cleaning his filthy room, I am done. (Who puts the remains of their packed lunch in their underwear drawer? It was OLD) I realise that this is mild to what some people have to put up with, but I'm at the end of my rope.
My husband sat completely mute and offered no support and so that is IT. I've got two mid teen kids, I'm not being an unpaid slave to them any longer. I'm their mum. Surely they can appreciate what I do enough to be even civil?
My husband says I have a temper and I resort to shouting. When I've asked someone to do a 30 second job for four or five DAYS and it's still not been done, I've got nowhere to go but shout. There is no punishment that works and my husband wont support me suspending their phone contracts.
I'm so cross, I've put all son's washing in a black bag in his room and told him that it's now up to him. I'll make sure his uniform is clean, but apart from that, he's on his own. They do virtually nothing, spend HOURS on their devices and bicker over who empties which half of the dishwasher, this drives me so mad I end up doing even that myself. When I say do nothing, I mean they don't even close cupboard doors, remains of food are just left where they sat with them, fruit peel desiccates behind beds, crisp packets are tucked behind furniture, I have to clean the toilet before I use it. I can't keep the house even reasonable without feeling like I'm doing nothing else. I work almost full time and study on the side.
Today I can't even take off for some alone time as my husband can't currently drive due to a health problem and so I'm also their only transport.
I swear I will never iron their stuff again and it they want socks, they can sort the massive basket full that is ALWAYS my job. I don't care that it's petty.
Husband now expects me to make a list of jobs I want doing and he'll allocate them tasks. So he helps by giving me another job to do.
Moan over. Thank you for your time.