Son takes £180 out of the cash machine the day he gets paid every month for this year

[Lee2628]

Thoughts? His 17 lives in our house for free as well as food paid for so what could this be?

Jesus, there are some negative people on here.
I have done this since I got my first job at 16. I took out x amount as "pretty cash" for things like fast food, cinema etc. Easier to budget when you have physical cash.
Still do it now for "fun money" and am much, much older than 16!

Why are you snooping at his bank statements?

OP hasn't said how she knows. Maybe she has, maybe she hasn't.

Why do you know this?

Maybe he's started a "runaway" fund to get away from nosey parents.

Gosh a cash withdrawal in the weeks before 25 December. What could it mean ?

I call turkey.

Unless it's your money, what's it got to do with you?

To wind you up because he knows you are (somehow) taking a close interest in the particulars of his finances?

Without knowing your son, we couldn’t possibly guess. For all we know, he might have a Ferrari he needs to run, or 6 children, or an intensive singing course he’s paying for!

@Feedingthebirds1

Why are you snooping at his bank statements?

OP hasn't said how she knows. Maybe she has, maybe she hasn't.

I reckon if they had a relationship where he freely lets her check them, she would be able to ask him directly rather than posting on here and speculating

I used to take cash out at pay day and it was my spending money for the month, to be spent on anything non essential. Bills, food shopping etc came out of my account, anything extra came from the cash.

I suppose £180 is quite a weird specific amount to take out every month. If it is spends for the month why not a nice round £150 or £200?

The correct answer would be
“None of your business”
He works for his wages, he gets to do what he wants with them.
Unless you decide to start charging rent/keep keep your beak out

How do you even know anyway?

That’s about a months worth of weed, according to my pot smoking friend...

Why don’t you ask him.

The come back and let us know.

Have you asked him?

a) Does he smoke, to your knowledge (or maybe even not to your knowledge)? Does he go out regularly?
If so quite likely weed.
b) What day to day expenses does he have? Does he use cash for them? (Which is quite unlikely these days tbh. Kids use cards or apple pay even for a coffee.)
c) Given that he has that amount of expendable cash, is he also making a contribution to the household expenses?

Does sound like weed to me to

@LemonTT

Gosh a cash withdrawal in the weeks before 25 December. What could it mean ?

I call turkey.

It’s every month though- the day he gets paid every month this year, not just December.

How do you know this?
And why does it matter?

Knowing cigarettes start at over £10 for 20 it might be cheaper to buy weed. I stopped 6 years ago & was shocked when I saw how much my old favourites Benson & Hedges Gold are when I saw them on the supermarket online shop app £13.44 for 20. I used to smoke 40 a day, more if I was going out I couldn't afford to smoke now. £180 isn't a lot of money now, he couldn't get 3 console games for that, does he drive or have to buy a bus ticket for the month? Ds buys a student monthly ticket which costs £35 a month, does he buy lunches out of that money? I take it he is a student, ds spends £7 a day on coffees, snacks & his lunch & that is from a subsidised school canteen & he gets a free school meal allowance as well of about £2.20 a day.

Why are you looking at his bank statements?

Tell him he needs to start paying rent, then when he says he can’t afford it, that’s when you jump in with your offer to help him with his budgeting.

Then report back so we can congratulate you on your new grandchild

Like everyone else, I'm wondering how you know this.

Then, of course, we'd all just be wildly speculating without knowing anything about him or his life.

Are you going to tell us anymore OP ?

So what ? How do you know?

Is he meant to not spend any of his money at all or just stays in the bank account?