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Is your teen 'a gangsta from the hood'?!?!

253 replies

Robertsmithdoesmyhair · 30/05/2019 16:36

My 14 year old son speaks in rap and I have no clue what he is talking about most of the time. Lots of 'blud' 'bruva' and sucking his teeth. Funnily enough, he is neither from the hood nor a gangsta and we are a fairly normal family! We don't live in The Bronx and we don't wear soverign rings!
When oh when will he return to normal? Anyone else's teen doing this? Confused

OP posts:
managedmis · 30/05/2019 20:51

J man

Christ on a hand bike

Makmaison · 30/05/2019 20:52

I’m so pleased it’s not just my son. I cannot bear it. Please god let them grow out if it.

Terramirabilis · 30/05/2019 20:53

Those of you with children like this: how do you survive the second-hand embarrassment? I would have thought you'd be cringing so hard you'd do yourselves a mischief.

TheLastNigel · 30/05/2019 20:55

Why the face? She is what she is?

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 30/05/2019 20:55

I was on the bus with a gaggle of teenage boys - all ‘bruv’ and ‘blood’. Very noisy and ‘gangsta’. Until one got a call from his mum and a very posh voice was heard to say ‘oh muuummm is ok if Justin comes over for tea?’.

TheLastNigel · 30/05/2019 20:57

What's offensive? That she likes black culture and is interested in it? Why is that offensive?

giddyyup · 30/05/2019 21:15

My six year old is doing it - no idea which friend it's come from, presumably one with an older sibling Confused

ceebeejeebies · 30/05/2019 21:29

Thelastnigel you should look up cultural appropriation and all the reasons it's offensive.

beachyhead · 30/05/2019 21:34

I think 11 is a little young to understand cultural misappropriation 😀

tredly · 30/05/2019 21:37

Why the face? She is what she is?

That's just it. She isn't black.

I'm offended by that behaviour and you should call her out on it.
She's not black and attempting to speak "patwa" (patois?) and impersonating a cultural minority when she is anything but is very offensive!

tredly · 30/05/2019 21:38

I think 11 is a little young to understand cultural misappropriation 😀

I disagree. The parent should explain why it's not appropriate and educate her on ethnic minorities and black history.

Nottheduchess · 30/05/2019 21:38

My nephew does at times, I’m never sure whether he’s serious as he’s a total science nerd and so far removed from “gangsta” he may as well be on another planet.

yumscrumfatbum · 30/05/2019 21:41

We went through this phase, I joined in. That put them right off!

Ilovetolurk · 30/05/2019 21:42

This is like when the son in Paddington 2 insists on being called J-Dog

I am in my DS’s phone as M Dog. I hope that’s a good thing

Detention on return to schoolon Monday for hoodie wearing in the playground - him not me

FunnyTinge · 30/05/2019 21:45

Wagwan, fam? Ya get me?

No, no idea what it means either Grin

lotusbell · 30/05/2019 21:46

My 12 year old berates people for being chavs, then comes out with crap like 'peng', 'nutty', 'sick' and if course, 'fam'. Just makes me die inside! But come on, we all had these words and phrases as kids growing up in the 80s and 90s! Didnt we? Confused

TheVanguardSix · 30/05/2019 21:47

Urbanmage talk to me! Grin Where I live, the kids who talk this way are the mop-headed, private school uniformed sprogs of mothers who nip into Jigsaw/Mint Velvet, then pop next door to Costa while the dog walker is out with the Weimaraner.
They talk like the boys who want to nick their latest iphone. The irony!

redbedheadd · 30/05/2019 21:47

Saying she wishes she was black as being white is boring isn't appreciating black culture. Would she also appreciate being racially abused, paid less and treated with disdain for her skin colour? I think not.

Being black isn't a trend you can dip in and out of. If she wants to have an appreciation of black culture she should start with understanding the history and what it means to champion diversity - not google how to look after Afro hair 🤨

jacksonmaine · 30/05/2019 21:49

Yes myDD17 Grin DF's a surgeon. She randomly breaks out in weird rap speak with accompanying dance moves, wears chains round her neck and wears £700 trainers which picks up second hand off ebay. Hmm

tredly · 30/05/2019 21:50

*Saying she wishes she was black as being white is boring isn't appreciating black culture. Would she also appreciate being racially abused, paid less and treated with disdain for her skin colour? I think not.

Being black isn't a trend you can dip in and out of. If she wants to have an appreciation of black culture she should start with understanding the history and what it means to champion diversity - not google how to look after Afro hair* 🤨

^^

Also not sure about looking after Afro hair, she doesn't have Afro hair so why the irrelevant qualification? Confused

jacksonmaine · 30/05/2019 21:53

Wagwan, fam? Ya get me?

Peng

Yes to all of the above! Smile

Titsywoo · 30/05/2019 21:54

No thank god. If my kids started that crap DH and I would take the piss incessantly until they stopped.

IndianaMoleWoman · 30/05/2019 21:56

Allow it, fam. It’d be so dead if we all talked the same, innit.

Youcantscaremeihavechildren · 30/05/2019 21:57

The boys in my school do this, many of them are indeed black and from outer London, but mostly they're good sikh, white British, Muslim and Nigerian boys who have more money than sense, £700 trainers and would die a little inside if their parents heard them talking like it. If I see them walking with a limp with their hand down their trousers in the corridor a loud 'what's wrong with you George, problem you need to see someone about? do you need to go to the medical room? Do you want me to call your mum?" works. That and telling them I've met their mum, I know where they live, they're not in a gang, as they are a nice boy and live in a small boring kent town and are doing 9 GCSE'S at a grammar school usually does it...

Sweetooth92 · 30/05/2019 21:58

It’s usually just a phase. Myself & DH are explorer scout leaders, to 14-18 year olds. They join us at 14 and some think they’re “road men” talk their own language and genuinely think they’re going to get stabbed up nipping to the shops for a pint of milk for their nan because they’re trainers are so enviable. We often for our amusement get them to explain the words they are using to see if they understand themselves, then take great pleasure reminding them of this stage in their life as they approach 18 and have grown out of it. It’s one of my favourite perks to taking them away for a week each summer. They’re usually the kids who sneak off to a quiet room to ring their nans for a catch up/buy me and DH a thankyou card. I’ve deduced its primarily done to fit in/a way of dealing with other insecurities and they just need to realise how daft they’re being half the time