We saved our board - now does anyone fancy a tea room or cocktail bar type thread for general chit chat about teens

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That don't really warrant a thread of their own?

Apologies if it seems twee but there used to be a few virtual tea rooms popular on MN back when it were all fields round here so i thought I'd give it a go. Have name changed in case i attract only tumbleweed

I have one DD(14), very easy going (yes, i know that can change in the blink of an eye!). Although she's friendly she doesn't seem to have found her tribe yet. Anyone else's teen in a similar position? She's issued some invitations for half term but not had much response.

How will your teen/s be spending this week? (it's ok to say if they have lots of meet-ups with friends )

Floral Hope so ! I worried for a while he was a bit of a sheep but thankfully seems to know his own mind now.

A very bad day here when dd 1 announced ten minutes before we were due to leave that she wasn't going to school.
It's exam week here so it wasnt an option.ended in a lot of shouting from
Both of us of which I'm not proud and me practically carrying her down the stairs.

I was late for an important meeting at work, not for the first time due to antics like this-now On a formal warning for punctuality.

I really lost it with her this morning. She isn't really talking to me now.I don't really feel like talking to her but will go and try and apologise for my reaction to it and find out what prompted it.
It's a shame as last night she was fine and we had a lovely evening.

That sounds tough, historysock - I think I was around 13 when I decided i didn't want to go to school any more. God I was a nightmare

I don't suppose you could explain to HR the reasons for your tardiness and they would give you some leeway. Is that hollow laughter I hear?

Will have to and hope for a reprieve. My boss doesn't like me especially as I'm quite expensive- TUPE over from somewhere else-so think she would like an excuse to be rid of me really
Just feel exhausted with it tonight really.
Still tomorrow is another day....

Hey all! It's gone a bit quiet. I could do with some help . My 13 yr dd has always craved sugar and whilst I can't control what she has outside, I need to strip back any forms of processed, high sugar. I've lost control in house as she will sniff out anything sugary and have it til it's gone - even if it was meant for others.

Please give me back to basics lists of meals, and snacks .

We're having a bad week here so DD and I are barely speaking to each other. Every time I try to make conversation she just snaps back at me so i figured there's not much point. I hope it's just tiredness & the stress of upcoming exams.

Holibobsing I find school snacks tricky but at home DC are happy with pepper/carrots or pita bread & hummus. Or fruit. At school i normally resort to flapjack though i suspect DD buys sweet stuff and DS buys sausage rolls!

We're mainly vegetarian so meals at home are curry/dhal with rice, thai stir fried veg & noodles, veg/tomato based pasta dishes or risotto.

whathaveifound, my eldest dd is 21 and just coming out of that. I swear she was prone to hissing answers and could look like she was sucking lemons at some point. It would always be due to school work stress or days before her period.

In hindsight , my advise would be, no eye contact, don't engage in segueing, walk away if you have to, as I did get caught up and it nearly drove me mad. Walk away, but give her signs You're right therefore her .Which I'm sure she knows.

Will pick up pita, noodles and Dahl, ta!

Thanks Holibobsing, that what i'm trying to do at the moment. It was a bit uncomfortable in the car on the way home from a school event yesterday evening.

DH is convinced that she'll be back to normal after two lie ins this weekend!

I got a gift of some gorgeous fancy teas at Christmas. So many fancy teas that I don't know what to do with them all, so if you don't mind, I will pull up a pew and we can all sip exotic virtual chai and other delightful brews.

I also recently bought some limes, 10 for $1, so plenty for all your lime needs.

My youngest is 17 and just graduated high school (US) with the usual pomp and ceremony attached to these events in the US. Only DS, myself and exH attended. It was a far cry from the graduations of her older siblings which were family events, albeit with exH refusing to sit with the rest of us. DD4 has had a very different life from the lives of the oldest DCs in the family thanks to divorce, moving house, different dynamic in her class in school from any I had seen before. She has waved goodbye to all of her older siblings in turn as they headed off to university, beginning at age 7. Lots of loss for her. 'Family' to her means a few days around Christmas when we're all together.

I’ve got a 16yr old dd and 14yr old ds.
I’d love some lemon drizzle. I’m not cool (which my oh-so-woke dd likes to remind me on a daily basis).

16yr old dd didn’t find her tribe until yr 9. She had a helluva time in Year 8. Wouldn’t repeat that year again for all the money in the world, she was so miserable (but there is light at the end of the tunnel for those who are going through it now - she has a tight knit group of close friends and a great an extended group of friends now and is much happier).

I do find her withering disdain towards me quite wearing .

Hi everyone again :) weird times with DSD...her room smells of perfume...she's bought herself a plant and opened a window on what is usually a dark cave of teenage smells lol. Would anyone else find that unnerving? I can see her carpet! 🤣

BadgerBadgermushroom I'm envious. Mine was told by dp to tidy room, it took her forever. As she's been a little down due to friendship issues, I let her away with minimal tidy, yet I know there must be loads of our teaspoons, forks, and god knows what else under bed. Maybe your dsd has reached the point of can't bear the clutter- fingers crossed for you

Has anyone else got mega neat teens? What's your secret.I will trade you . You in return can have all of dd's Victoria Secrets overpriced bog cleaner smelling collection

@holibobsing I have no idea what's got into her. She opened the window the other day and said her new plant needed air. No worries about herself getting any for the last 5 years 😄 maybe the end of teenagerdom is nigh! Just in time for her brother to enter it. Maybe there is hope for your daughter and her teaspoons can reunite with their friends in the cutlery drawer 😂

@badger The cynic in me would suspect vaping! That has a perfume smell and necessitates window opening..... Not sure where the pot plant fits in though so maybe she is just feeling the need for a healthier atmosphere.

@firefliess I would worry about that apart from the fact I know she absolutely detests smoking. I think she may have just realised that light is good for you 😆