DD15 sleepover with no parents present

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DD15 is due to go to her friends tonight for a sleepover along with another friend. After speaking to one of the parents I've been told neither mum or dad will be home tonight and that the friends 19 yr old brother will be there to supervise. I'm really not comfortable with this, and had no idea until now that this was the plan. Would you let your 15 year old still go?

girlinawhirl blimey that's really shocked me, certainly is appalling irresponsible!

@needthisthread

I appreciate things your difficult for you

On this thread though you have shown no appreciation of the OP’s concerns or indeed factual statistics concerning teenage males and females.

You have just bleated on about how “very very” sad you are for you 19 year old son.

I'd add it was a very long time ago, as I'm in my thirties now. If my Mum has known she'd have never allowed me to go and if I'd told her afterwards I think she'd have murdered friends Mum.

We were in our first year of sixth form (I'm a very late birthday) and had been friends all through school, she also came away with us on holiday a few times. So my parents had no reason to be concerned.

Hang on, I thought need and the OP were coming to an understanding. Let’s not have the thread go all personal attack-y :/

I mean I know I’m not the thread police etc. but c’mon.

appreciate things your difficult for you

No, you really don't. You searched my user name, read a thread where I spoke about something very personal and then tried to use it AGAINST me. Not to mention the fact you were wrong and haven't even apologised for it. Not for getting your facts wrong or for trying to use my difficult situation against me. That really is the lowest of the low and you haven't even acknowledged that you were wrong. You tried to make me look like I was disrespecting my own child ffs.

On this thread though you have shown no appreciation of the OP’s concerns or indeed factual statistics concerning teenage males and females.

I have actually agreed with the OP on more than one point. The male v female thing I didn't discuss because, as I previously acknowledged, OP specified the 19yo man thing and it was AFTER I responded that she posted the same for females. None of my posts were re the difference.

You have just bleated on about how “very very” sad you are for you 19 year old son.

It is sad that people judge young men though.

Hang on, I thought need and the OP were coming to an understanding.

Yes, we absolutely have.

Let’s not have the thread go all personal attack-y :/

It's a bit more than that. I have seen some efforts on here but to try and use my own child against me? Mate that's low.

OP Right decision. Good on you.

Hope you’re ok need

Thanks

We talk a great deal about keeping safe both inline and in the real world. Why would a parent readily let their 15yo child spend the night Under the supervision of someone whom the parents have not met?
That does not mean said 19yo is in any way dodgy, but until the parents are sure about this, then it's a big no.
BTW, I would also want to have a conversation with the parents too, even if they were there supervising.
As for the PP who's being over dramatic about her own 19yo son, you are the only person here who knows him and knows how he would likely behave in any given situation. Knowledge is very powerful.

As for the PP who's being over dramatic about her own 19yo son, you are the only person here who knows him and knows how he would likely behave in any given situation.

Im not being over dramatic. It's not nice when people judge young men simply because they are men. However, that's actually not what happened here and I have acknowledged that several times over.

I do not like my children having sleepovers because they can get hurt. To allow a sleepover, I must be with them until they all go to bed and then I will do checkups to see if they are still sleeping. Nothing good comes out of sleepovers. Very scary!