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Original poster

dd1 hasn't come home from school....

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fryalot · 12/06/2007 16:23

She was supposed to go to her mate's house for tea, then on a school organised walk, I was to pick her up at 8.30.

When I realised that her mate's mum had not rang me last night as promised, I told her to come straight home instead.

I rang the school to ask them to pass this message on to be doubly sure she came home

She hasn't.

I don't know whose house she is at, of even if she is there.... I don't know who is looking after her - or if anybody is.

I don't know who to call.

8.30 is a long way away.

What should I do? It seems a bit drastic to ring the police, but I don't know how else to get her home????

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NoNoNoNo · 12/06/2007 17:02

snap, Dusty

Wotznotreallyhere · 12/06/2007 17:02

Don't know what to suggest squonk other than trying to get the tel number and finding out more from the ones you have.

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fryalot · 12/06/2007 17:02

but if she was going to the friend's house, why have the parents not rang me?

I think she either is at the friend's house, but the parents haven't okayed it, or she is wandering the streets on her own or with a friend..

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Blu · 12/06/2007 17:02

The other friend said she had gone to gemmas house, didn't she? Soshe almost certainly has.
Has she got a mobile?

dustystar · 12/06/2007 17:03

Did you ask her friends mum to call you or did you ask dd to pass on the message? If its the latter then no doubt she has told this Mum that everything is fine.

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fryalot · 12/06/2007 17:05

I think I'm just going to have to wait till 8.30

The girl she gets on the bus with isn't doing the walk,so they don't have any details. I don't have any details for any other friends and I think that the walk is from the town to the village where I'm collecting her from, but I don't know this.

I will assume that she is just being bloody selfish and doing what she wants regardless.

The last time she did this, her and another friend arranged for her to go for tea, then on to a bonfire and firework display (guess when it was!) except the friend's parents said no, so she went along anyway, and was planning on just hanging around until the bonfire started.... but I knew the parents of this child and rang them when I hadn't heard anything and they said that they had said no, so they sent out a search party, found where she was hiding out and I picked her up from there.

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fryalot · 12/06/2007 17:07

and the charger on her mobile broke, so I can't ring her phone.

I think that she's just done the same thing again, completely ignoring all the horror stories I told her.

I think I am going to have to wait till 8.30 and spend the time thinking of a suitable punishment.

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dustystar · 12/06/2007 17:07

Use this time to think up a good punishment - make sure it includes her doing something to help you out around the house

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fryalot · 12/06/2007 17:07

licking the toilet bowl clean perhaps?

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dustystar · 12/06/2007 17:08

I love that one - shall file it away for use with dd when she is older lol

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fryalot · 12/06/2007 17:09

I'm just absolutely gobsmacked that she has done the exact same thing again!

I'm so cross with her

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dustystar · 12/06/2007 17:11

Channel that anger into thinking up some more punishment ideas

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fryalot · 12/06/2007 17:12

well she is never allowed out of my sight... I may even take myself and the littlies to school with her

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Wotznotreallyhere · 12/06/2007 17:12

Ask her for all of her friends landline tel numbers so that if she is out next time you can call them. Tell her you are going to ring them to see if they are the right numbers when she gives them to you.

I will be watching teen threads as my 10 going on 11 is already pushing boundries I didn't know exisited.

I am sure she is having a great laugh with her mates, while you are worrying.

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fryalot · 12/06/2007 17:19

that's a bloody good idea, wotz.... if I've got them all handy then she can't pull this one again, coz she is banking on me not knowing how to get hold of her.

So the first punishment is that she is grounded until I have all this information.

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Wotznotreallyhere · 12/06/2007 17:23

Make sure it is home telephone (landline) numbers and not all mobile numbers..good luck.

We had the police near us with a group of older teenagers, not all trouble makers, but some were underage and should have been home well before 11pm. Anyway the police took their mobiles and called all of their parents who came and collected them ASAP!

Parent embarrisment is woefully bad to any teenager!

sparklesandwine · 12/06/2007 17:30

oh squonk don't know what to say i hope it all turns out ok - i'm sure she realises how upset you will be with her and is just avoiding you can you access her mobile at all to get any numbers off it?

TnOgu · 12/06/2007 17:31

squonk, I think all the good advice has been given, and I'm late to the thread [not that I would give good advice, anyway ]

Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and hope you manage to impress on dd the worry and upset she has caused.

She will have gone to her friends house and she will be safe.

Hear from you later

Good Luck

Original poster
fryalot · 12/06/2007 18:04

xx

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fryalot · 12/06/2007 18:05

Just had a phone call from her in tears from a call box.

Off to pick her up now

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flamingtoaster · 12/06/2007 18:10

Glad you've heard from her - hope she is not too upset.

TnOgu · 12/06/2007 18:10

Good news

Give her hell

talcy0 · 12/06/2007 18:16
Wotznotreallyhere · 12/06/2007 18:28

good news that she has called.

Hope she is OK squonk...

sparklesandwine · 12/06/2007 18:29

good news squonk you must be sooooo relieved

.....don't forget to post later what punishment you have used so i can use it when mine do this to me

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