I found a sex toy under 17yo bed!

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I'm in complete shock, I just can not believe it. It went to flip over DDs mattress while stripping her bed as there was a huge coffee stain on the mattress, i scrubbed at it and decided to just flip the mattress as DD was moaning it stank of coffee.

When I lifted the mattress I found a sex toy! She is 17 years old so I know she is past the age of consent, but I didn't think you could buy anything like this until you were 18 years old! I don't know if to be mad or question how's she's bought it, I also don't want to humiliate her. I'm just so shocked and don't know how to go about it. Do I just leave it and forget or do I confront her? She does have a boyfriend as well. I haven't told DH as I'm scared of how he would react. The thought of it does make me feel quite sick. Has anyone ever experienced anything like this?

I'm in complete shock and feel a bit sick at your unhealthy attitude to sex, OP. We don't live in the dark ages, do we?

Did you not masturbate at 17? I certainly did well before that age, and plenty of girls do. It's completely normal and healthy for teenagers to be exploring their own bodies and learning what feels good for them.

She is 17, pretty much a woman. Whilst I do get where you're coming from with this comment, I still think it's a bit more worrying your attitude that she's 'your baby' - at 17 she's far from a baby.

I can't even believe you were thinking of telling her dad. Good grief, allow her some privacy. At my age (and I think indeed any age) I'd be livid and very upset if someone discussed my sex life with my dad - why should it be different because she's 17?! Get some respect.

e is just protective over her and always has been. My dad was the same with me and didn't like the fact I was growing up. He used to tell me I couldn't have a boyfriend until I was 27 ( because he was 27 when him and my mum got together ) grin I think it's because she is our youngest and we have 3 other boys.

protective of what though??

Hmmmmmm

Your daughter isn't a young girl anymore. She's a young woman who has started to discreetly explore her sexuality. As PP have said, it is NONE of your business or your husbands.

Your daughter is growing up OP, I know it's a shock at times but you need to respect her privacy.

First tooth
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I'm wondering how you reacted when one of your sons started having wet dreams? We're you shocked then? Too scared to tell your DH? Catch a grip!! Double standards where girls are expected to be little princesses are ridiculously unhealthy..grow up OP!!

Wait until you find the gimp suit.

As an actual parent of a daughter with non hairy palms I'd be thrilled to think my daughter was understanding her body, and donig so while not risking stis or pregnancy.

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First tooth
First vibrator
First boyfriend

FTFY

oh fuck off, no one is falling for this and sharing our teenage masturbation stories with you. Reported.

TBH I think I'd be happy about it, at 17. She can't get pregnant from it or catch an STD from it.

She probably bought it online....

FatCow2018, I reported and they are going to let the thread stand.

I'd be shocked too OP.

I hope your daughter doesn't read this thread. Sharing her personal life on an open forum isn't nice.

Love honey.com probably... but sorry I don’t see anything wrong

Don't say anything to her. She's at an age to experiment. For all you know she may have tried it once or twice and didn't like it, just hasn't got rid of it yet. That's how it was for me, I couldn't understand how anyone would enjoy a bit of plastic, nothing like the real thing and no affection. But everyone is different.

Your daughter will only be embarrassed if you mention this to her.

I hope your daughter doesn't read this thread. Sharing her personal life on an open forum isn't nice

FFS, how would the DD know this thread was about her? She doesn't even know her mother found the vibrator. There's millions of people with 17yo DDs.

This is NOTHING to do with.

You are totally violating her privacy, telling anyone is absolutely not on.

Your dd is developing a health sexual appetite and good for her. You are over invested any conversation, comment or discussion would be unacceptable.

Put it back and forget about it anything else is totally and utterly out of order.

I think some posters are being unkind, esp. about OP's DH being protective of his DD. I think that's very common behaviour for Dads and shows they care (as long as it's not OTT).

The OP was just taken aback and needed to share it - it can be a shock to realise how quickly your children have grown up. It doesn't mean she's going to fight it or make a big fuss.

the OP said " haven't told DH as I'm scared of how he would react." .

What has being "protective" got to do with policing your child masturbating?? It's not bloody dangerous last I checked. If she was protective of her sons having a wank she'd be ripped to shreds.

Better a sex toy than an unsuitable boyfriend, IMO.

I think some people's reactions on this post are even more over reacted than the actual post. OP said she wouldn't tell anyone in one of her other comments, and explained why she was so shocked. I don't understand why people are ripping into her so much. I'd be shocked too OP, it is a kick in the stomach when you realise your children are growing up fast.

I don't get why you'd even want to bring it up with her dad?! It's none of your business and certainly not his.

Good on your DD. There is worse things

Oh but I do know you've said you'll leave it

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I'm not saying it's logical for Dads to be upset that their teenage daughters are sexually active in any way - but it seems to be inbuilt for some of them.

Anyway, enough on this subject!