I found a sex toy under 17yo bed!

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I'm in complete shock, I just can not believe it. It went to flip over DDs mattress while stripping her bed as there was a huge coffee stain on the mattress, i scrubbed at it and decided to just flip the mattress as DD was moaning it stank of coffee.

When I lifted the mattress I found a sex toy! She is 17 years old so I know she is past the age of consent, but I didn't think you could buy anything like this until you were 18 years old! I don't know if to be mad or question how's she's bought it, I also don't want to humiliate her. I'm just so shocked and don't know how to go about it. Do I just leave it and forget or do I confront her? She does have a boyfriend as well. I haven't told DH as I'm scared of how he would react. The thought of it does make me feel quite sick. Has anyone ever experienced anything like this?

My DH is not volatile and would not hurt her because of this. He is just protective over her and always has been. My dad was the same with me and didn't like the fact I was growing up. He used to tell me I couldn't have a boyfriend until I was 27 ( because he was 27 when him and my mum got together ) I think it's because she is our youngest and we have 3 other boys.

No I know you're all right, the replies have made me realise that I probably shouldn't really of been shocked. My post is a bit of an over reaction but I was still shocked. But I was I'm not going to lie. When I found it a got that feeling in my stomach similar to what to get when your nervous. I honestly to think it's the thought of her growing up so fast, I don't like the fact people are almost making out I'm a bad mum because of it like I said I would never want to humiliate DD.

Re: update, great you're not going to tell DH or make this an issue but are you really that worried she was able to buy a sex toy at 17? She's legal to have sex and has probably been sexually mature for a good few years, it's hardly like she's been sold cigs or booze underage..

Massive over reaction. I have a dd also 17 with a bf and finding a sex toy hidden under her bed is the least of my worries. A dildo won’t get her pregnant or give her a sti (fyi my dd has contraception covered condom + pill but still) She’s masturbating that’s all. Say nothing. Get a grip. Pretend finding it was a dream and move on

I've changed my username for this post.

Wait are people thinking that I may be a troll? Well that's insulting

@trulybadlydeeply surely there's a hygiene risk?

Do not confront her or tell her father. It's beyond easy to buy these things online now. Regardless of your intentions, questioning her about how she got it is still going to be a humiliating conversation for her to have so just leave it.

If you're a regular, OP, you know that we do get trolls who try to encourage people to talk about children and sex.

pretend you never saw it. Forget about it.

Yes I know I'm aware. I'm happy for this post to be removed if that's what it's coming across as. I suppose some people could read this thread and get a buzz so it's probably for the best anyway. But I can ensure you that wasn't my intention, sorry if I've offended anyone. I will contact MNHQ and ask for it removing. I am a regular poster and I understand

I don't want to get removed off Mumsnet because of it!

How do it get it removed can anyone tell me? I can't find how to do it

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It may be 'insulting' as you put it OP

But generally asking Has anyone ever experienced anything like this?

Or in other words 'do you have teenagers who masturbate with sex toys, if so please tell me about them?'....

Well ya know, you might want to think about that.

Apply brain bleach and move on. Well said @DoneDisappeared.

If this is a genuine thread, it's a massive over-reaction. Who cares where anyone buys sex toys? I have a 17yo, and I dread to think what I might find under their mattress. Why shouldn't a 17 yo have a sex toy? It would be downright weird for you to tell your DH, though. Why would he need to know that?

FWIW, I'd be more concerned about a teenager having a boyfriend than a vibrator.

Have you honestly never bought anything underage OP.. cigarettes, alcohol? Never gone into a cinema for an older rated film?!

She'll have bought it online, comes in plain packaging these days!

Would you have felt "sick" at realising your 17 year old son masturbates? I think not. Good on your daughter I say. I would really consider looking at your own and DH's reactions as they're really not what they should be....

I found a vibrator in DDs room when she was about 15. I was a bit shocked too (probably because I’ve never used one) but quickly realised it was none of my business. I didn’t mention it to her or anyone else. She was entitled to her privacy. I certainly didn’t realise they were age restricted purchases so I guess she must have bought it online.

At 17 she should be changing her own bed. She'll probably figure out you saw it now which is embarrassing enough. Say nothing and try and erase it from your mind. She might be your child but her sex life is not your business! Totally normal and harmless.

Wait until you find the gimp suit.

Daily. Fail.

I'd like to think shops won't just sell things like this to any young girl because a lot of younger teenagers13/14 could probably pass for a 17 year old.

And that is a bad thing because ...?

Don’t forget to wave it in her face when you ‘confront' her.

Why on earth do you think you would need to show ID to buy a vibrator? And why would the age limit be 18?

Has anyone ever experienced anything like this? hmm

Let's all regale the OP with stories of our teen girls masturbating!

If you aren't a troll why shouldn't a 12/13/14 year old girl be able to buy a sex toy? Teen boys get all the socks they need. I certainly wouldn't be horrified that my 17 yer old who is probably having sex also has orgasms.