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Original poster

We were only out for two hours...

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roband · 01/01/2018 07:30

....And 15 yes old DS invited gods knows who into our house I am so angry. The place was trashed. Cheap cider poured over things including our bed and carpet.graffitti on the walls Mirrors pulled off walls. Smashed lamps. But worst of all someone has stolen money and watches from us including an omega that I got as a special present for my DH and over £100 in cash that my older DS had in his room as part of his 18th birthday money. I have never been so raging. I feel like not only has my DS completely let us down but that he is being taken for a total mug by these people. And as far as the stolen stuff goes, I just don’t know what to do. So so upset I could weep!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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pollyhampton · 01/01/2018 07:32

Have you phoned the police? That would be my first move. You poor thing, what has ds said about it?

JediStoleMyBike · 01/01/2018 07:32

Can you contact the police? Will they do anything?
I'm so sorry, what an awful invasion of your home. I hope your DS is very, very sorry.

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 01/01/2018 07:32

Oh my god OP I am so sorry!! What an awful way to start your new year. I have no practical advice, sorry Flowers

CornyCollins · 01/01/2018 07:34

Oh my Lord that is horrific! You must be absolutely livid! I would get the police involved. Can your DS remember who was there or did an uninvited mob turn up?!

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roband · 01/01/2018 07:39

I don’t know what to do re the police. I mean will we get into trouble for leaving him alone? Will he be charged and have a record? I just don’t know what to do. Dh is quietly and totally furious but not too keen on the police Trouble is my DS is not really one for friends as far as we know. He is a bedroom and phone type and only recently has started to go out. It it is like all or nothing with him and I think he just doesn’t know what real life friendships feel like. I am so sad as well as angry.

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pullingmyhairout1 · 01/01/2018 07:40

Police. Hate to say it but insurance won't help because the people were let in.

Shadow1986 · 01/01/2018 07:41

How awful. What has DS said about all of this? Was it supposed to be a small gathering that got out of control - I imagine he is very upset too about so called friends trashing the hous and stealing. Definitely call the police, you might have a chance of getting your stuff back.

Msqueen33 · 01/01/2018 07:42

You need to find out who was invited. I’d be very tempted to call the police as that’s theft.

Shadow1986 · 01/01/2018 07:43

At the very least threaten with the police in order to get some stuff back, take photos of damage to show parents to try and get some compensation?

LunaMay · 01/01/2018 07:44

Get onto the police, why would you be in trouble for leaving him alone? I don't think they'd charge your son with anything but don't you think he needs to learn some kind of lesson? I'd be getting names, no way would i brush aside people stealing from my home. Will you be making your DS replace what was taken, from his brother at the very least?

MongerTruffle · 01/01/2018 07:46

I mean will we get into trouble for leaving him alone

Of course not. There are some eight-year-old children who get left alone for a few hours.

RaeSkywalker · 01/01/2018 07:46

I’d be calling the police as well.

Situp · 01/01/2018 07:47

Report to the police as you need it for insurance. My DB did this many years ago. One of the "guests" even left on my younger brother's mountain bike Hmm. Check your insurance because i think they were able to claim for some things.

DS won't be arrested but will get a good talking to from the police which may be more effective than what you can do.

ImListening · 01/01/2018 07:47

How awful for you but awful for your dd. He thought these people were his friends. They clearly aren’t so he may well being feeling bad enough anyway without being read the riot act.

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roband · 01/01/2018 07:49

Trying to get names out of him and will try again when he wakes up. He was not meant to be having anyone over in fact he was going to someone else’s house. In terms of his friends I don’t really know many of the mums but am texting g the ones I do know. He is deffo paying back his brother but the omega watch he can’t. I only just finished paying it up Angry

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Ifailed · 01/01/2018 07:50

Hate to say it but insurance won't help because the people were let in

OP was the victim of theft, of course Insurance will be interested (if their policy covers it). Call the police, even if it's just to get a crime number.

ItsChristmoose · 01/01/2018 07:52

Well call the police to report the vandalism and theft for a start. Your teens need the shock of sitting down with police and hiving their 'friends' details.

Partyfops · 01/01/2018 07:57

Contact the police and also local places to cash in things like expensive watches maybe? If they are hardened criminals they might not be too canny about it.

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roband · 01/01/2018 07:58

These people are not his friends they are just piss takers and I hope he knows that

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Nanna50 · 01/01/2018 08:01

They ransacked the place in less than 2 hours? It sounds like a deliberate act to accelerate that quickly, I would phone the police your son doesn’t need friends like that. Why did he not call you?

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/01/2018 08:01

You poor thing. You didn’t leave him overnight and he wasn’t supposed to be there. You won’t get in trouble with the police. He’s 15. As a I child, I was told parents are not supposed to leave a child alone in the evening before age 13, I believe these are guidelines. Had you gone away and left him all night knowing he was there, that would be different.

My parents left my brother then 17 and me at 15 home alone for a week while they went on holiday abroad. The idiot decided to have a party. They did a number on the house but nothing like this and as far as I’m aware nothing was stolen. I was afraid of some of the boys as there were loads of gatecrashers and one decided to lock me in the bathroom with him and I had to beg him to let me out and not rape me. A friend of the family came and turfed them all out thankfully.

Your ds will hopefully be feeling pretty contrite. I would definitely report it to the police. Maybe the threat of police interviews will make him give names.

lljkk · 01/01/2018 08:02

Leaving a 15yo alone for 2 hours will not get you trouble with authorities (unless he's vulnerable, paraplegic, maybe?). SS tells you not below 11/12yo & NSPCC demand not below 14yo, but there's no specific law about age, anyway.

He is helping all day to clean up... right?

Veterinari · 01/01/2018 08:02

Call the police. It doesn’t matter that your son invited them in - it’s still theft.

Contact your house insurance.

princesssparkle1 · 01/01/2018 08:04

Is this DS was of trying to make friends? Did it all get out of hand and he could do nothing about it? Obviously the initial invite into the house was wrong of him - but after that - did it simply run away with him? Have you talked to him?

princesssparkle1 · 01/01/2018 08:05

*way of trying to make friends

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