Do you give your 15 year old alcohol for parties?

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DS asking to take 4 or 6 bottles beer or cider to his friend's party tonight. Party is typical last minute get together round their house. I am aware he has had alcohol at similar parties before which friends have brought and we have allowed him to have a beer once with us when on hols. He has never come home obviously drunk and is usually well behaved and sensible.
I realise teens do drink (did myself!) but my main concerns are that if I am actually supplying him with it then I am condoning it when other parents may not agree, and I have no control over where he drinks it, could be in a park rather than someone's house. And it is adding to overall alcohol available, even if shared around, the more that bring the more there is. Also it is illegal to supply under 18s!
However, if I don't give him any he may always be the one scrounging off someone else. He says most, though not all, of his friends bring some and they share.
I don't know many of his current friends' parents to ask. I do know one mum who always gives some to her son so some certainly some do.
Have had the talk about not needing alcohol to enjoy yourself. I think occasional supervised alcohol is ok at this age but am uncomfortable about supplying as above.
Would appreciate other's thoughts on this please.

Some parents are being very over the top and are being quite naive if they think most 15-18 year olds are doing it anyway. My eldest Dd is 22 and I would give her alcohol at 15, I would rather know what she was drinking and that she was drinking so I can look after her/come pick her up etc.
I actually think it is the safe/responsible option as a parent I would rather that than my child feel the need to sneak behind my back and lie to me as that is when they are going to end up in serious danger.

I don't have to worry about this for a long time but when I was 15 my mum wouldn't let me take alcohol to friends parties so I would wait outside Tesco and ask much older men to buy it for me.

The thought makes my skin run cold now.

God no. I wouldn't at all be keen in letting my 15 year old so go to a party where alcohol was freely available. I'd certainly not encourage it by providing him with some to go with!

I saw the consequences at the neighbour's house. Mother was a trendy "best friend" kind of mum and facilitated a party for her daughter's 15th birthday. Loads of kids turned up with rucksacks (to bring the booze in). Mum buggered off for the evening leaving them unsupervised. It was carnage. Broken windows, vomit in the street, fighting, broken bottles and beer cans strewn over the garden.

I can't believe people can't understand the difference between a glass of booze at an adult/family meal as opposed to an alcohol fuelled orgy of 15 year olds with no/minimal supervision.

Badbunny I'd say this was the main problem with the party you describe though - Mum buggered off for the evening leaving them unsupervised

That's a long way from letting 15 year olds have a few cans of beer.

Unless you host the party yourself you’ve no idea what the parents are planning to do.

We didnt do this until ds1 was 17

So far at very nearly 16 dd has no interest in alcohol

I reckon 14 year old ds2 will be the problem child, although at the moment he too isn't interested

Badbunny I'd say this was the main problem with the party you describe though - Mum buggered off for the evening leaving them unsupervised

But how do you know what the host parents are going to do? You can't very well go and watch. Unfortunately, it seems some parents don't understand responsibility and allow their little darlings to do what the hell they want. If I didn't know the parent concerned, my son wouldn't be going, full stop, alcohol or not in his back pack, as I know he'd be getting it offered by others if the parents are irresponsible and have either gone out or are condoning alcohol, drugs etc in their home

Absolutely would.

No. DS goes to parties where other kids drink. He knows that we don't want him to and we would absolutely not condone it by giving him drink to take with him. I always pick him up at the end of the party.

He has only been drunk once and felt pretty embarrassed about it afterwards and also felt so ill that he vowed never to do it again. I gave him a bit of an earful as I had to stay up for a few hours checking him to make sure he was ok.

Sure - they will find a way to drink if they want to but why add fuel to the flames by providing more drink?

DH & I both drink, but we've always made it clear that its for adults and not an essential to having a good time. I'm often teetotal at parties as I usually drive and I've noticed that once everyone else has had a couple of drinks they have no idea whether you are drinking or not. A fact which I have emphasised to DS when he is wondering whether he will seem like a party pooper.