Sigh, queen bees at it again

[dingit]

I really don't like this girl, she ruined dds 16th back in November but that's another story.
It's now her birthday, there are six in the group of friends, she is going out for pizza, but says she can only afford for five to come. Dd assumes she is the one left out ( she was not invited last year), but they are in general a really nice group of girls, so they have all agreed to chip in £5 so they can all go.
Dd has just received a group message with arrangements, with a bit added on for her telling her she needs to bring £10!
I'm quite happy to give dd for the money for her whole meal, but the arrangement is already leaving a sour taste in my mouth. I can see this all going wrong, dd is already a tired emotional wreck, this will be the end of exams day.
I offered that she comes out with me dh and ds, but she wants to be with her friends.
Should I just butt out and let her deal with it?

Time to ring her mum! Just wanting to clarify the details...

Agree with Shiny, and make it the last time she does anything with this particular girl ever again.

Oh dear. I hope it's just a case of QB losing her phone so not getting the messages. If not I hope your DD sees it's now time to cut all ties as she is better than the evil cow!

Oh god dingit just seen this, hope everything goes ok tonight. And that DD doesn't have a horrible time with QB and the wannabe QBs.

I can't find her mums number. I had it on a business card! I think we will go in with her, I shall go up and wish Qb a happy birthday, and have a little chat with her mum on the way out. That's if the little wotsit is where she says she's going to be.

I do wish teenage girls weren't so awful, I remember it well, hope all goes well tonight!

Any chance you can stop to purchase a bunch of flowers (lidl does biggish ones for £3) to appeal to QB nose? The celebrety status public interest might deflect the otherwise planned possible attention intended for your dd. Whilst giving your dd an extra £20-30 to cover her fair share

If you don't know what the arrangements are, how will you know where to take your DD and at what time?

Shiny, I don't know at the moment. I'm just about to ask dd, who is flustered and not in the best of moods!

Ring the restaurant - think you said was Prezzo to check if table booked, for particular time - if you know Ms name? QB sounds like a cow. Could your friend message one of the other girls or could you get QB mums number from one of the other girls mums?

She's rung her other friend, it's 7.30 apparently

Oh god dingit. Let's just hope there's not been a "last minute change of venue" by QB. Fingers crossed all goes well.

Fingers crossed OP. I hope your instinct is off and it will be a good evening, I'm doubting it though.

Hope your DD is alright no matter what.

Dh is dropping her at QBs house, and checking the arrangements. I love my dh.
So this is it ladies! Fingers crossed for a lovely evening. May all be a drama over nothing

Shiny, that's what I would have asked before my experiences with dd. QB will eventually need dingit's dd there-for her plans to work-, so the correct information will be revealed.

My suggestion of flowers is to appeal to the wanting of the queen bee/drama queen... she would viewed as personal attention but in reality op's dd will be automatically protected by the public for such a lovely gesture. However, if QB does not get the standing ovation she feels is owed to her, she might go overboard with ordering extras on the menu and then expect op's dd to pay.

Hope your dad gets on ok x

Still have this all to come. Not long to go now. Hope it turns out ok and QB is happy at birthday celerbrations - and leaves DD aline. Did u speak to the girls after the sleepover? Not sure i would of left it..,

Hope our dd has fun!

This is horrible.

I wouldn't allow DD to go - the atmosphere would be miserable and I would have thought the flower gesture would just be treated with contempt by the bully. You can't appease or placate people like this.

My DD is just 1 but I hate to think that she'll be put through this. What's the rationale for letting her go? I'm not asking facetiously - just want to understand so I can work out how to deal with similar situations in the future.

I really hope tonight goes OK but I feel a bit sick just reading this

I really hope everything goes smoothly for your daughter.

What a horrible situation - hopefully it will all go ok though

Rationally speaking its DD decision ... she will know the situation best ... goes they might be mean/ she might have a good time might get a chance to spoil the occasion OR she can not go and feel left out of next weeks conversation/FB updates

Trouble is Gobbolino, with a 1 year old you are in charge. With a 16 year old it is very different. I am just sad that dingit (who sounds amazing and wonderful) hasn't managed to persuade her dd not to go. You can't tell teenagers what they can and can't do and who they can and can't be friends with, you just have to hope they will listen to your better judgement. Of course, 9 times out of 10, they will not! Way to learn, I guess.

Mintyy +1

Hope she's having/had a good time, I don't miss my teenage years one little bit