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How do you get your teen out of bed in the mornings?

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18yearstooold · 16/10/2014 08:19

My daughter is terrible at getting out of bed

I need to go in at least 5/6 times

If I leave it up to her she just won't get up so 'let her be late' is not going to help here -she doesn't care

Options?

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ElephantsNeverForgive · 16/10/2014 08:21

Lots of love and hugs and fuss from DH.

This is why he does mornings, I'd shout and grump because I hate mornings too.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 16/10/2014 08:25

Jump.into bed with her and start talking about thoroughly uncool topics: boybands,fit actors, etc.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 16/10/2014 08:25

Or go.in the first time and remove her duvet Grin

Maryz · 16/10/2014 08:30

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Asteria · 16/10/2014 08:30

I usually hop into bed with DS for a cuddle and a natter about the day ahead/random shite, he needs to feel someone else is suffering too so we can both get out of his bed at the same time. He is rubbish if I call through the door. He would just about manage with an alarm (I got him a really obnoxious one) if I wasn't there, but we are only just heading into the hormones so I don't expect that to last for long!

Asteria · 16/10/2014 08:32

We have perfected getting up and out of the house in under 15 minutes though - he managed it in 4 when i slept through my alarm!

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18yearstooold · 16/10/2014 08:33

I can't get into bed, it's a high one

Duvet being removed is met with a barrage of abuse

I'm pig sick of mornings

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ThinkIveBeenHacked · 16/10/2014 08:40

Cant you just ignore her "abuse"? Assuming it is words and not physical. qWalk away. If she wants to keep shouting at you she at least has to get out of bed.

Or id go in and dismantle the high bed and leave her with the mattress on the floor, with a passive agressive "well, daughter dearest, it appears you were having challenges getting out of your bed in the morning so I thought this would make it easier for you"

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18yearstooold · 16/10/2014 08:44

I did threaten bed removal this morning -looks like I'm going to be busy this evening!

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Maryz · 16/10/2014 08:46

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TantrumsAndBalloons · 16/10/2014 08:55

I shout. It doesn't work. But it helps me Grin

Will she get in trouble at school if she is late?

Asteria · 16/10/2014 09:12

Get a towelling backed pee sheet (the ones that don't make a horrible crinkling noise) and put it on her bed. If she resists tomorrow morning then give her a bit of the old ice bucket challenge treatment. Warn her first, if she ignores then release hell. I wouldn't take any bullshit.

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18yearstooold · 16/10/2014 09:29

She's never actually been late

The one time she was obviously going to be late she had a panic attack on the way to school and threw up

She's normally just on time but running with seconds to spare

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Chopchopbusybusy · 16/10/2014 09:37

I don't get mine up in the morning. They get up themselves.
School is 12 miles away and college is 30. They know they have one free ride per year if they miss the bus. There is only one bus. After that they have to pay petrol money for me to take them in. Neither have ever had to pay - although they have on occasion used the free ride.
My mum used to shout at me every morning. It really didn't do any good. All it did was put us both in a bad mood.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 16/10/2014 09:37

Does she have a mobile phone? Keep that off her overnight - might motivate her to get out of bed to have it back in the mornings.

Ice bucket in bed is an awful suggestion!

SirChenjin · 16/10/2014 09:38

Anyone who recommends throwing an bucket of iced water over another person is utterly reprehensible. That's abusive, bullying behaviour, and nothing less.

OP, I give both teens a couple of warnings. I go in once to make sure they are awake, and then once more. Those are gentle "time to get up" warnings. Then if they are still not up I shout up the stairs to them once more, but they are generally awake by then. DH takes them to school on his way to work, so they know that if they are not ready by the time he leaves then they have a 30 minute walk ahead of them.

I would suggest telling her in advance that you will wake her, and you will give her one further reminder. If she doesn't get up then she's on her own and will have to face the consequences from the school, whatever they may be.

iwantgin · 16/10/2014 09:53

i leave DS to it now.

If he is late -he misses his bus. Then he has to come begging to me for a lift in to school (there is only one bus per hour).

This term he has only missed his bus once - and that bus was a minute or so earlier than usual - but he cuts it fine.

As maryz says - what happens at school if they register late? Sometimes it is good to just let them take responsibility for their own actions. So no homework - get a bollocking.

mumeeee · 16/10/2014 10:33

How old is she? I would just call her once and then leave her to get on with it. When mine were teens they had their own alarm clock and I would wait and see if there was any sound of movement and if after about 15 minutes there wasn't then I would knock on their door or rather open the door and shout Smile

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Hakluyt · 16/10/2014 10:36

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"Duvet being removed is met with a barrage of abuse"

Do you actually mean that? If so, what are the consequences?

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Hullygully · 16/10/2014 10:39

Ask her what she would like to do.

Say that the current situation is making you both unhappy and cross and ask what solution she would like to agree with you to change things. Obvs do this in the evening over a cup of tea.

If she still wants you to wake her up, tell her she has to be pleasant because it is her choice, and if she isn't simply shrug and walk away and let her deal with the consequences.

Hullygully · 16/10/2014 10:40

Hello Marydoll

ivykaty44 · 16/10/2014 10:40

Water on the bed....