Marijuana plants - irresponsible parenting or pragmatism ?!

[Claybury]

My DS 16 and his friends regularly smoke weed on weekend night - something I hate but really have no power to stop. I have often wondered how they afford /obtain it. Well it seems quite normal to grow your own plant now, DS says his mates do, and tried to persuade DH that it's a good idea, avoids using dealers, and I think they grow a mild strain - they also know what they are getting. ( not skunk).
I will not allow this in my house as I do not want anyone in my family smoking anything but with other parents allowing it and the boys not touching alcohol as usual I am the out of touch strict bad guy. DH doesn't like him smoking anything but seemed almost persuaded by the arguments ( he told DS 'your mum would never allow it ')
Someone back me up please !!!!!

now you're being silly maryz!

maybe I am, but they will smoke it anyway and god knows where some of that shit has come from or what strain it is or what has been added to it.

Sorry Heggate. Missed that

There's no hysteria here.
I don't have any strong opinions one way or another on the use of weed.

I don't think you can actually stop him fwiw.
But he and your dh clearly need to respect what you think is ok and what isn't.And if you are unhappy with it growing under your roof, and your possible implication with it, then that's where it'll end.

Growing his own weed won't stop him doing skunk if that's what he decides to do.

But he will have established that he can do as he pleases and you will do jack shit about it.

Say no and stand your ground.

If all goes tits up and he (they) do it behind your back, at least they will know it's without your blessing.

I would go ballistic and would drug test him until he leaves home and supports himself. I would do everything possible to stop him. I'd stop all treats, strip his room, remove his wifi access etc etc.

Have you younger kids?
I am not so fussed about teens and sex or alcohol but my teens were never allowed to take drugs.

Have you ever seen teens on bad trips? It's not fun. Some people are fine but for others drug use goes horribly wrong even if the drugs are soft and they don't take much. It screws some people up big time.
I grew up in a very druggie environment and have experience of all sorts of drugs. I have always refused to take any myself despite my Dads insistence

Growing his own weed won't stop him doing skunk if that's what he decides to do
yes but skunk is all they are getting these days. homegrown is less harmful.
anyway OP has already made up her mind and good for her.

Smoking cannabis can accelerate symptoms in those people who are predisposed to psychosis. This includes symptoms such as paranoia, hallucinations and delusional thinking.

Other people just waste their life away on this drug - it is known as the 'I can't be arsed drug'. Long term users often find it difficult to get motivated to do things.

well there is a lot of misinformation out there in all areas, that is true maryz.
I know what you are saying and that you have some personal experience of this.

If you grow your own, even one plant you can face a jail sentence. It is very hard to persuade the police you aren't intending or actually supplying.
If your ds gives any of the plant to his friends he is supplying.
So it is entirely up to you.
If you live in the country you may get away with it, we had a neighbour with pigeons and the plant can grow from chickweed and other seeds transported by the pigeons.
They were quite old and had this humungous plant in their garden. It was funny listening to them talking about not knowing what plant it was, where it had come from and "won't it be nice when it flowers". Me and dh were nearly wetting ourselves.
Surprisingly enough it vanished one night when we had a party

youill be done for cultivation - let alone possession with intent

I must say i do use my weed smoking brother as an advert for not smoking weed, he is such a nilsville, never left home, cannot get himself to work, thinks he has some special insight into life....
on the other hand the brother that was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia never touched the stuff.....

You have no power to stop your 16yo smoking weed, but will not allow a plant to be grown in your house?

You've decided where the line is, and for you it's growing marijuana in the house.

I would be mighty impressed by a 16 year old being able to nurture any plant, but then I can't even grow a sunflower

I do agree that skunk us about all there is and it just isn't like what a bit of puff used to be back in the day.

But homegrown won't replace it.It'll supplement any skunk use maybe, but it won't stop it.

Arewethereyet - we did drug test him. Guess what ? He was positive for cannabinoids. Then what ?
He has also seen a drug counsellor many times. He has tried other drugs but says he won't again - I don't really believe him though I do know he is not particularly interested in doing anything else, including alcohol. He has seen friends with drug problems like ketamine, which he tried but says he will avoid now.
I'm not justifying weed, I am against all smoking /drugs.

As maryz says, we don't ' let' them , we just try to manage the situation and in my case, hope he grows out of it.

Really? Such hysteria over some homegrown weed?

I used to sneak out and go to older boys houses to get stoned and worse. If my parents had been less strict I may not have lied so much to them and ended up hanging around dodgy people in dodgy places and taking risks I cringe about now.

Teenagers have got stoned for years and years and I don't see the big issue if it is an occasional thing and doesn't lead to it being used every day.

I thought MNers were a wise old bunch, but the fact that someone you still buy into this weed is bad propaganda is shocking saddening.

Weed is not harmful. I believe that it can speed up psychosis in those already a risk of it, but it doesn't cause it.

I see family members suffering with chronic pain and cancer and it pains me to think that there is a plant out there that could help but they won't even entertain the idea because of the lies they have been fed.

A friend of mine (whose son has fortunately grown up to be a respectable citizen!) used to "fertilise" his "tomato plants" with weed killer.

i freak out more about pills powders and spirits tbh, they are truly scary...

Maryz, I didn't say it was 'my' achievement, I have four kids over the age of 17 and realise they don't always do what I want.

Other things were up for discussion but drug taking wasn't. They used to go to a private school overseas where all the kids were randomly tested for drugs, I am not the only one with a zero tolerance for drugs.

My dad dealt drugs throughout my childhood. I used to accompany him. On his 'business' trips. I can't stand drugs.

I am not fussed about adults smoking pot but it's really stupid for teens to do it. Most are fine but when it goes wrong it goes really wrong.