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What has been your experience? Looking for advice

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Parkzy87 · 26/08/2024 10:07

Hello everyone, I am expecting a backlash so I'm buckled in ready, but please if you agree with surrogacy or not don't leave negative comments. What has everyones experience been with surrogacy? I am a male IP.
I know it's not pre set for time line or costs but how long has it taken people to meet a surrogate and what was the total cost. What agency did you use? And what advice/information did you wish you knew at the beginning.

Thank you

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cansu · 30/11/2024 12:02

It is wrong to deliberately have a child to give it up. It is wrong to pay someone to do this for you.

arethereanyleftatall · 30/11/2024 12:04

Absolutely agree. It's a newish social contagion, very similar to trans ideology. We won't know the extent of the damage for about a decade. The 'Let everyone do whatever they want to do and fuck everyone else who is impacted' era. I have a friend very high up in the NHS who says their hands are tied until they have evidence. They need the data. So they have to wait for detransitioners and the surrogate children to speak.

Hoppinggreen · 30/11/2024 13:34

There are lots of misty eyed posts on SM of celebs with their new baby born by surrogate, no pictures of exhausted women in pain without the baby they just gestated and gave birth to though
I am looking at you Tom Daley

AnnaFrith · 30/11/2024 19:31

Alwayssomething14 · 28/11/2024 17:22

I think some posters are forgetting here that there are some absolutely wonderful women in the world who chose to be a surrogate. They aren't approached or persuaded or forced into it. They register with agencies, they do not expect payment for anything other than legitimate expenses, they do it because they want to give another couple the chance to have a family of their own. It is their choice to begin with and they are then put in contact with couples seeking help.

Do posters feel the same about egg or embryo donation? Is it wrong in those circumstances to accept another woman's child?

And adoption...those children that are no longer with the mother that they grew inside of for 9 months, do you berate those women for giving up their children? Or do you acknowledge that these women gave life and had a choice to keep it or not, or maybe they didn't have a choice due to their circumstances and the decision was made for the good of the child.

We live in a world of choice and freedom. Please stop with the exploitation script. Yes unfortunately this may happen in certain countries/families/cultures but in our modern world it's not the dark underworld some posters are making it out to be.

And yes, I have personal experience of surrogacy. A very close friend and his partner have a beautiful daughter via a surrogate. A surrogate with 2 children of her own who wanted to help a childless family. They did not know each other before. They now have a wonderful relationship. They will be forever grateful for the gift she chose to give them. She has no regrets.

Babies are people, not objects to be sold or given as gifts.

Adoption happens when for some reason a mother can't provide care to her child. Surrogacy is the deliberate creation of a child that will be removed from its mother.

Adoption happens to meet the needs of the child. Surrogacy happens to satisfy the wants of the intended parents.

AusMumhere · 28/12/2024 03:26

I'm back... (formerly known as redleaves...)
We had a wonderful Christmas surrounded by family. And yes, our surrogate was included. No one was exploited

Hoppinggreen · 28/12/2024 12:52

AusMumhere · 28/12/2024 03:26

I'm back... (formerly known as redleaves...)
We had a wonderful Christmas surrounded by family. And yes, our surrogate was included. No one was exploited

Well no more exploiting was required was it now you have got what you wanted.
If you decide to have another DC by the same route I imagine there will be.

Alwayssomething14 · 28/12/2024 14:37

Hoppinggreen · 28/12/2024 12:52

Well no more exploiting was required was it now you have got what you wanted.
If you decide to have another DC by the same route I imagine there will be.

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Seriously give it rest now. You've made your point. Some agree and some don't.

Hoppinggreen · 28/12/2024 14:45

Wasn't me that revived the thread.
I will give it a rest when people who exploit women for their own self wishes do.

AusMumhere · 29/12/2024 13:39

Hoppinggreen · 28/12/2024 12:52

Well no more exploiting was required was it now you have got what you wanted.
If you decide to have another DC by the same route I imagine there will be.

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No more exploiting?
Can you not accept that a woman did this of her own free will and desire. No exploitation occurred

Hoppinggreen · 29/12/2024 15:53

No

AusMumhere · 29/12/2024 19:42

Thats really sad that you can't see the generosity and love within a family

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